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Baby showers are really unheard of over here in UK. Its only just been done by a few select people I know just in the past couple of years.
Iv never had one and im due my second baby this June.
My family mainly just buy gifts (usualy clothes) and come to visit the baby after its born, thats just the done thing.
Maybe you could opt for something like that instead?

And another thought-- yes I agree that you shouldn't feel obligated to do anything you're uncomfortable with, but having a baby often means having to find a happy medium with in-laws and extended family (who gets to see baby when, how much they are involved, etc.) and I think compromising over a baby shower is a good way to start practicing. Just my two cents.

I'm really on the fence about this one. On the one hand I can understand NOT wanting a party, since I also hate being the center of attention at parties. I think your comfort level should be factored into this, since it is your baby and you would be the one having to attend.

I do, however, think there is room for compromise here. I think that by saying you absolutely DO NOT want a baby shower you might really be missing an opportunity to share an experience with your family. For a lot of families baby showers are their way of feeling included and helping to get ready for a new baby (since for the most part they aren't super involved).

Perhaps you could have a talk with whoever seems to be in charge to make it as comfortable/non-awkward for you as possible? Like cutting down the guest list, requesting no presents (or perhaps something like everyone brings a favorite children's book instead of a present?) and otherwise making it a more low-key event.

Maybe you could just have a baby sprinkle after baby is born. Its just a small gathering at home with family and they get to meet baby and dont shower u with gifts more of just buy stuff that is necessary such as diapers shampoos lotions no big things...baby sprinkles r used by a lot of moms who already have a first born..its a way.to celebrate a baby but just not so over the top :)

I think its completely your choice and everybody needs to just accept it whether they think its right or wrong.. They can still buy you stuff for the baby regardless, so I really dont see it as a problem, just ur own person decision which should be completely okay.. I would just still talk to everyone about the theme of the babys room and what you want and what your getting and so on, just keep them involved in everything still.. maybe even go shopping with them sometimes, maybe that will give them the opportuinity to buy you stuff, regardless if you can buy it urself or not just so they feel involved still.. good luck! :)

This is my first pregnancy and I am 30 weeks. I'm not going to have a baby shower either. Not everybody has them..

You can certainly have a shower with just that side of the family. Many new moms have separate showers, one for each side so it wouldn't be unusual at all. As well, you can have it where your husband comes with you and the males on that side attend if it makes you more comfortable.

My family is all a 21 hour drive away so we will be having a shower there a few months after baby comes. I've been in this city for 6 years now but friends have scattered and my husband doens't have much family here so I'll be skipping a shower here at home. When we baptize baby (at 2months old) we'll have a gathering of people afterwards. I'm not a huge fan of being the center of attention so have no problem skipping a shower here!

Why ruin the joy of your fiance's family in wanting to throw you a small gathering? Just because your friends won't be there? It's the thought here....not about the gifts (as you said you didn't want gifts).

It's okay not to have one, of course....but it seems like you're not wanting one because it's not people you care to spend time with.

You can't suck it up for a 2 hour party to celebrate the baby? This isn't about you....it's about your family wanting to celebrate the baby.