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Asked by alison

Q: How does your partner react to baby in womb?

My husband isn't very talkative anyway. He doesn't say much in conversation. I try to get him to feel baby move. The first time he felt her move, it didn't like and said "it's an alien - jokingly" but still don't like to put hand on my stomach to feel possible movement. I can't get him to sit and watch my belly move when she is more active. He comments that he can wait when she comes out. Is this a common experience? and what do you do to try to get him to feel more comfortable. I think it is important for baby to hear the father. Any suggestions are welcomed.

This question was asked Jul. 28, 2014 2:45am
Category: Relationships During Pregnancy

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Answered by lvlolo24 - Aug. 27, 2014 11:04pm
I guess men will be well....men. Im sure they care and are just excited for baby as we women are but its different for them. While I am not suggesting you be with a woman (LOL) my female partner is very much involved and interesting in what baby is doing constantly. She's always touching my belly to feel him move, talking to him, and sings to him. She personally doesnt ever want to carry a baby, this is as close to pregnancy she will get. GL in your pregnancy and in due time Im sure your husbands sensitive side will emerge

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Answered by Lovemybaby - Aug. 26, 2014 11:39am
I think its fear coz when my husband's sister gave birth to her baby. He feared holding her coz the baby was so light and delicate. Now that am pregnant he just fears even coming closer so that he would not hurt the baby. Though i pray when my baby starts kicking he would hold my belly to feel it.

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Answered by Tiffany01 - Aug. 22, 2014 2:55pm
yes, fathers don't feel the way that mothers does.
they can start felling about their emotion for the baby until the baby born.
so don't worry.
things will be ok, by time.

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Answered by storgers14 - Jul. 30, 2014 4:29pm
My boyfriend falls asleep every night cuddled up with me and his hand on my belly...even though he can't feel him yet, he can't wait until the day he can (hopefully soon, his kicks are getting stronger for me). I think every man/partner is different. They've all seen the movie "Alien" and well...some may find it a bit creepy?! Keep encouraging him, but don't push too hard...good luck!

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Answered by hopejosh - Jul. 30, 2014 12:51pm
My husband was the same with both previous pregnancies.

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Answered by prinder - Jul. 30, 2014 7:20am
He hasn't quite grasped that the baby isn't going to be hurt if he wants to feel about a bit; despite him having observed how hard the Ultrasound Tech had to press. I think it's generally difficult for partners (not specifically men). If not due to a lack of knowledge or from a sense of fear, than because they are likely more aware that mommy's carrying some precious cargo for both of them.

All the same, it doesn't hurt to keep encouraging them to participate wherever and however they can. I make it a point to touch my bump whenever it's just us so that he can observe what to do for himself. I think going about it this way removes some of the stress of trying something new and, as DH watches he's more likely to attempt on his own.

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Answered by Chestnutroast - Jul. 29, 2014 4:57am
I was just telling the OH about this Question and he said he did feel her move, i can't remember but he said i went on at him so much he did and found it was weird.
Haha may that's the key... Nag haha.

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Answered by Chestnutroast - Jul. 29, 2014 4:32am
My OH didn't want to touch my bump at all while i having our daughter,it creeped him out and it annoyed me that he didn't want to feel how amzing it was. My daughter is touching my tummy but she doesn't understand baby is too tiny for her to feel yet.
Think I may force him this time, it could be his last chance. He watched my tummy move and you could see Alien going through his mind hahaha. His loss for not embrassing the moment cause he won't get those chances back.
Everyone but the father of the child touched my bump to feel her moving, his patents and his brother was wanting to. My son, my parents and brother but not him.
I think they don't feel the need to and like i said creeps them out.

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Answered by lyssa7872 - Jul. 28, 2014 6:35pm
My husband is very similar as well. He'll feel her every once in a while when I ask him to move her because she's hurting me lol. Or he'll watch my belly move, but he's not very touchy feely or anything. And he absolutely will not talk to her. He was the same with our son though, who is now 10 months old, and they are best pals. So now I don't put too much stock in it :) We don't really know how much baby hears, but they might hear dads talking to us, even if it's not meant for them :P

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Answered by BabyClaire11 - Jul. 28, 2014 6:21pm
My husband is similar. He doesn't talk to our daughter, but rubs my belly quite a bit. I ask him to read a book or something to her but he just thinks it's weird and that he will read a book to her when she's born and is actually HERE.
I think it's just a little weird for them since they don't have to go thru it personally, and don't know what it's like. I'm sure once baby gets here he'll be head over heals and talk to her all the time

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