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Asked by sally28

Q: IVF or adoption?

Hi everyone. I hope everyone is fine. I recently came to know that I am infertile. I have been tried to conceive for the last 3 years. I took some medicines and every possible treatment to conceive naturally. Nothing seemed to work for me. I am now frustrated. I don't want to go through this pain now. I want to end this misery. I want to have a baby. I want happiness in my life. I am thinking of choosing an alternative now. But I am confused. I don't know what should I do. Should I go for surrogacy? Or adoption is a good way too? What do you guys suggest me?

This question was asked Apr. 8, 2018 12:22pm
Category: Pregnancy Complications

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Answered by saramccartney123 - Oct. 16, 2018 7:15pm
You should ask this question from yourself and your husband. You don't want to make a decision any of you might regret later. See what you people want. I went with surrogacy because I wanted a child who had my genes. This was important for me. But that doesn't mean adopting wasn't good enough. Its really about what you want.

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Answered by leslie22 - Aug. 26, 2018 8:23pm
Hey there! I am so sorry for your pain. This can be a very tough time to get through. I can imagine. I wish you didn't have to face this. However, please stay strong. I know its hard, but you need to. It's a good thing you're willing to look into your options. Surrogacy and adoption both are great methods to get your happiness. I think they cost around the same as well? In the end, it really is up to you then. If you feel you'd prefer a biological connection to your child more, then surrogacy is the obvious way. There are great clinics in Europe. They are budget-friendly too! I wish you all the best!

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Answered by VeronicaStrafford - Aug. 4, 2018 4:26pm
Hi Sally. Infertility can be hard. I was diagnosed as infertile too. I can feel what you are going through. Infertility not only broke me but it also broke my husband too. Due to our bad mental health our marriage suffered too. We have seen some bad times. Although adoption is good. You are giving home to an orphan but it has its own complications. Adopting is a very hard process. It could take months for the authorities to allow you to adopt. Even after adoption you will have to face many problems. The adopted child will take a lot of time to warm up to you and can have serious health issues as well. I chose surrogacy and got pregnant. So i can say that pregnancy is the best feeling ever. I will recommend you to go for IVF. But, choose your clinic wisely. Make sure their services are professional. My first experience with a clinic named L***s didnt go well because the clinic i emailed never replied even though i kept mailing them for months. How unprofessional. IVF is the answer.

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Answered by Martina65 - Jul. 8, 2018 12:53am
Hello! Sorry to hear about your infertility. As a mother, I can feel your pain. Infertility is the worst thing for a lady. But it is a positive thing that you are not losing hope. Adoption is a good thing. But you cannot get a child of your own genetics. If you want a baby of your own genetics then surrogacy is the best option for you. Nowadays it is common to get a child through surrogacy. It is the safest way of completing your family. So I would suggest you go for surrogacy. It is the best option available to you. There are many good clinics in Ukraine. I hope you would get positive results. My all best wishes to you. God bless you.

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Answered by nathalie34 - Jul. 8, 2018 12:02am
Hello there. I am sorry that you are having such a hard time. I know it can be very disappointing not to have something most of us have been dreaming all our lives. I do not know what sort of infertility you are facing. But it is good to see you looking into other options.
IVF, surrogacy and adoption are amazing options for couples facing infertility. However, each one as its pros and cons. I think if you want to have your own child adoption would be completely ruled out. IVF really depends on the type of infertility you are facing. But it is also a very long and painful process. So, if you feel like you do not want to go through the long process of IVF, then surrogacy is an ideal option as well. However, it is necessary that you have complete understanding of the process. Also, it would be best that you do a thorough research on the clinic you want to go for. There are numerous clinics in Ukraine, some are very good, while others just seem like scams. Best of luck.

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Answered by ameliabrown2018 - Jul. 7, 2018 10:13pm
Hey Sally, hope you are doing good. I will recommend you to give surrogacy a shot. If unfortunately it wont work then you can adopt. Adoption will be open afterwards. But you ll never regret that you never tried.
Please be brave, dpnt give up. I myself have suffered alot. I am 36 and have no kids. I have been TTC for so long now. I have no other hope than surrogacy.So I am trying to settle things with a clinic in Ukraine and then go for treatment. As I live in Ireland so I cannot visit clinics by myself. unfortunately I was trying to get in touch with Lotus clinic. And that clinic was a wrong choice. They wasted my months and at the end they were so harsh and rude that I have decided to switch clinic.

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Answered by BellaJones - Jul. 7, 2018 9:50pm
Hey there. How are you doing? I hope its all great. I am really sorry to hear about your issue. I know it must be hard. Dealing with infertility is not easy. I have been through it oo. It really disturbs your life. If you want to concern yourself then you should defiantly go for ivf. It's really a blessing to have ivf. You should give it a try. I hope you get what you want. Take care and lost fo love. I wish you good luck.

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Answered by pragnan - Jul. 7, 2018 3:43pm
hey there! I hope you are doing great. IVF is a great method. a lot of people go for it. people who struggle with different infertility problems. problems like PCOS. it is a big problem in women of age 17-35. and it can lead to infertility. infertility is a big problem. and the best treatment is IVF. it is although a little painful process. surrogacy comparatively is a better solution. it is more convenient. but it is banned in so many countries even today.

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Answered by JanetJames - Jul. 7, 2018 7:14am
Hey there Dear. How are you doing?? I hope its all great. I am really sorry to hear about your pain. I know it must be hard. Dealing with infertility is not easy. I have been on this road too. I am infertile too. Lots the ability to give birth a year ago. It was getting very hard. I went for surrogacy. I hope everyone goes for it. Take care and lots of love. Please be strong and positive. THinsg will workout. I am sure.

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Answered by Amelia - Jul. 6, 2018 6:09pm
hello sally28!!! It’s so sad. I know when a woman hears this kind of words how she feels. She feels like someone has told her that you are waste. Your positions are nothing else a straw. But you have to stand with patience. Try to be more courageous and brave. In this critical condition, there are many ups and downs in life. Aww so innocent. Both has its pros and cons. First thing is cost. Adoption is cheaper than surrogacy. adoption takes less time to choose the baby. while surrogacy takes much time. in surrogacy, baby contains your own family genes properties.

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