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Asked by Akane966

Q: Surrogacy Question

I have some questions regarding surrogacy.Shortly my story is that we are from Japan where surrogacy is totally banned.Then we moved to europe.Here we didn't found any good clinic.Than we moved to Ukraine.There we found a very good clinic.The clinic arranged a surrogate for us.She is pregnant with our two daughters.But i have few questions.Like when babies are born who will hold the baby for the first time?
Like when the baby group up what we should tell him/her about his/her birth?
Like there will be change or not in our behaviour?
Just curious about these questions.

This question was asked Mar. 25, 2018 12:26pm
Category: Pregnancy Complications

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Answered by roseleslie32 - Jul. 2, 2018 2:56pm
Hi, I am really sorry for what you're going through and I've my story to share and a piece of advice for you. I and my boyfriend were trying for a child for 3 years but nothing worked for me. I went through IVF treatments too but it didn't work for me because it is dependent on your body's response and based on luck. IVF was painful too but what scared me more was the outcome and unfortunately, it was negative. I didn't go for the second round and then my doctor suggested me surrogacy and now I am a mother of a beautiful baby girl. I would suggest you go for surrogacy instead of adoption because through surrogacy the baby will have your blood and genes which is not in the case of adoption. I hope you try it and it works for you. Best of luck and prayers for you!

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Answered by TaylorF - Mar. 30, 2018 6:47pm
I agree that there are very few clinics that we can opt for. Well, there are many clinics treating infertility. However, only a few clinics are affordable yet professional. I went for surrogacy there, too. Oh, my god, your post made me remember when we were waiting for our baby. The surrogate mother was PG with our baby and it was such an exciting time! Like you, we also had a number of questions. We were worried about certain things. Especially the fact that when we bring the baby back to our country it might cause problems because surrogacy isn't legal in ours yet. We were also worried about what we'd tell our baby. But as time passed and our baby finally came into this world, we forgot all our worries. Trust me, it will all work out smoothly. The only thing you should worry about is to ensure that you're legally protected to keep the baby as yours. Legal procedures mustn't be ignored. Other than that, just think of names for your daughters and enjoy!

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Answered by EmilyRossum - Mar. 29, 2018 7:28pm
Hey there. I am so happy for you. And it's normal to have those questions in your mind. But how does it matter who hold the baby first. The baby is still going to yours. He's going to stay with you. The surrogate was just way for you to reach to it. So don't let these things distract you. Just be happy. It's going to be a very special moment for you guys. Hope you'll enjoy it, x

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Answered by racheliqua - Mar. 29, 2018 4:31pm
Hey, everyone! I've also been to one of the Ukrainian clinics.I must tell you it's the best one.I found it with a lot difficulty.But I got the fruit of my hard work.I'm currently conceiving a child through IVF.And it's all because of my clinic.All the doctors are so supportive.If some of you can go check it out.Good Luck

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Answered by eva890 - Mar. 29, 2018 3:28pm
Hello. Hope you're doing well. There's no need to worry this much. It'll all be fine. Surrogacy is safe and you shouldn't worry, you'll be the one making the decisions. You need to relax. It'll all go just fine. Relax and good luck with everything!

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Answered by jennyjoe - Mar. 29, 2018 3:22pm
Hi there! You've been through a lot regarding this. However, surrogacy is a great option. I think it'll all be worth it in the end. As for your questions, I think it's best to take the time you have and think deeply about it. There are no set rules you need to follow. Let things go at their pace and do what feels right at the moment. With surrogacy, the child is biologically yours. I don't think the child will feel too alone once he/she finds out. Good luck with everything!

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 29, 2018 2:57am
You could stand right there in the room. You are the one who is going to hold them for the first time. Of course, you let the surrogate hold them after that. It's alright and nothing to worry about. Just don't think much of it. It's not a problem at all.

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Answered by RihanaSam - Mar. 27, 2018 6:10am
I also have the confusions in my mind.what to do when we have our baby via surrogacy.I have seen a lot of videos regarding this topic.But i haven't got answer to my questions.
Actually i am also infertile and i am thinking of going towards surrogacy.
Surrogacy is now a days a common method of having a baby for those women who can't have a baby out of their own womb.
I'm 43 years old now and i have also no luck with babies too.
Now i am married for second time and i am thinking of having a baby again.
But the miscarriages from my last married life make me afraid and stops me getting pregnant again.
I persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy option.
As from my first marriage i had no luck with having a baby.
I had many complications while getting pregnant.
I conceived for three times but always resulted in miscarriage.
I consulted a number of clinics related to surrogacy.

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