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Asked by KaylaBee

Q: My good friend made her Engagement party on my Baby Shower!

I've had my invites out before her and her partner even got engaged (2 months before). She said sorry and that was the only date her family was in town which is surely Hog wash because there are plenty of other months/dates to choose from since she's not getting married till next year!
I am a bridesmaid and my partner is the bestman in their wedding and im trying not to dwell over this but i think it was just plain rude. I honestly just wanted a day about me and my baby. Am i over reacting? I just feel like so many people are trying to steal my thunder. I have an extreamly jealous sister who keeps trying to turn my baby shower into a drinking catch up.HELLO! im pregnant and can't drink why would i want to hang around drunk people! Then i have an aunty who asked me to change the time because she was working and hasnt even tried to ask for it off. Where is the support guys?

This question was asked May. 8, 2013 1:50am
Category: Baby Showers

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Answered by catlover - Jun. 3, 2013 7:53pm
How can you change it when your invites are out. She is no friend at all
you better watch her around your husband. She's obviously very jealous, selfish, and doesn't care who she hurts. I know the type and think you deserve better friends. Trust me she's no friend at all

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Answered by taragaby - May. 10, 2013 8:49am
I find it really difficult to comprehend, but people seem to not want to let you have your celebration day - its teh same often in weddings - like my siblings in my wedding were not happy nor helpful at all...and yet I have been there for them... I suppose it's just a way to get back at the world for their own insecurities by not being there for you to celebrate your happiness...ur friend is a mystery though- cause she must know that any helpfulness she offers you now will be retured...

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Answered by newlywed_katie - May. 9, 2013 8:39pm
I think the best way to handle this is to tell your friend how hurt you are, but don't change your date of your shower. If you can't go, you can't go. Not everyone understands common courtesy, that is just something that comes within. It's very rude...

But also, keep in mind that not everyone can always make dates/times work. Try to be a little understanding about your Aunt, even though she asked you to change the time. She will just have to sit this one out.

Keep your head up girl! You're pregnant and that's the most exciting thing! :)


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Answered by lyssa787 - May. 8, 2013 1:31pm
you are NOT crazy my dear. I would be going mad bitch on my friends if they did that to me. I think you are handling it much better than most of us would (definitely better than myself ;) ) I think it's a good policy to talk to the person that hurt you and figure out why the heck it happened, so you can both try to prevent further mistakes, and get past it together. Because I would be finding it difficult to stand up in that ladies wedding, probably the biggest event in her life so far, knowing that she was not there to support me in my baby day - and having a baby is also another top event in life. I'm really hoping she has some good reasons for you and you guys can get past it, but if not...at least you found out now :(
As for the aunty and other family...I don't get what it is with those people!! I have issues with that too. They act like it's just a small favor, no big deal really. ummm no. It is a big deal. This is your/my/our day. We deserve to have it at any dang time :)

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Answered by kelliers - May. 8, 2013 11:26am
I don't think this will apply to her as she isn't married yet, but I struggled with baby showers when we were going through infertility and found reasons not to go or to leave early. She may have some other personal issue and might be acting out. I'm not excusing her behavior at all-I was very polite when I turned down invitations to showers and I had a good reason to leave the one I did attend early (and I at least went; it was a good friend so I felt I needed to be there for a at least a while and I also made the treats for it) but it was really difficult for me. Perhaps you should ask her if something else is going on and give her an opportunity to explain to you any person reasons why she might have behaved so poorly. If she still can't offer up an answer and an apology then I agree, she is not a good friend.

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Answered by KaylaBee - May. 8, 2013 9:29am
Oh thank god im not crazy lol Thank you :)
No we are not changing it as i have friends coming from interstate who have already booked flights so i wont be attending her engagement party. Which she knows. She also knew about my dates and just didnt care and still picked those dates and did her invitations up without asking if it was okay or anything. Oh well i just don't wanna dwell over it but i wont forget it. Not such a good mate that's for sure.

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Answered by babyboy33 - May. 8, 2013 2:30am
Nope your not over reacting at all, how selfish people can be! So are you changing you baby shower date? I would speak to your friend and explain how hurt you are, as you said she is not getting married till next year, so she should change her date or simply you just can't go!

Keep strong, head up x

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