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Is Surrogacy the best of infertility treatment?

Category: Special - Miscarriage & Loss
Posted by julien » Oct. 18, 2017 8:14pm

Hi everyone,
I have joined this community to share my problem with people who have gone through similar issues. So they can give me best practical advice. I have endometriosis, my uterine line has grown excessively and this further extended to fallopian tubes and ovaries. According to doctors, I cannot have babies naturally. I have shared my reports with foreign medical institutions as well but the results are same. Now I am looking for treatments that are available to the infertile couple. My sister in law recently had a baby through surrogacy since she couldn't have a baby. I am looking for more similar women so I can think to step ahead with this. Will it be very expensive? What is the process of stimulation? Is it painful? Please share your experiences. I am very confused and scared as well.

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Reply by Smarty » Oct. 31, 2017 8:47pm

Hello, Julien. I completely understand you. My first husband broke up with me because of my infertility. I’m just glad that I found a great man, which saved my life. We got married and he started looking for solutions. He knew that I was infertile. It didn’t stop him. So, first of all we adopted a boy. I was so excited. He was only 2 years old and he had amazing eyes. When I saw him for the first time, I understood that he was our son. He even looks like my husband, you know. In 3 years we decided that we want to have more kids. At that moment I found out about surrogacy. We decided to try it out.
So, we have chosen the reproduction center and started the examinations. It didn’t take as much time as adoption, by the way. After all the examinations our doctor found the surrogate for us. The embryo was transferred and she got pregnant. Everything happened so fast. I couldn’t believe it was true. I was about to become a mother one more time. But this time it was our biological baby.
It is not painful at all. You won’t get pregnant. The embryo would be transferred to the surrogate mother. So, why would it be painful?
Prices are different. Some reproduction centers offer a lot of different packages. So, you can choose the price, which you can afford. I have chosen the VIP one. It gave us the guarantee that we would get our baby anyway.

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Reply by Selest » Nov. 18, 2017 8:55pm

Hello, dear. As for me surrogacy is a great solution for infertile couples. You should definitely try it. The price is pretty high but it is worth paying. My husband had to work a lot to afford our surrogacy program. But I’m very happy that we did it. We have our amazing baby girl now. It was my biggest dream to become a parent. That’s why I was ready to do everything possible to make this dream come true. After 6 years of ttc and a couple of IVF failures, we decided to go for surrogacy. My husband found the reproduction center in Ukraine. They offered us the VIP package at an affordable rate. I wanted to be sure that I would go home with a baby.
All the tests and examinations took a couple of months. After that the embryo was transferred. It was the hardest period of the whole process. We had to wait for 3 weeks to find out if the surrogate got pregnant. Luckily, we received good news. The surrogate got pregnant and we were about to become parents. The pregnancy was pretty fine. The surrogate stayed under the doctor’s control all the time. Our doctor was constantly calling us to let us know that everything was fine. In 9 months we met our baby girl. She was so small. I couldn’t imagine that I would have my biological baby. It was like a miracle.
We brought her home and our life has changed completely. We had to take care of our little princess.
By the way, in our reproduction center I met a lot of other women, which had to go for surrogacy. They all are happy parents now. That’s why I’m really happy that we did it.

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Reply by Katy2017 » Nov. 18, 2017 10:20pm

Hello, dear. We just started our surrogacy process and I can answer some of your questions. I was also scared to go for surrogacy at first. That’s why our first kid was adopted. Anyway, I always dreamed to adopt a baby. But this time we want our baby to be genetically related to us. It was the main reason for the surrogacy. Also, surrogacy doesn’t take as much time as adoption did. We were waiting for our baby girl for 2 years. Surrogacy takes only 9 months plus a couple of months of preparations. Now we are going through all the necessary examinations. After that our doctor will choose the surrogate for us.
To say truth, surrogacy is not cheap at all. We had to save a lot to get the necessary amount of money. But we were allowed not to pay the whole amount at the same time. So, we divided the price into three payments.
Don’t worry. Everything will be fine. You just have to choose the best reproduction center, which offers surrogacy. Doctors will do everything for you. One of the most important parts is the beginning of the process. You will have to sign an agreement. That’s why you will need a good lawyer. This agreement will help you to make sure that the surrogate won’t keep the baby. By the way, you will be allowed to visit the surrogate whenever you want.
There are a lot of women, which go for surrogacy. I met some of them in our reproduction center. Actually, I made friends with some of them. They help me to go through all the difficulties of surrogacy. Don’t be afraid, dear. I’m sure everything will be fine.

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Reply by callisy » Dec. 6, 2017 6:55pm

Many people opt for surrogacy when it is the last things they will go for. It has high success rate than any other fertility treatment. However, the price is a bit high.

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Reply by camille » Dec. 12, 2017 9:18pm

Right now I cannot choose for you what to go for. Do what suits you best.

