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I had a miscarriage in January at 11 weeks and just found out I'm pregnant as well and I'm in the same boat as you but all I can try to do is stay positive and pray and hope for the best. Hope everything goes well for you hun.

I agree with the other ladies. You're not, not going to stress. I had a m/c in January and am now 10w5d and still worried. Had an ultrasound at 6w2d and 8w2d and now don't have one until 12w5d. When I talk about it with the people I have told (hubs, parents, in-laws and siblings) I just say "Well, I was still pregnant on 5/15/15" (when my 8w2d appointment was) and just leave it at that. Haven't had any spotting or anything but I still stress about it. I bought a Doppler and have tried it 3 or 4 times and haven't found the heartbeat but it is early, I'm overweight and not patient so I just put it away and decided to try it after my 12w5d appointment because it's not worth the stress. I am currently taking the "it is what is approach" and letting nature take it's course. It's out of my control and stressing isn't good for us or the babies inside of us.

I agree.. You just can't not worry after a loss, or at least I haven't been able to. I am 35 weeks and I do kick counts and have a fetal doppler, but if there is an hour or so that she is still (probably sleeping) I tend to freak out thinking the worst. I got pregnant after one normal cycle after my M/C at 7 weeks. I remember waking up in the morning and after wiping with no blood I would tell myself, that "today I am still pregnant". Seemed to help some. You just have to remember that it is not in your control and what is meant to be will be.

You don't I had 4 back to back m/c's in 12mths after seeing heartbeats trying for number 2 child. I was worried and nurveous the whole pregnancy. The whole time everytime I went to the toilet for 9mths looking for blood. Every ultrasound nervous. When people tell you to relax etc. that's a joke. I think you just learn to take each day as it came and I tried to not let myself get too attached or fall in love with her until she was safe in my arms and that was 6 weeks ago now. Try and stay busy and take one day at a time. Best of luck

I had my first miscarriage in February at 5w3d. It tore me too pieces. I'm now 4w2d and have anxiety. BUT I remind myself that that was that pregnancy and this one is a new one. Kinda like flipping a leaf. What will be will be and I trust my body in creating this baby. Take one day at a time and enjoy each day.

I'm 36 weeks after 3 back to back losses and I still haven't figured out how to not stress! I have a couple strategies to stress a little less...First I asked for multiple hcg blood draws to make sure my numbers were good in the beginning. I had multiple early ultrasounds up to week 12, also at my request, and everytime I saw my little baby and her heartbeat I was able to stay pretty chill for a week or 2. At 13 weeks I started using a home doppler, about $45 on ebay, and listened to her heartbeat at least every other day until I started feeling her moving everyday. It was such a relief to be able to hear her heartbeat whenever I wanted to or was feeling anxious. Now that I feel her moving all day I do frequent kick counts and have had 4 more ultrasounds during the 2nd and 3rd trimesters, so now I have had 8 and most women are lucky to get 1 or 2 the whole pregnancy...luckily my ob is very understanding of how crazy paranoid having multiple losses makes you lol

I never really found a way to not stress about it. I had two losses in 2013 and then got pregnant with my daughter in 2014. She made it full term and is now a happy healthy 6.5month old =) I'm currently 12w3d with another baby and I've still been worrying the whole time that something is going to go wrong. I try to remind myself that my body has done this once so I can do it again, but even that is not really helping.
Sorry this wasn't any help but I just wanted you to know that you're not alone, there are so many of us in the same boat. It is a scary thing, but we can do this!