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Q: Surrogacy

I tried for 9 years to conceive naturally. Nothing worked. I was living with a feeling that I'll conceive soon. But after 9 years, I finally came to reality. I came to know that nothing's gonna change anything here. So I did some research on this. I finally found the perfect clinic. It was giving several packages for the whole process. One best thing was It's safety procedures. Moreover, all the doctors were so kind and helpful. I was much relieved after seeing the complete documentation. I can't explain the feeling I had when I held my daughter for the first time in my hands. I'm truly grateful for her. But still, there is a void. I still think sometimes that it would be better if I conceived myself. I don't have any differences with my 2 weeks old baby. But I'm afraid that I'll have some when she'll be grown up girl. I'm worried about the feeling I have. So anyone of you experienced the same thing? How did you get over it? Some motivation would be great in this regard.

This question was asked Feb. 26, 2018 3:30am
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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 13, 2018 12:37pm

Yes I think you should go for surrogacy. It's a very good method. See you already waited 9 years. 9 years is a way long time. I think it's time for you to live now. You just need to be happy. Just go for the surrogacy. It is going to be the best for you. Just be happy dear. Always try to be calm.

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Answered by Akane966 - Mar. 17, 2018 1:32pm

i'm new here.I'm from Japan.We moved to Europe to find our heaven.Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters.
Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i'm infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine.
In ukraine we found a very good clinic.
We are so excited and happy.
Feedback and suggestions much admired.

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Answered by BarbaraGarman - Mar. 26, 2018 12:53am

Dear try to relax and believe that nothing is meaningless.Everything happens for our own good.It's our thinking that perhaps if I do it.this will be better.dear, think positive and it will happen greatly.Just keep your thoughts high and fight infertility.Surrogacy is the great process to have good success.I wish you have the healthy baby in future.Good luck.

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Answered by EmilyRossum - Mar. 13, 2018 5:38pm

Hi there. I am so happy that your wish got fulfilled. I also got my baby from surrogacy who's now 5 years old btw. And it's okay to feel like maybe it's going to affect him/her when he/she grows up. But that's just us overthinking. I used to feel the same. Natural pregnancy is, of course, a blessing. But we didn't have a choice here. Though it's hard after all they're our children. We should be proud of them. So don't be stressed about it at all. She's your daughter and will be forever. Surrogacy was just something that helped you achieve it. You don't need to worry about anything anymore. We as mothers already have a 24/7 job. Just focus on giving her the best life and keeping her healthy and sound. Good Luck.

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Answered by monika123 - Mar. 27, 2018 4:02pm

Hey, Hattie, you're definitely overthinking. You giving birth would have been the same case. As your embryos instead of being inserted into your uterus were inserted in a surrogate. I think you should feel blessed and enjoy these moments. As you are lucky that you were actually able to have a baby. the technology has definitely improved and has provided us with such facilities. Your daughter is biologically linked with you and I think she deserves all your love. I hope the very best to you and I hope your feelings will soon fade away.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 19, 2018 3:26pm

Well, this is not your decision to be. It's all that is written and destined. It was going to be this way even if you do anything. So just be alright and be happy. The reason for being happy is that is you are a mother now. forget about your past and move on now. I wish you be happy always.

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Answered by BrendaJohnson - Apr. 2, 2018 1:12am

Congratulations. I am very happy to know about you. Such a good news it is. :) I can understand what you are going through. But don't worry about it. You should be thankful for now you have your baby. Stay positive and strong. Don't think like that. It is your baby truly. Give the baby all the love you have. Sending love and wishes on your way. Stay strong.

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Answered by JanetJames - Mar. 27, 2018 5:11pm

Hey there. How are you doing? I hope you are doing great. I am really sorry you had to go through so much trouble. I know it must have been hard for you. I know because I have been through it. I have had surrogacy too. I feel like surrogacy is a blessing. Its a wonder of science. I was blessed with two twin boys. However, I have never felt that they were not mine. Or that I should have done it normally. I know there is mine cause I love them. I wish you good luck. Take care. Hoping to see more from you.

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Answered by EmilyRossum - Mar. 7, 2018 6:42pm

Hi, Hattie. Congratulations on your baby. And it's okay to have a few doubts. My sister went through it too. She used to worry all the time. But honestly it's all going to be okay. Just be thankful for the baby. And don't take too much stress as that would affect the baby too. Much love

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Answered by Amelia - Mar. 8, 2018 11:03am

Hattie Adams don’t be afraid of it. it’s a time to make celebrations of your kid. That’s so sweet to both of you. just forget those moments. feel these moments with lively heart and cheerful smile. You know what common mistake we people do.? We shout when we don’t get anything or being waited for something to get. Once we get desired things we began to think about future. Means we just live in our past and future. Why we make our present worthless.?

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