Answered by Papas~Mama - Aug. 28, 2014 6:09pm
Ultrasound is one of THE safest tools to use in pregnancy besides a Doppler(essentially the same technology), so your husband is making that up. I've done plenty of research myself and I haven't heard a single negative word about it.
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Answered by Papas~Mama - Aug. 28, 2014 6:06pm
Like everyone else has said, I don't think your problem is not having an ultrasound, your problem is having a husband that tells you you can't go to the doctor!!!?!! I think you are in a bad situation that maybe you've gotten so used to that you don't even realize it's not normal or okay. I'd contact a Hope House or some other woman's group in your area and get some professional help-without him knowing. Good luck to you and your kids, please talk to somebody.
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Answered by Chestnutroast - Aug. 25, 2014 2:09pm
Why don't you get an appointment for a blood test or urine test dine by a dr as proof.
Sorry about everything else he's sounding like a controlling man, what he's doing is infact a form of abuse but of cause him and many other ppl won't see it in that way.
As for a scan from what i've seen of other ladies scans done at this stage all that is seen is the sac and just confussed and even more worried than they was before, i find his behaviour exstremely strange as he seems concerned to not have a scan too early but Argues and causes you to be stressed which is never good for a pregnant woman.
I really don't know why but he seems to be doing the same weird controlling behaviour as ppl i have known and the behaviour only started once they become pregnant.
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Answered by eag923 - Aug. 25, 2014 2:01pm
While it is routine to not do ultrasounds until about 8-10 wks, it certainly isn't harmful to the baby to have them earlier. Early ultrasounds are routine in women with a history of complications and some drs like to do them just to verify that the pregnancy isn't ectopic. However, my concern is why your husband feels the need to dictate your medical care. Is he an obstetrician? If he's going to be like this the whole pregnancy, you've got a long 9 months ahead of you.
As far as the sex goes, if you're not interested then tell him no. If he thinks that makes you a bed wife, then so be it. From my perspective, he doesn't sound like he's being a good husband right now. Now that you're parents, life is going to change for you. Growing & raising a little human is exhausting. Life is over it as you know it, but in the most wonderful way. Just sit down & talk to him. I doubt he became this controlling overnight, so just put down some ground rules & stick to them.
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Answered by Sianny - Aug. 25, 2014 9:09am
This early on is still early to really see anything that will reassure you of your little bean or a viable pregnancy so try to wait a little longer. 8 weeks is a good starting point but if you want to know what to do in the first trimester then just make a routine drs appointment to talk things through and get advice on scans from a professional NOT the internet.
Now I'm going to be blunt but I don't wish to upset you but
if Hubby is being this controlling you need to have a serious think about your life, sorry to be harsh but no person gets to demand sex or dictate the roles of a wife either stand up for yourself or kick him out.
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Answered by prinder - Aug. 25, 2014 8:56am
Take a deep breath and have a cup of whatever drink you can keep down. At 6wks there isn't going to be much for the Ultrasound Tech to see, and it may worry you even further. You'll start to see something at around 8wks, but even then it won't look like much - to be honest, however much it's driving you up the drapes with having to wait, the closer the normal time for the first scan (usually around 11-13wks, though it can vary depending on what your OBGYN/Midwife says).
As for your DH and sex: while sex won't actually harm a baby even in the first trimester, it is vital that you get as much rest as you need so that your body can meet the high demands of making another human. Communication in this case would be for the best, and letting your DH know that it's better that sex be had earlier/at a point in the day where you aren't sleepy. Also stress that he isn't a good husband if he isn't ensuring that you're enjoying sex as well; it takes two to tango, and you can't tango tired!
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