Answered by danielsmommy - Jan. 19, 2015 6:49am
Honey I'm so sorry for your loss i had a miscarriage at 6 wks back in feb 2013 i miscarried naturally so i didn't have to be induced. I was devastated bc me and my husband have been TTC for 2 yrs i was so happy to finally see that positive result i could have burst out the seams with joy. but sadly it ended in a miscarriage i. most doctors do recommend you wait at least 2 menstrual cycles to try again i we tried again after my 3rd cycle but we didn't get pregnant right away it took almost a yr to finally get pregnant again I'm now 10 wks 3 days pregnant and everything is going just fine. i had a vaginal ultrasound done at 7 wks 5 days and baby looked great i bought a fetal Doppler and I've been checking on baby in between doctor visits just to ease my fears miscarriages unfortunately are out of our control sorry for your loss and ill be praying for u.
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Answered by Bumpin4Baby - Jan. 14, 2015 4:27pm
It really is personal choice. I also had a blighted ovum and MC at 7 weeks in August. My doc told me to wait 3 cycles before trying again. We didn't though, as soon as the bleeding stopped we started trying again. I had a normal period in September and assume that I didn't ovulate. We got pregnant again in October and I am currently 15w 3d today and all is well with baby. We chose not to wait, but I will tell you that getting pregnant after a MC is ROUGH on the emotions! I was always in constant worry at first and I still do at times even though I know all is well. Good luck with whatever choice it is that you make!
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Answered by aubabylcd - Jan. 13, 2015 7:34pm
I know how emotional this process can be. And the waiting is hard, but like the others said it gives your body time to heal and for you to get back to normal to try again. I had 2 back to back MC's (the first natural the second D&C). Then it took me a few months to get pregnant after the D&C even after I waiting the 2 months and I was a mess... it was really hard. I would suggest filling your life with things for yourself. I was doing a lot of yoga... helped me emotionally. I also decided that I was too angry and upset and needed help. So I saw a therapist. Once I got my emotions back in check I got pregnant the next month. I still think about my lost loves a lot, but I promise it gets easier! Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to!
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Answered by KerriV2011 - Jan. 13, 2015 12:28pm
I fully understand what you are going thru. I experienced the same thing last April. My OB told me wait 1 cycle. Well we did and got pregnant again, same thing happened. My lining was not ready after 1 period, so again in July I had a second. We were both so heartbroken and devistated. I kept telling myself mother nature knew best. Some days it is really hard to believe. Trying to leave the Dr.'s office that day was so horrible as there were so many pregnant bellies around me. Some days I had trouble getting out of bed. Just keep telling yourself that everything will be ok and it will happen! I waited 3 cycles after the second and am now 13 weeks and everything is going good. I wish you the best of luck!
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Answered by stickybean1976 - Jan. 13, 2015 2:27am
Sorry for what you are experiencing. My first loss I was a mess. I've had 4 losses trying for number #2 in 12mths after seeing babies with heartbeats and 3 d&c surgeries. I was told to wait a couple of cycles but that's because I had the d&c and the wall linings of my wall uterus scrapped so I needed to heal. The one natural m/c I only had to wait a cycle.
It's a really hard thing to go through but so common and I figured out, it just sucks when it keeps happening. There's always hope and light at the end of the tunnel. After what I went through I'm now 25w. You'll get your rainbow in the meantime take care and talk when you need to. Where're all here to support xx
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Answered by TXkadams - Jan. 12, 2015 10:34pm
We were told that they generally recommend waiting two cycles just to ensure that you are ovulating normally. I asked if I needed to prevent pregnancy during that time and they said no, if it happened it would be fine. They just recommend the two cycles as a matter of course because it takes some women a couple of months to get a regular cycle again.
Peace be with you are yours at this difficult time. Lots of women go through MC, I felt that talking about mine with others helped me to come to terms with it. We are now expecting again, but it took a long time to conceive again. (I don't think this had anything to do with the MC or D&C, just due to my advancing age.) Even though this is a silly notion, I didn't feel like I would be over that MC until I was pregnant again. I think lots of women feel that way, so don't be surprised if you do too. Try to relax and do things for your mental as well as physical healing.
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Answered by cosmoholic - Jan. 12, 2015 8:58pm
I'm so sorry for your loss. :(
We had 3 losses before this (successful so far!) pregnancy. 2Missed MC's in 2013 (where like you we discovered at a routine ultrasound that the baby had passed sometime before), and then a chemical pregnancy earlier this year. For each, we were told to wait 1 cycle before TTC again (I had D&C surgery for each of the MMC's, the chemical was just a heavy period). I had taken misoprostol the first time around but it failed.
1 thing I found was that even if we were told that it was physically OK to start trying again, you might not be mentally ready to try again. I ended up speaking with a therapist after my first loss. It took me a while - to be ready to TTC again. It's a very personal decision.
As an aside - I spent a lot of time on the "Grief and Loss" board over at What to Expect When You're Expecting. The women there have all gone through losses and are extremely supportive. They helped me a lot.
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Answered by mnor0406 - Jan. 12, 2015 8:48pm
I'm so sorry that your baby didn't develop :-( I had 3 natural miscarriages before this pregnancy (currently 16 weeks) and I had 2 gestational sacs this pregnancy but 1 baby never developed. Once your levels are back down to 0 (negative on hpt) you can try again. My doctor said as soon as I was done bleeding I could try, but I didn't have to take anything to induce the miscarriage. Maybe the drug has some effect on how long you should wait? My best advice would be to take the time to mourn and do something relaxing. I bottled up my emotions and completely imploded after the 3rd one. Take some time off if you can to relax, get a massage, see a counselor who specializes in fertility/pregnancy loss, start some yoga, etc. Do whatever works for you.
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Answered by Papas~Mama - Jan. 12, 2015 8:01pm
I'm so sorry for your loss. I've never personally miscarried but my sister has had six miscarriages so I've seen from the outside how devastating and life-changing it can be to a person. May God be with you and bring you some sense of peace in your difficult time.
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Answered by monroezelda - Jan. 12, 2015 7:59pm
Hi so sorry to hear about your loss. I had a mc in november 2011 it was a partial molar an I was advised to have a d&c, which I had 2nd december. I bled quite heavy on an off till mid january. My periods regulated by about march 2012 an by mat I got bfp which resulted in a healthy boy. I also was told its best to wait 2 cycles, I say its personal choice b
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