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Asked by Luckymommyto5

Q: I feel weird about asking my friend a question.

I feel weird, for a while she was my best friend but when my boyfriend and I got together we didn't hangout as much. Living a half hour or more away from her has kinda made that happen but she and I still talk and want to hangout. She and my boyfriend are also jealous of the other because she happened to like me a lot more than just as a friend.

I'm happy I didn't lose her friendship when I announced my pregnancy to her. She's a good friend just haven't gotten to hangout much due to my taking care of my boyfriends kids, my daughter and also not having a job to pay for gas. My boyfriend is currently the only one working. We plan to move back into the city after taxes.
But getting to the point, she and I use to plan and do a lot of parties and I wonder if I should ask if she can help me with my baby shower. I'm just scared she'll say no or back down at the last minute. Would it be alright to ask or should I not bring it up to her?

This question was asked Oct. 30, 2013 10:14am
Category: Baby Showers

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Answered by Luckymommyto5 - Oct. 30, 2013 12:58pm
That's what I'm worried about, she knows if I could I'd hangout with her daily like I use to I would but I've not even been able to see my grandparents. She and I still text all the time or message on FB. More or less I'm very OCD about how I'd like to do things or have things done so it'd pretty much be her just pretty much cohosting and helping me decide on a few things. Gas has been an issue with both her and I.
I had someone who was going to do it for me but she and I are no longer friends after years of being treated like crap by her I got tired of it. She was the type to make things all about herself.

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Answered by kelliers - Oct. 30, 2013 12:40pm
Usually someone offers to do your baby shower as opposed to asking someone to do it for you. That said, in some situations I do think it's ok to tactfully ask but if it's not someone you are super close with and see regularly that might not be an appropriate request. If you can find a way to ask her that ensures she won't feel obligated and could freely decline with no hurt feelings, then I would say go for it. Just be sensitive to how she might feel about you asking (she may feel that you haven't made an effort to make time for her and yet here you are asking her to throw you a party).

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