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Reply by SelenaJones » Jan. 23, 2018 12:34pm

Hi dear! Well, yeah! It's a little expensive but, if you can afford. I think you should really go for it. It's the best way for those who can't have a child of their own. I've seen so many people getting their lives changed with it. So, I think you should go for it. Stay blessed! xx

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Reply by ashley143 » Jan. 23, 2018 7:11pm

hi julien. im happy to know that you have chosen surrogacy. and yes in my opinion its the best treatment for infertility. im infertile and me and my husband wanted a child. so after 7 years of our marriage we decided to have surrogacy. its not as complex as you are thinking. you dont have to worry. the reproduction center would do all the work. they would find you a surrogate for your embryo. your embryo would be transferred to her and she'll get pregnant. its not painful at all as you have asked. And yes it is expansive. but then again its upon you if you can wealthy you are. but in my opinion its the best option you have. my son jake is 3 years old now and he is fully healthy. No doubt surrogacy was our best decision. And i hope it goes good for you too :)

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Reply by jenn945 » Feb. 5, 2018 4:03pm

hey dear, So happy to see you positive and keeping your own in this time of distress as well.I am in the same boat as yours, I have been trying to conceive for a long long time but no hope and now the doctor tells me about the other ways there and among them, the top one is Surrogacy like you.This is my top priority right now because one of my friends had gone through it and is very much satisfied with the results.She has two really beautiful daughters.For this procedure she has suggested to me a really really good clinic from where she got it done.it is situated in Ukraine and the facilities are top-notch.They give you unlimited tries and the donors are selected by your own self.The people there are multilingual thus no language barrier, the staff is highly qualified and the packages they offer are super cheap as compared to that in the UK.They also provide you with accommodation what more a person could ask for.Best of luck girl.I hope we both succeed.

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Reply by LaurieRichmond » Feb. 9, 2018 1:16am

Hey there Julien! I am so sorry for your pain! If nothing is working for you then you should go for surrogacy. Basically, surrogacy is where a surrogate mother carries a child for you with the help of your husband's sperm. It's something very common, I myself had my baby with the help of surrogacy and it was the best thing ever. It's just a little bit expensive but if you do some saving you will be able to get through it easily. It's a very common technique nowadays, everyone is making their dream come true with surrogacy. First, you will sign an agreement and then they will find the best surrogate mother according to your matched details. Then she will sign an agreement which prevents her from suing or filing a case against you people in future for the baby. The baby will be then biologically and legally yours. Good Luck! Much Love!

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Reply by jenifercox » Feb. 9, 2018 6:46am

Hi there. How are you? I can totally understand your situation. My cosuin have been through same situation. She selected a clinic in Ukraine. She had her surrogacy procedure from a clinic in Ukraine. They take very good care of surrogate mothers. They send ultrasound pictures every month to the parents. Surrogacy is expensive but that clinic has amazing packages. You may go through them once. Please don't worry. I hope you become a happy and healthy mother. Stay happy and blessed. I wish you all the best. Take care of your diet and health.

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Reply by josepheena » Feb. 20, 2018 1:40pm

Hey Julien. I completely understand your situation right now. But do stay positive and think about the alternatives. For me, surrogacy is always the best option. I feel proud of myself for taking this decision at the right time. Today I have a beautiful little girl. So, just don't waste your time. You should definitely go for it! Best of Luck!

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Reply by jilly6768 » Feb. 20, 2018 5:36pm

I am so sorry that you had to go through that all. It really gets hard sometimes. Getting to hear all the bad stuff all the time. Getting conscious about your body after that. It just gets worse every day. And then you feel the need of a child. It must have been hard for you hearing the doctor say it. I am glad that you got over it. Surrogacy can really help you. It is not that expensive if you chose the right clinic. The clinics in Eastern Europe might actually help you. Their price ranges are very compared to the prices here in our local clinics. They take care of the whole treatment for you. You just have to go there and choose your surrogate. After a few steps they will proceed with the treatment and in 9 months you will get to have your child.

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Reply by JaneBaillie » Feb. 21, 2018 3:59am

Hey Julien. I understand what you are going through. I m so sorry that you can't conceive naturally but don't worry now there are many others way to conceive. I know Infertility is a hard thing to cope with, but now it's possible to still become a mother with infertility. If you are going for Surrogacy then you should just pack your bags and head towards Ukraine. Ukrainian clinics have the highest success rate of this treatment. And just because of their good reputation, I went there for my own surrogacy and trust me hon! I was not disappointed. It was the best decision of my life. I know IVF is also an option here. But surrogacy is way better than that. It's more expensive than that but it's also worth it. You have to go and meet the doctors first then you and the surrogate mother will sign some legal documents so there could be no trouble in the future. I chose that clinic because first of all, it's cheaper than the clinics in the US. Like if you want to treat infertility in the US, it will take a treasure to help you become a mother. But that's not the case in this clinic. The treatment you will get at this less price is better than that and the success rate is also high. Much Love!

