Answered by babylove14 - Jul. 30, 2016 11:52pm
I tried to incorporate my older son into the care for my youngest son. He was OUR baby, not his replacement. He had some jealousy but also loved being mommy's helper and doing things like throwing his brother's diapers away and trying to show his 2wk old brother how to hold a ball. When he was sleeping, I'd give him his alone time with me also. Try not to worry. You can also go to the library or store and buy big sister books for her before she comes. My oldest son turned 2 three days before his brother was born and my youngest will be 2yr 8 months when i have our third. I plan on doing the same thing with him when he becomes a big brother. Trust your instincts. You know your daughter ans her needs. Just make she she still getting her attention needs and hopefully she won't be too jealous. Congratulations!
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Answered by gotababylady - Jul. 30, 2016 6:38pm
Oh man I felt just like this when I was pregnant with my second but after he was born everything just fell naturally into place. My first born was 2 and there were moments of jealously but He quickly fell in love with his baby bro and learned that I had time for them both. They are now 11 and 13 and they re best buds.
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Answered by Angela18 - Jul. 30, 2016 2:38pm
I think those are all normal feelings. I remember how I felt guilt for having another and worried how I was gonna balance it all. I also hated that it didn't feel the same as the first one. And to top it off my oldest would hit me and scream and I just cried. It took him like a week to stop being so hateful and a good year to start to come around to his sister. Lol not trying to scare you, that was my situation and he doesn't understand the same way as other kids. You worry about it each time and now I'm expecting #4 and worry about it but not as devastating as I did with the others although I'm sure I will as my pregnancy goes on. I'm sure you will do just fine and in no time you'll wonder how you ever had life without the new little one. So funny how so many of us go through that. I think it means you're a good mommy to worry about them so much :)
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Answered by nreiselpn - Jul. 30, 2016 12:56pm
I think what you feeling is completely normal I know I had those similar thoughts. I loved my first born so much how could I possibly do the same for another..... other will be tough in the beginning because you are going to be tied but soon your daughter will love your little one as her own congrats
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