Questions & Answers

To answer one person's question why arn't we married..... He hasn't asked. When i fell pregnant and said im a bit uncomfortable not being married he replied with "i woud love to get down on my knee and ask you to marry me but i can't now because it looks like im just marrying you because your having my baby". We both didn't expect this to really happen this quickly. we honestly thought we would have to do IVF when i'm 25. So things just moved a little fast for him to get his bottom into gear i believe. I know we will get married i'd say next year.
Yes of course we live with each other. We have our own place and also two animals (Our first babies)
Most of our reasoning has been because i was told i most likely would be infertile and i've always wanted to have kids. So im really proud of him that he maned up and actually agreed to doing this as in a few more years i might not get that chance. Thanks for some of the lovely posts made me feel alot better

i'm not married & currently 25w+5d with my 2nd baby.. i don't think anyone should be able to put you down for not being married. although i guess it might depend if you are a certain religion?? i'm from australia & i had one person crack it at me for being unmarried, although she was from america, alot of my friends had a huge go at her because she didnt understand that i do not ever plan to get married because i don't want to and also because it's not forced apon australians as much as it is in other parts of the world. do what you and your partner think is best. i honestly wouldn't want to see a couple get married just because other people think they should. best to wait until your ready/decide to/can afford to. i think personally a wedding with your own children in it would be more meaningful.. all the best hun

I think that it is perfectly OK to have a baby out of wedlock! You both can be happy together for the rest of your life and never be married! Being married doesnt mean you'll be together for the rest of your lifes... my dad has been married 3 times. The peice of paper that says your married does have advantages, like taxes and every thing he owns is now yours, and easier to buy bigger things like a house or car.... but if you both have been together for 4 years, 3 more years and you can get those benifits anyways without actually getting married! If you and your BF are happy and are commited to each other then having a baby without getting married is just fine! Its your life! and as long as you are both happy and you both Love that baby unconditionally then I dont see anything wrong with it! I would tell all your coworkers that it really is none of there buiness and that you are happy and cand probably happier then most married couples! and that the baby will be raised with love!

I think that it is perfectly OK to have a baby out of wedlock! You both can be happy together for the rest of your life and never be married! Being married doesnt mean you'll be together for the rest of your lifes... my dad has been married 3 times. The peice of paper that says your married does have advantages, like taxes and every thing he owns is now yours, and easier to buy bigger things like a house or car.... but if you both have been together for 4 years, 3 more years and you can get those benifits anyways without actually getting married! If you and your BF are happy and are commited to each other then having a baby without getting married is just fine! Its your life! and as long as you are both happy and you both Love that baby unconditionally then I dont see anything wrong with it! I would tell all your coworkers that it really is none of there buiness and that you are happy and cand probably happier then most married couples! and that the baby will be raised with love!

Can you explain why you and the baby's father aren't engaged or married? I think couples that aren't married can still raise happy/healthy children but I just wonder why you guys aren't taking that step first. To me, having a child is a HUGE commitment and it's a little odd to me that you're both willing to make that commitment without committing to each other in marriage first. If one of you isn't feeling ready to be married, I would wonder how that person is ready to have a child. That's really my only concern about your situation.

Are you and the father living together? Do you plan to get married later? Of course marriage is no guarantee that a couple will stay together but I think its a step that signifies that you both intend to be together long term.

As long as you guys have a good reason for not getting married first, I'm sure you'll be fine. I know plenty of people who have had a child out of wedlock but as far as I know, the babies weren't planned.

I think all babies should be born in a healthy, happy family. I also think not all healthy, happy families are married couples. As long as you both are in it for the long haul with each other and your baby, I think you're in a good spot. Tell them to mind their own business.

No not at all...all couples are different. You guys can always get married after the baby or when ever you all feel is the right time for you both. As long as you guys love each other that's all that matters! Who cares what anyone else thinks...it's what you guys think is best for your relationship. I feel as long as you all discuss it at some point of time and you know that marriage is the future it's okay. I wish the best for your pregnancy and relationship...hope I could help:)

I'm also having a baby out of wedlock.. although me and the dad are engaged we havent set any dates as of yet. I think everyone will always have their oppinions and from experience some are worse than others! I think 4 years is a long time (me and my DF have only been together 5 years) and if you and your boyfriend are happy with your situation then who cares? I know that when my DF announced to his family that we were expecting a baby the first thing his father said was.. "you's better get married quick then!" however I know my mum got married to my dad just because they were having a baby and now they are divorced and dont talk to each other! People will judge but you have a healthy, happy baby on the way and thats what matters :) xx

Love! its 2012, having a child out of wedlock is not a big deal. People are always going to judge you and put in their comments and opinions, but as long as your happy who cares...