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Reply by camille » Apr. 23, 2018 2:45pm

I have been through surrogacy. I can say to me it was the best thing that ever happened. I had tried to conceive for more than 5 years. Then I came across Bio tex clinic online. Then was my turning to my fertility journey. I was so stressed before that. I had tried all other means. Nothing had worked out. My husband was even losing hope with the clinics. So I really had to make him understand the situation. So we gave it a try. The clinic is so affordable. That surrogacy is one of the expensive method of fertility. I thought it was going to cost us an arm and a leg. But well, it did not. The services were so good. My stay there was also enjoyable. They have different packages. It just depends with the depth of your pocket. I do hope that it helps you too. All the best in whatever you will decide on.

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Reply by callisy » Apr. 24, 2018 2:53pm

You should probably go for surrogacy. It is always the last choice. When all the other procedures have failed. So do not give up. There is hope at the end of the tunnel. I know of a couple who had been through the same. The lady suffered from endometriosis. She did a surgery however. But it did not help. It actually made things worse. It had an effect in the uterus. So she could not give birth at all. After years of looking for help. All other failed procedures. She decided to opt for surrogacy. The procedures was successful and she is now a mother. At first I understand that you will be afraid. Like another woman carrying your child. It seems hard to understand. But believe me. It is one of the best methods around. The most successful procedure after all. She went to Bio tex clinic and they did a good to job with her. You can get more information concerning them online.

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Reply by Lindsay2689 » Jun. 21, 2018 10:58pm

Sorry to hear your sad side of your life. Infertility has affected millions of lives. Some get vocal about and some struggle silently because of the social stigma surrounds it. You can consult with a good fertility specialist. I took my infertility matter abroad. Because my country is quite expensive. While in Europe it's relatively cheap. But the success rate is higher. It is a liable procedure. Its worth every penny. I would suggest if you have tried everything to resolve your infertility then surrogacy should be your last resort. Good luck

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Reply by SelenaJones » Jun. 22, 2018 12:35pm

Hi there! I'm sorry to hear that you're in a tough situation. So, yeah! Stay strong! I think yes! You should try surrogacy. It's not very expensive. My cousin sister had last year in Ukraine. She has a daughter now. So, yeah? She had it around 40K for her. But, totally worth it. She didn't have it in the U.S, where she lives. Because it's expensive there. So, yeah!

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Reply by monika123 » Jun. 22, 2018 1:40pm

Hey, Julien, I hope you are doing well. Considering surrogacy is a good option. Also, since your own sister in law has been through it you can get help from her as well. For surrogacy few things matter a lot. The first is that you are properly researched on the subject. Surrogacy is not a complicated procedure, however, initially, it can be confusing. When you opt for surrogacy you have to look at it from the legal side as well. You have to check if the process is being done legally in the clinic you are visiting. A lot of countries have still not legalized it. A good clinic is extremely important for the procedure. Therefore, do your proper research. I myself have opted for the procedure. The clinic I opted for is because they were operating legally. Also, because their rules and regulations make the process a lot more reliable. Best of luck to you I hope your process goes smoothly.

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Reply by Akane966 » Jun. 22, 2018 5:32pm

Surrogacy has been a good thing for me after all.I read about surrogacy alot.I heard people talking about it mostly on the forums or on different social platforms.
I had hystrestomy cancer.I am cancer free but i can't be a mom anymore.I was ver upset and stressed.But my husband was there to support me.He assured me that he will do everything to have us a baby.
So we came to know about surrogacy.Firstly we both searched about surrogacy we understood every aspect of surrogacy.Than we moved to Europe from Japan.Japan has banned surrogacy totally so we moved.We stayed in Europe for 4 months and consulted some clinics too.
but due to several reasons my husband was not very satisfied.Then we moved to Ukraine.We heard from many people about many clincis in Ukraine.Ukraine is very popular as per surrogacy.In Ukraine we contacted a clinic and than the clinic started our journey of surrogacy.
Now the surrogate mother is pregnant with our twin daughters.We are very excited to have our own babies now.

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Reply by RihanaSam » Jun. 24, 2018 5:02am

For my infertility surrogacy was the best solution.
Thrice i had conceived and thrice i had gone through miscarriages at different stages.
I am married for the second time and i persuaded my husband to go for surrogacy method to have a baby of our own.
We both have some biological substance left which can make our own child in someone's other womb without having her biological impacts on our child.
The consultant has given us a detail of this issue in every aspect.
So now me and my husband are looking for a surrogate to raise our child in her womb.
We have contacted a clinic for this issue and they are helping us in each and every stage,
I had many complications with my pregnancies in my first marriage everytime i conceived miscarriage happened.
They let us meet with the other couples who are raising babies via surrogacy method too.
The couples feedback is so satisfying about the clinic that we are now ready to go for surrogacy.
The clinic says that the surrogate should be good physically and should be perfectly alright.
The clinic has also its own many surrogates but they are looking the best one for us.
The clinic has a number of surrogates who are willing to raise our child in their womb.
The clinic says that they will go through extensive tests methods to clear all the reports of surrogate so that we don't have any problems later on.

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