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Mis-Carried and Im glad I had a DR mentally prepare me!

Category: Special - Pregnant After a Loss
Posted by JessesGirl » Jan. 23, 2012 1:52am

My LMP was Dec 7th and my first positive pregnancy test was Jan 2nd. I was SO excited. It was me and my husbands first baby and we were thrilled. That excitement was quickly over shadowed by LOW HCG levels.

They started out at 70 rose to 115 than 186. Those really are not solid numbers, esp. when the first was drawn at 20 DPO. The Nurse didnt offer me any explanations and left me with more questions than answers..so, I decided to find a new OBGYN. My NEW one really sat me down, did a pelvic exam, looked at the numbers and was honest with me....this may not be a viable pregnancy. For 6 weeks, I had hardly progressed. It was an hour long conversation and I really learned a lot, cried of course but I appreciated her honesty.

2 days later I started to spot, and yesterday I had such awful cramps it would almost stop my breath. I was at work all day and unable to leave so I went to the ER today.....No baby on the ultrasound and HCG was at 40. I had miscarried.

I didnt cry or anything. I was upset, but I was mentally prepared because someone, for once, had not blown smoke up my butt. And guess what,miscarriages happen ALL the time. People just never talk about them. Even my ER nurse had one before she had a healthy baby.

It just wasn't meant to be, right now. SO ladies, always demand the truth and expect your DRs to be upfront with you. And if they arnt, get a new one. Its your health. :)

Cheers to another try!

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Reply by cjpalaska » Jan. 23, 2012 2:41am

I am soo sorry for you right now! I am glad though that you have a healthy outlook on it and you got the answers you needed! I hope you can look forward now and onto a healthy pregnancy soon!!! I hope to see you soon back here again.......

love and hugs.....

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Reply by Leniana » Jan. 23, 2012 5:10pm

Thanks for this topic.. I really agree with you. It sucks being kept in the dark. I'm glad you found a new doctor that will tell you the honest truth when you need to hear it.

It's a BOY! Wyatt Randolph was born 9/8/2012! 9 lbs 10 oz, 21 1/4 inches

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Reply by gabry79 » Jan. 24, 2012 10:48am

i totally agree with you that even though miscarriages happen all the time people really don't talk about it. when i m/c i also found out how common it was and how many people I knew ( or their friends or friends of their friends) had m/c once or more. We,as people that have been through this, should be more open about it so that other women could be more prepared to the fact that it might happen and not be so destroyed when it does happen and think that there must be something wrong with them and that they will never have a kid.

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Reply by esperanza » Jan. 24, 2012 12:32pm

I also would rather be prepared than sugar-coating the reality...
I had a chemical (I know it's much easier than miscarriage) not so long ago, though I was devastated I kept telling myself that this is a good sign - my body can get pregnant and my body is smart knowing what to keep and what not...because we all hope for healthy baby...
and you're right - women start being super-fertile after miscarriages...
take care

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Reply by gppacen » Jan. 24, 2012 1:42pm

Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry to hear of your loss and hope things are meant to be very soon for you. Having had a chemical pregnancy a few months back I was sad but thankful that I wasn't far along and that it is like you said just not meant to be. I am thankful you had someone who was honest with you and took the time to explain things to you - don't let this one go!

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Reply by JessesGirl » Jan. 26, 2012 10:20pm

Hey girls! Congrats on staying strong through losing our little beans. :) Its SO hard. My husband and I have yet to tell people about our loss and its been 6 days. We are trying again immediately in hopes of off-setting the anguish of telling people we mis-carried and instead having positive news that we are in fact pregnant, again. AND because we are dying to be parents and feel like its our life's destiny.

Im CD 6 today and my spotting is super tapering off. I heard that you can ovulate within 2 weeks of mis-carriage so I promptly started tracking ovulation by using my Digital Clearblue OPK's. They rock! I know it wont show that smiley face right now, but Im hoping to immediately catch my LH Surge. :)

Im not afraid of mis-carrying again. Im making sure I'm intaking more Folic Acid than I did before I knew I was pregnant the last time to prevent any abnormalities, staying away from caffeine, alcohol and just things that are not nutrient rich. OH! And lots of water and fruits. :)

Hope everyone is doing well.

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Reply by Bagera » Jan. 28, 2012 6:17pm

After my 6 miscarriages i would suggest that you wait a month and let your uterus heal properly. I know it's hard and your impatient because I've been there, but trying again straight away didn't do me any favours. Although i was conceiving and thought all was well I just kept miscarrying until i took a month off and now here i am 26 weeks pregnant. I also started with the extra folic acid, but what also helped me was baby aspirin and Artemis pregnancy tea, Good luck :)

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Reply by kawaimichiko » Jan. 28, 2012 8:12pm

I'm a nurse.... I miscarried in December 2010. I didn't concieve again until July 2011. I have some left over ovulation test strips, early hpt tests and a full bottle unopened fertile cm supplement. I'm trying to give them away but no one I know is ttcing. Anyways it's up for grabs, no shipping fee. Inbox me if you're interested.

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Reply by kawaimichiko » Jan. 28, 2012 10:23pm

Btw I forgot to add that my medical background did not stop me from going into denial and breaking down. It got to the point where I wish I didn't know I was pregnant, maybe I would've just brushed it off as a very heavy AF. Just knowing that I was pregnant then not pregnant the next minute was devastating. Having a place to go and talk to others in similar situation helped. I waited until after my next cycle to ttc again.

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Reply by JessesGirl » Jan. 29, 2012 4:03am

Well, everyone is different. And 6miscarriages is quite a lot, I would imagine there were some underlying problems you had....Anyway, I have a beautiful baby niece who was conceived less than 30 day s after a mis-carriage, so its possible. And I miscarried at 6 weeks and apparently it was still a ball of cells and MAYBE a placenta.There was no sack or anything, which means that very little was done to my uterus to need repairing.

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Reply by Bagera » Jan. 29, 2012 5:49am

My first 2 were at 8 weeks and the rest at 5 weeks, i also thought there must be a problem but after getting a specialist involved we found that there is absolutely nothing wrong at all. Better safe than sorry.

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