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I have the same fears. I can't help but wanna be happy. We have wanted thus for so long, but my fears of losing a 3rd child have completely taken over. All I can say is pray. Pray that everything will be alright. Pray in thanks for all the beauty you have in your life & pray that the grace of God will get you through this. I hate that I have allowed my fear of loss to overshadow my joy & love for this child. The best we can do is embrace this young life & pray. Best of luck

I lost a baby at 14.5 weeks along. Her little heart had stopped. Delivered her that day. Very sad time for me. My next pregnancy I tried so hard not to worry. All turned out good! Keep your mind busy thinking about other things. When worry comes along, push it aside and try to think positive. GL and congrats on your pregnancy!!!

yeah what a good idea :) my mum said to me today just be grateful for the sickness tiredness and aches all over i'm lucky to just be pregnant and enjoy it ? As soon as get past certain hurdles im sure myself and OH will get very excited and wait for the news its another daughter to drive him bonkers lol x thankyou xx

The best way I've found of dealing with the fear of things going wrong again is focusing on short-term goals. One at a time. So insteand of spending endless weeks waiting for the NT scan (which revealed major abnormalities in my first pregnancy) and the anomaly scan, I focus first on my first appointment. When that is done, I can focus on getting the first blood work done. Then I focus on setting up the appointment for the NT scan. Then I focus on my second follow-up appointment. That generally gives me one "event" a week until the NT scan. It doesn't make things easier, but at least I get to obsess over different things instead of just anxiously waiting for the NT scan!

We lost our last baby at 10 weeks, he/she stopped growing around 6 weeks. We had a heartbeat and everything so we shared the news with everyone! Then our worst fears became reality and we miscarried at 10 weeks.

Now we are pregnant again. I have that fear too but I have been stopping and praying whenever those thoughts take over my mind. I am going to get excited no matter what because this is another baby and even if we do miscarry, I still was blessed to have this experience again.

Try not to worry, try to find something else to focus on. Have you been to the doctors yet? What do they say? I know chances of miscarriage are smaller after just having one...

Awww thankyou both so much for your reassurance im not being a heartless mother ! Wish I could have more regular scans not even had a dating one yet ð??? think once I do get to to 12w I will start to enjoy the sickness and sore boobs rather thsn thinking theyre fake symptoms x good luck to you both and thankyou again â?ºx

It's hard and the feeling won't go away until you get past how far along you were at your last loss then you will start to have some confidence in the pregnancy sticking. I am now 15 weeks. To ease my worries I had weekly scans up until 12weeks. That really helped as it gave me something each week to focus on instead of m/c's.
I didn't tell our 7 year old daughter until the 12week NT scan she sat in the waiting room until all the tests were completed for DS etc. OMG that moment was worth the wait. I'm sure you will get to that point. Every preg is so different and unbalanced chromosomes are the cause of 70% of m/c's.
Before this preg now. I had 4 losses in 12 mths and 3d&c surgeries. 3 of the 4 losses were missed m/c's after a heartbeat was seen. Just have some faith if I can get to this point have faith you can too. God bless praying for you xx

I found out at 12wks scan that baby measured 8 wks and the heart had stopped. I went through so much of an emotional roller coaster that I was actually the same as you this time round.
Half of me didn't want to try again for the fear but in here at 31wks, i still worry.
I took the first trimester slowly, not for fear of getting hurt but to give myself emotional room to breath through each 'worry'.
Nothing is going to stop you from worrying but there is no harm in only telling those who 'need' to know.
Over the weeks I felt a little better each day, I tried to remain logical when I had bleeding remembering that it's a common occurrence in healthy pregnancies.
I didn't expect the worst I just expected every scary symptom as if it were just like morning sickness or sore boobs.
I tried not to Google (i did though) and used proper pregnancy books to calm my worries.
Take it a day at a time, you have weeks to feel comfy and embrace this pregnancy x look after yourself