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Asked by ginabee

Q: Anyone else EVER dealt with this? Pregnancy Loss.

We had our 8 week ultrasound last Wednesday.

It turns out, we have conjoined twins that share a heart. My OB was 90% sure this was the case, and sent me to a specialist the next morning. He confirmed, and discovered their heart is outside the chest, but beating away. They have zero chance of making it to term, or surviving. They are also joined in the lower parts of their bodies, meaning they can never fully develop lower limbs.

Our family kept asking us if we were kidding, I wish we were.

I can wait until nature takes its course, but run the risk of having these babies make it to 20+ weeks, and needing to have a c-section to remove them. We decided it was best for everyone if we terminate the pregnancy instead of prolonging the inevitable, and so we can start the healing process.

This is very rare, 1 in 100,000 pregnancies or so. Has anyone else been through this or known someone who has?

This question was asked Jul. 4, 2014 7:58pm
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by babygear5 - Sep. 4, 2017 2:24pm
Hi welcome dear I am feeling pity and pain for your miscarriage problem. You should not lose hope. It is a wish of every woman to enjoy healthy baby gift to become complete mother in their life but miscarriage is demon that destroyed their dreams. There are almost 20% women face miscarriage problems in their life all over the world. I am feeling happy to help you to overcome this difficult situation on basis of my own life experience. I am living stress and depression life due to miscarriage problem. I am dying day by day due to miscarriage problem. I want to overcome this critical situation at any valuable gift with cost. We consult with the popular gynecologist of Ukraine. I want to suggest you some effective method to get maximum benefit to handle this miscarriage problem. This is golden opportunity for you to bring and leisure in your life. You should take maximum benefit from this opportunity to create win-win situation for you.
You should understand your body signal effective

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Answered by catconnell82 - Jul. 9, 2014 7:34pm
Oh my gosh I am so sorry to read ur story. My prayers are with u and ur family. Xox

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Answered by Mrs.Mom - Jul. 8, 2014 3:45pm
Oh Gina :( I'm so sorry for your loss darling. I can't imagine what you must be going through. My thoughts are with you xo

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Answered by estone - Jul. 6, 2014 4:27pm
Gina, I have never had conjoined twins, but I did have mono/mono twins, which share a placenta and a sac. If the egg would have split any later, they would have been conjoined. I ended up losing them, one at 15 weeks and the other at 18 weeks. I don't blame you for wanting to terminate and have a D & C. I couldn't deliver them, it would have just broke my heart, so I was put under anesthesia and had a D & E. I'm so very sorry for your loss. My type of twins was very rare too. I think 1 in 60,000. I was able to conceive my rainbow 7 months after our loss and then I got a surprise baby when my son was 6 months old. Please message me if you want. Hugs...

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Answered by ginabee - Jul. 5, 2014 3:47pm
Jessica - I would have to have a c-section because there are 2 of them, and they are conjoined. There is no way I would be able to deliver them vaginally.

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Answered by kaylia2oo5 - Jul. 5, 2014 2:11pm
I don't know of anyone else that this has happened to, but I just wanted to send my sympathy! I would've made the same choice as well. Best of luck Mama <3

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Answered by Jessica0319 - Jul. 4, 2014 9:38pm
And I know that doesn't always make everyone feel better just mentioning that you will have another, of course every parent wants to keep all of their children, and people that haven't went through a loss don't understand that, you are probably heartbroken, as was I, that this baby is not healthy and that they will most likely not make it. It's also a tough decision to terminate but in your situation it is for the best. I hope you have a lot of support from family and friends because it is hard to go through, I spent many night crying myself to sleep asking why would it have to be our baby? Why did something have to be wrong? It is so hard but you will get through it. I am doing great now and it's almost been 1 year since we lost our baby girl.

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Answered by Jessica0319 - Jul. 4, 2014 9:35pm
I am very sorry that this is happening to you but why would you need to have them removed by c-section? Have you had a previous c-section? I have went through a loss at 21 weeks and I terminated for medical reasons as well and we delivered our baby naturally in about 3 hours. I see why you would want to terminate now rather than wait, you're already dealing with a loss that has not even happened so you might as well start the healing on your terms. I completely understand how you feel, my situation is not the same but very similar. I am finally pregnant again after waiting 11 months after the loss of our daughter at 21 weeks. You will one day be able to conceive a healthy baby, it is hard waiting and healing from a loss but that always keeps your spirits up if you think of the baby you will one day be able to take home. Even if you have to wait a while, you will be blessed with another, and a great chance they will be perfectly healthy. If you want to chat you can msg me.

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