Log In | Sign Up Now | Help & Support
Need Advice? Ask Your Question

Questions & Answers

Category: Pregnancy Complications

Asked by sally28

Q: IVF or adoption?

Hi everyone. I hope everyone is fine. I recently came to know that I am infertile. I have been tried to conceive for the last 3 years. I took some medicines and every possible treatment to conceive naturally. Nothing seemed to work for me. I am now frustrated. I don't want to go through this pain now. I want to end this misery. I want to have a baby. I want happiness in my life. I am thinking of choosing an alternative now. But I am confused. I don't know what should I do. Should I go for surrogacy? Or adoption is a good way too? What do you guys suggest me?

This question was asked Apr. 8, 2018 12:22pm
Category: Pregnancy Complications

Answer This Question
Answered by leslie22 - Aug. 26, 2018 8:23pm
Hey there! I am so sorry for your pain. This can be a very tough time to get through. I can imagine. I wish you didn't have to face this. However, please stay strong. I know its hard, but you need to. It's a good thing you're willing to look into your options. Surrogacy and adoption both are great methods to get your happiness. I think they cost around the same as well? In the end, it really is up to you then. If you feel you'd prefer a biological connection to your child more, then surrogacy is the obvious way. There are great clinics in Europe. They are budget-friendly too! I wish you all the best!

344 out of 668 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by Isla28 - Jul. 5, 2018 5:38pm
Hi, Neither IVF nor any other thing. I would suggest you go for surrogacy. Surrogacy is best for infertile couples. IVF is also a good method. But, it is too painful. It is also very expensive. Surrogacy is less painful. It is also cheaper as compared to other. Surrogacy is mostly successful. I had also a baby through surrogacy. I was suffering from fatigue injury. I was trying to conceive. My family was not accepting me. But my husband assisted me a lot. Then I visited Europe for Surrogacy. Now, I have a baby.

223 out of 433 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by Amelia - Jul. 6, 2018 6:09pm
hello sally28!!! It’s so sad. I know when a woman hears this kind of words how she feels. She feels like someone has told her that you are waste. Your positions are nothing else a straw. But you have to stand with patience. Try to be more courageous and brave. In this critical condition, there are many ups and downs in life. Aww so innocent. Both has its pros and cons. First thing is cost. Adoption is cheaper than surrogacy. adoption takes less time to choose the baby. while surrogacy takes much time. in surrogacy, baby contains your own family genes properties.

351 out of 683 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by FeliciaRay - Jun. 24, 2018 6:44pm
Hello, I totally understand how you feel and I'm sorry to hear that. I have been through the same I was confused in between IVF, surrogacy, and adoption. It got so confusing and frustrating for me. My husband has been very supportive of everything we had been going through. I opted for surrogacy because it was reasonable and well I was desperate in wanting a baby with my own genes so I was continuously in favor of surrogacy so we opted for that. It worked out for me on the first try. I hope it'll work out for you too if you choose it. But I think what matters is what you want so decide accordingly. Lots of love and luck to you my friend. Cheers!!

192 out of 377 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by marcella12 - Jul. 5, 2018 3:39pm
Hey Stella. Many of us go through infertility. I have been scrolling through these forums for so much time. and all I ever come across is people looking out for help. You should know that we are all with you. All of us here are in this together. Medicine has made many advancements. Despite being prohibited in many countries, it has a high success rate. I have heard a lot of success stories. And it has brought smiles on so many faces. Try out for it. You shall find luck. Think. make your decision. Stick to it. We are with you. Cheers.

202 out of 397 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by Pamela123 - Apr. 9, 2018 5:45pm
Hey there hope you are fine. I totally depend on you and your husband. Adoption and surrogacy both are good and has pros and cons. I will choose surrogacy because of the reason that the baby will be my own biological child. You should talk with your husband and decide calmly that what you want to choose. Good luck

215 out of 423 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by jennyjoe - Jun. 26, 2018 11:40am
I am so sorry for your pain. This can be a very tough time to get through. I can imagine. I wish you didn't have to face this. However, please stay strong. I know its hard, but you need to. It's a good thing you're willing to look into your options. Surrogacy and adoption both are great methods to get your happiness. I think they cost around the same as well? In the end, it really is up to you then. If you feel you'd prefer a biological connection to your child more, then surrogacy is the obvious way. There are great clinics in Europe. They are budget-friendly too! I wish you all the best!

195 out of 385 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by satashajones - Jul. 5, 2018 9:16pm
hi hun. I am so sorry you are suffering. ill pray things get better for you. no need to rush. you will conceive soon. the difference in both is that. s adoption is a huge responsibility. you have to be really determined by your decision. you gotta treat the like it is yours. you should never regret doing this. on the other hand. surrogacy is having a baby y surrogate other. it will not be from your womb. hope it was helpful. take care. bye

212 out of 419 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by saramccartney123 - Oct. 16, 2018 7:15pm
You should ask this question from yourself and your husband. You don't want to make a decision any of you might regret later. See what you people want. I went with surrogacy because I wanted a child who had my genes. This was important for me. But that doesn't mean adopting wasn't good enough. Its really about what you want.

368 out of 728 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answered by emma_grey - Apr. 11, 2018 1:58pm
Hi. I am good, and I hope you are also doing good. So sad to hear about your infertility. You are going through very tough time. but good to know that you are a very strong woman. Because it requires a lot of patience and courage to deal which such situations. Conceiving is always a big issue, mostly for new couples, Because of less experience. It's rear that someone gets success in their very first try. But there are always alternative ways. people preferred to go for adoption because there were not absolute solutions for infertility issues. Now there are more and better ways to conceive. Science has suggested treatments like IVF and surrogacy. surrogacy has benefited many infertile ones, in recent few decades. So, people prefer to go for surrogacy, instead of adoption. Having your own baby is always better than adopting someone’s baby. There is no guarantee that adopted child will always be with you forever. So, my suggestion is to go for surrogacy. I hope this will work for yo

225 out of 446 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo


Answer This Question

You are not logged in.
Log in or Register to post an answer to this question.