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Asked by Amarylis13

Q: not as excited second time?

When I was pregnant with my daughter I felt so much joy. This time I don't feel that. I feel mild panic and have to remind myself I am pregnant. Is this normal for being pregnant with my second child? My daughter is turning 2 in April so I am not sure if my panic is just because she is so young still. Have other moms felt this? I feel bad that I don't have the same excitement. I will stress though I AM going to get counselling for anxiety. I just have to wait for the clinic to call me with an appt.

This question was asked Feb. 6, 2014 5:36pm
Category: Newly Pregnant

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Answered by Queenmommy0914 - Feb. 7, 2014 5:10pm
I had more of a connection with my first than with this baby :( I guess it's more exciting when it's your first because it's new. I talk to my baby sometimes but most times I feel a little disconnected and that makes me feel guilty. I'm sure when I meet her things will be different.

I play music for us when I'm feeling stressed out. That seems to relax me and helps me connect with her knowing that she can hear the music as well. I can feel her jumping around when I play it. Sounds kind of weird but it's something I do to try and spend time with her :)

Sorry about your anxiety! Anxiety is the worst! I'm sure that we'll both be fine and ecstatic when we see our little babies faces. Hang in there mommy <3

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Answered by Angela18 - Feb. 7, 2014 4:28am
I was actually going to post something like this as a question but chickened out. I'm going through this but am 5 weeks away from giving birth. Since deciding to conceive things have gotten so crazy that I hardly have time to eat and breath so I'm not really as excited as I should be and I feel like crap because of it. If you need to chat I'm here but I know what you are going through. This is my third but now with thing so nuts I'm wondering how I can possibly juggle it all and have time to just enjoy my kids and be a new mommy. I also have no family around and we live about an hour or more to anything so I just makes it that much more stressful. Sorry to vent on your question. Hope it gets better for you. ;)

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Answered by gotababylady - Feb. 7, 2014 2:05am
When I was pregnant with my second I was afraid I would not be able to love my second child as much as I loved my first. I just couldn't imagine loving another person as much as I loved my first born. I felt guilty my whole pregnancy. Then when he was born I instantly knew how wrong I was. I loved him so much. Don't worry if things feel different this time all the right feelings will come when the baby does.

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Answered by jennavee - Feb. 6, 2014 6:04pm
I'm pregnant with my second. My son is 14 months old now. I don't feel the same kind of excitement, but I think that's because the first time around you are in new territory and it's all a completely new experience! This time, I'm kind of occupied a lot by caring for my son. It's hard to imagine loving another human being as much as I do my son, but I know that when I see his face I will! I think it's perfectly normal to feel this way!
Now that I'm further along in my pregnancy and things have been a little different than my first, it's really set in and I feel my excitement growing more and more.
Best of luck to you!

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Answered by Amarylis13 - Feb. 6, 2014 6:01pm
thank you.

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Answered by hopefulat40 - Feb. 6, 2014 5:56pm
Oh goodness, glad you are going to see someone! But listen, it really is normal when you are early pregnant to start having anxiety...it's so life changing that your mind and heart just try to take in all that will be affected. I felt the same way, more so scared than anything...You can do this! Take a deep breat and allow it to sink in a bit...you will become more and more comfortable as time goes by.. :)

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