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Asked by sally28

Q: IVF or adoption?

Hi everyone. I hope everyone is fine. I recently came to know that I am infertile. I have been tried to conceive for the last 3 years. I took some medicines and every possible treatment to conceive naturally. Nothing seemed to work for me. I am now frustrated. I don't want to go through this pain now. I want to end this misery. I want to have a baby. I want happiness in my life. I am thinking of choosing an alternative now. But I am confused. I don't know what should I do. Should I go for surrogacy? Or adoption is a good way too? What do you guys suggest me?

This question was asked Apr. 8, 2018 12:22pm
Category: Pregnancy Complications

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Answered by tenny99 - Jun. 24, 2018 7:51pm
Hi. Hope you are good? Infertility is very difficult to face. I am sorry about your problem. parenthood is a gift. Feeling to become a mother is the best feeling in the world. This can only feel an infertile woman. Every couple wants to hold their own children. when you come to know that you are infertile, worst moment ever. You can think about surrogacy as well. You will have your own child. best wishes and prayers.

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Answered by tressalee - Jun. 24, 2018 7:47pm
Hi. Hope you are fine? I am really sorry to know about your miscarriages. You had faced for a long time. It is hard to face. Please don't worry there are other options. for your situation surrogacy is the best option. You can opt for that. Good wishes.

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Answered by FeliciaRay - Jun. 24, 2018 6:44pm
Hello, I totally understand how you feel and I'm sorry to hear that. I have been through the same I was confused in between IVF, surrogacy, and adoption. It got so confusing and frustrating for me. My husband has been very supportive of everything we had been going through. I opted for surrogacy because it was reasonable and well I was desperate in wanting a baby with my own genes so I was continuously in favor of surrogacy so we opted for that. It worked out for me on the first try. I hope it'll work out for you too if you choose it. But I think what matters is what you want so decide accordingly. Lots of love and luck to you my friend. Cheers!!

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Answered by roseleslie32 - Jun. 24, 2018 1:10pm
Hi, I can totally understand you, Unexplained infertility is frustrating. I would suggest you go for surrogacy instead of IVF treatments as surrogacy has a very high success rate. I went through IVF treatments too but it didn't work for me because it is dependent on your body's response and based on luck. IVF was painful too but what scared me more was the outcome and unfortunately, it was negative. I didn't go for the second round and then my doctor suggested me surrogacy and now I am a mother now. Surrogacy is way better than adoption because you get to have your own child of same blood and genes. Best of luck! xx

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Answered by emma_grey - Apr. 11, 2018 1:58pm
Hi. I am good, and I hope you are also doing good. So sad to hear about your infertility. You are going through very tough time. but good to know that you are a very strong woman. Because it requires a lot of patience and courage to deal which such situations. Conceiving is always a big issue, mostly for new couples, Because of less experience. It's rear that someone gets success in their very first try. But there are always alternative ways. people preferred to go for adoption because there were not absolute solutions for infertility issues. Now there are more and better ways to conceive. Science has suggested treatments like IVF and surrogacy. surrogacy has benefited many infertile ones, in recent few decades. So, people prefer to go for surrogacy, instead of adoption. Having your own baby is always better than adopting someone’s baby. There is no guarantee that adopted child will always be with you forever. So, my suggestion is to go for surrogacy. I hope this will work for yo

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Answered by babylove14 - Apr. 9, 2018 11:24pm
I agree with the previous post, however, I would chose IVF first. I say this only because you said you have problems conceiving. If the baby is already conceived, you might carry it just fine. If I had problems carrying a baby, then I would go for adoption or surrogacy. The down side to that is you risk more time lost and disappointment if it doesn't work. Like the previous response, they all have pros and cons. I would definitely recommend you and your husband consult a fertility specialist or some sort of expert and have them help you decide what is best you. Good luck in whatever you choose!

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Answered by Pamela123 - Apr. 9, 2018 5:45pm
Hey there hope you are fine. I totally depend on you and your husband. Adoption and surrogacy both are good and has pros and cons. I will choose surrogacy because of the reason that the baby will be my own biological child. You should talk with your husband and decide calmly that what you want to choose. Good luck

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