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Q: Surrogacy

I tried for 9 years to conceive naturally. Nothing worked. I was living with a feeling that I'll conceive soon. But after 9 years, I finally came to reality. I came to know that nothing's gonna change anything here. So I did some research on this. I finally found the perfect clinic. It was giving several packages for the whole process. One best thing was It's safety procedures. Moreover, all the doctors were so kind and helpful. I was much relieved after seeing the complete documentation. I can't explain the feeling I had when I held my daughter for the first time in my hands. I'm truly grateful for her. But still, there is a void. I still think sometimes that it would be better if I conceived myself. I don't have any differences with my 2 weeks old baby. But I'm afraid that I'll have some when she'll be grown up girl. I'm worried about the feeling I have. So anyone of you experienced the same thing? How did you get over it? Some motivation would be great in this regard.

This question was asked Feb. 26, 2018 3:30am
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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 17, 2018 2:29pm

Yes, they gave allot of packages. I know about it. It's very great for you that you choose the package. Don't worry, She is not going to do anything like that. I don't know why you are feeling like this. You were unable to do it naturally. That is why you choose it. You don't have to regret this. It's totally fine.

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Answered by Akane966 - Mar. 17, 2018 1:32pm

i'm new here.I'm from Japan.We moved to Europe to find our heaven.Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters.
Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i'm infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine.
In ukraine we found a very good clinic.
We are so excited and happy.
Feedback and suggestions much admired.

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Answered by EmilyRossum - Mar. 13, 2018 5:38pm

Hi there. I am so happy that your wish got fulfilled. I also got my baby from surrogacy who's now 5 years old btw. And it's okay to feel like maybe it's going to affect him/her when he/she grows up. But that's just us overthinking. I used to feel the same. Natural pregnancy is, of course, a blessing. But we didn't have a choice here. Though it's hard after all they're our children. We should be proud of them. So don't be stressed about it at all. She's your daughter and will be forever. Surrogacy was just something that helped you achieve it. You don't need to worry about anything anymore. We as mothers already have a 24/7 job. Just focus on giving her the best life and keeping her healthy and sound. Good Luck.

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Answered by Blessed75 - Mar. 13, 2018 2:28pm

Dear Hattie, the story of infertility here is not different for any mother. No matter the couple a TTC for one year or a decade the grief is the same. My experience of infertility was not different either. Thanks to the clinic in Ukraine that found out the real solution for me. Their professional help and guidance was not less than a miracle for me. Surrogacy was the real blessing for me. I hope that soon you will overcome the undue fear and apprehensions.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 13, 2018 12:37pm

Yes I think you should go for surrogacy. It's a very good method. See you already waited 9 years. 9 years is a way long time. I think it's time for you to live now. You just need to be happy. Just go for the surrogacy. It is going to be the best for you. Just be happy dear. Always try to be calm.

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Answered by jennyjoe - Mar. 12, 2018 1:58pm

Hello dear! I think it's understandable what you feel. Nothing beats natural pregnancy. I too got my child through surrogacy. However, don't be disheartened. You have an amazing daughter to look after and nourish. I'm sure. Stop thinking too much about what could have been and rather focus on the now. You may regret it later. As for the feeling not going away, I don't think it's likely that you keep having this thought. Given that you are not always purposely thinking about it. Give it some time. Look at your baby and admire her flaws, her perfections. She needs you! Best of luck!

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Answered by saramccartney123 - Mar. 11, 2018 5:30pm

Hey. Your story is so motivational. But nine years is such a long time. My husband and I tried to conceive for three years. I accepted just after three years that it wasn't going to happen for me. I knew I wasn't going to get pregnant. I got our tests done. We got to know that the problem was with both of us. So we decided to choose surrogacy to have a baby. We were unsure at first. But, when we met with the doctor I felt so satisfied. The clinic was great overall so we applied for surrogacy there. They took three months to find me a surrogate. That was the most difficult time for me. But they did eventually. Fast forward to nine months later, I had my son. The most adorable and beautiful baby boy. I love him so much.

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Answered by RihanaSam - Mar. 11, 2018 2:55pm

I guess you are fine.
Dear i also had a number of complications and problems while getting pregnant.
I conceived for three times but resulted in miscarriage every time.
Now i'm marries for the second time and my husband wants a baby from me.
I told him every aspect regarding my pregnancy issues.
I persuaded him to go for surrogacy option as well.
I guess you also should go for surrogacy method as it is most common now adays.
You should definitely have a baby via surrogacy also you are a tv model so surrogacy will be best for you.
I researched about surrogacy and found it quite helpful for those mothers who can't have a baby from their own womb.
So if you want a baby and want to keep it a secret as well then this surrogacy method is good option for you.
I'm just sharing my thoughts with you regarding surrogacy.

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Answered by Amelia - Mar. 8, 2018 11:03am

Hattie Adams don’t be afraid of it. it’s a time to make celebrations of your kid. That’s so sweet to both of you. just forget those moments. feel these moments with lively heart and cheerful smile. You know what common mistake we people do.? We shout when we don’t get anything or being waited for something to get. Once we get desired things we began to think about future. Means we just live in our past and future. Why we make our present worthless.?

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Answered by EmilyRossum - Mar. 7, 2018 6:42pm

Hi, Hattie. Congratulations on your baby. And it's okay to have a few doubts. My sister went through it too. She used to worry all the time. But honestly it's all going to be okay. Just be thankful for the baby. And don't take too much stress as that would affect the baby too. Much love

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