Questions & Answers

I think it is an awesome idea. Even though I miscarried, we were never planning to announce it on Fbook. I am kind of tired of our entire lives being documented on social media actually. Really close people already knew and people on our Christmas card list is who I am thinking are the equivalent to your invite list for this party... and that's how we were going to tell that group of family and friends. People seem to get offended super easily so I am sure there will be SOMEONE, but you can't please everyone. But hopefully everyone will be too excited about the new little girl that is arriving soon that they would get over it. Where are you having it? I'll come party crash. ;) j/k!!

There will always be someone who is "offended" but I say do what you want to do because it's your baby and your family. I think it's a great idea and it sounds like it will be super lovely.

I think this is a cool idea. Your close family and friends know so I don't it should be offensive. I would defiantly go to something like this.

I think people will be offended that way too unfortunately. There might be friends that consider you a close friend that may not know you're expecting and could be hurt finding out that way.

I think the truth is that many people do take our decisions personally when they shouldn't, so those left in the dark likely will be hurt/offended. Whether or not that's reason enough to defy your own wishes is up to you guys and you're not wrong for doing what you want in spite of how others might receive your decision. I had two very close friends let me find out through the grapevine and that was honestly pretty hurtful. However, in both of those cases, I'd been through a lot of heavy life experiences with them. One I literally grew up with close as a sister and I was supportive during her year on fertility drugs. We were one another's maids of honor. We'd been joined at the hip since we were toddlers. I heard from a lady at church that she was finally expecting and was extremely hurt to have not been on the short list of who she told. The other was a friend I'd known since jr high and was her support through two stillbirths. I was definitely hurt to be left out in those situations.

Close friends and family know. Family meaning people who are out of state do not know and wouldn't be invited anyways. It's more so friends that don't know that would be invited.

I think with close family they'd be offended. I wouldn't tell close friends until my family knew. It's just sort of messed up.