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Q: Is it in bad taste to have a second shower for second baby with same sex as the first baby?

I used to think that it was distasteful to have another baby shower for a second pregnancy with a baby that is the same gender as in the first pregnancy, especially if the babies are only a couple years apart. Because you should have everything you need from the first pregnancy already, unless you were not planning for a second child and got rid of your baby stuff, right? But then my sister had a second shower for her second son after her first son turned three and it was really so much fun! What are your opinions about this? When someone has a baby shower for a second baby that is the same sex as the first, do you think they are acting in bad taste? I would like to have a baby shower, not for the gifts, but just the celebration part for the new baby. I was thinking about having a welcome home party for the baby after it is born instead of a shower. But what do you think? I had a cousin tell me it was in bad taste to have the second shower, but lots of people disagree I guess? Thanks!

This question was asked Aug. 23, 2012 8:23pm
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Answered by Chelley131 - Sep. 7, 2012 3:33pm

I don't think it's strange at all. It's more of a Celebration to welcome a new baby! Instead of "baby shower" people call it a "baby sprinkle" and instead of gifts just ask guests to bring diapers! I bet you don't have an of those left from the last pregnAncy. Lol. Congrats!

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Answered by kristy415 - Aug. 27, 2012 11:24pm

OMG I had the same exact question. I have a 3 year old daughter and now we are expecting another baby girl. I did not save anything from my daughter and so hubby and I have to start all over. So I was thinking about having another baby shower but then I started talking to other people and they were saying that baby showers are for the first baby only. So I don't think I will do a shower for this little one.

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Answered by a member - Aug. 24, 2012 3:48pm

I agree that the wording 'baby shower' is kind of associated with a cash-grab thing, where people really expect them to be about the presents. Most of my friends are pretty poor, so we're having a 'welcome baby' party instead. I think that's nice for any child, as long as you make it clear it's not about the gifts.

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Answered by a member - Aug. 24, 2012 11:14am

I agree that the invitations should specify that no gifts are expected/required, just to make sure you don't get people thinking negative things. I personally find most baby showers I have attended to be cash grabs where you eat a few finger sandwiches in exchange for dropping $20 or more on a gift. I am not having one at all even though it's my first baby as a lot of my family are unemployed or in tough times right now, and they would feel ashamed of not being able to afford a gift. We will have a get-together once the baby is born, with a "best wishes only" invitation.

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Answered by Dientje - Aug. 24, 2012 9:02am

This, in my opinion, is rather strange. Shouldn't every baby be welcomed into the world, no matter if it is the first, second or fifteenth?
Or is a baby shower just to collect gifts? I think it is distasteful to throw a party just for the gifts, no matter what kind of party.
Ah well, maybe I just don't understand the concept, we don't have babyshowers around here. People come to see the baby, and usually bring a small gift to celebrate the new life. Some couples do decide to have "party", but that is usually just for conveniece, to "have it all over with in one big go".

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Answered by a member - Aug. 23, 2012 10:57pm

I think it's in bad taste to have a second baby shower, but if you word it like Maggie22 i like that idea. I wouldn't word it baby shower it makes you sound greety.

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Answered by maggie22 - Aug. 23, 2012 10:09pm

A baby shower is about celebrating the new baby!! Not about wanting gifts. I dont think it is bad taste at all to have a baby shower for every pregnacy. Just write on the invites that there is no need to bring a present and you just want to celebrate baby with your friends and family. People who want to buy you a present will buy you one anyway! I personally love shopping for baby shower gifts and couldnt care less if it was my friends sixth baby lol.

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