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My Due Date: February 13, 2022I am postpartum » My due date was more than 2 weeks ago
Age: 36 years old
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Fed Up of Christmas Already!!!
By BabyBiggles » Posted Dec. 20, 2018 8:14pm - 163 views - 0 comments
Well maybe it's not Christmas exactly, it's just all the hassle of family at Christmas that I've had enough of! First there's my mum who is told and told not to go overboard buying presents for the kids, assures me that she hasn't got much and then turns up with piles of stuff anyway. Then there is my brother who is spending Christmas with his girlfriend's family and then expecting to turn up in the evening when the kids are getting ready for bed, and when I've tried to nicely say I don't feel like he's made much effort to see my kids he's gone in a strop and complained how we're not spending all weekend and Christmas Eve up at my parents house so he can pop round...plus my husband has just gone offshore for two weeks so he's going to miss it all. My eldest is 3.5, my youngest is 16 months so both are at challenging ages and at over six months pregnant I'm suddenly waddling and starting to really struggle so...just generally a stressful few days and having a bit of a moan because I wish I could just hide from it all!!!
So this weekend, we're going out for a meal with my whole family on Saturday night, except one of my brothers who is eating with his partner's family. Then on Sunday I had made plans to meet a friend who asked to see the boys before Christmas and I was wanting to take them to a carol singing thing in the evening. I had wanted Christmas Eve home alone to do the whole Santa thing with my eldest since it's the first year he really gets it, and I'd also planned in a bit of time to remember our dog who passed away on Christmas Eve last year, since DS1 still talks about him regularly. Then I was thinking time to myself once they're in bed, put my feet up watch a film and probably stuff my face with chocolate since it's all I'm craving! Heading up to my parents on Christmas Day once we're up and dressed. Then mum decides she's coming to stay on the 24th so I'm not alone, even though it was my choice to be alone and I was actually looking forward to it. Can't tell her not to come though. So my brother is angry because we would normally have had a family meal out on Christmas Eve and blames me for not coming. So mum decides to make plans for Sunday instead, without asking me. I tried rearranging my plans by asking my brother when he'd be round so I could fit it in and he just said they don't know, they've got lots of shopping and wrapping still to do plus they'll be working Monday so wouldn't be drinking and would have to leave early...as though it was supposed to be a party?! It didn't feel like he cared in the slightest about seeing the kids and I couldn't see any reason to bend over backwards rearranging my own things to suit him so I told mum I probably wouldn't have much time on Sunday and she went in a huff too and messaged round cancelling the whole thing saying no one has time for it. And now I've ended up in some stupid argument with my brother just cause I asked what his plans were and told him I honestly didn't feel like he was factoring the kids into his plans. Well of course that's my fault for not being up there enough, how dare I want to spend time with my own children. I feel like if people want to see my kids and have a relationship with them, it's up to them to do that I'm not going to chase people and the past few months he's not been bothered with them at all so it's the sort of stupid issue that's just pushed me over the edge. I sort of wish it could just be my own family of four without all the problems with parents and siblings! I'm the only one with kids and no one helps me, they'll all sit around getting drunk while I deal with the boys so I think I'm fair enough saying don't turn up at bedtime getting them hyper when I'm wanting them to start calming down. It'll be me up all night with them, up at the crack of dawn the next day and dealing with them being overtired and grumpy. I don't mind for a special occasion but not because of someone else refusing to have some consideration!!!
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Fed Up of Christmas Already!!!
By BabyBiggles » Posted Dec. 20, 2018 8:14pm - 163 views - 0 comments
Well maybe it's not Christmas exactly, it's just all the hassle of family at Christmas that I've had enough of! First there's my mum who is told and told not to go overboard buying presents for the kids, assures me that she hasn't got much and then turns up with piles of stuff anyway. Then there is my brother who is spending Christmas with his girlfriend's family and then expecting to turn up in the evening when the kids are getting ready for bed, and when I've tried to nicely say I don't feel like he's made much effort to see my kids he's gone in a strop and complained how we're not spending all weekend and Christmas Eve up at my parents house so he can pop round...plus my husband has just gone offshore for two weeks so he's going to miss it all. My eldest is 3.5, my youngest is 16 months so both are at challenging ages and at over six months pregnant I'm suddenly waddling and starting to really struggle so...just generally a stressful few days and having a bit of a moan because I wish I could just hide from it all!!!
So this weekend, we're going out for a meal with my whole family on Saturday night, except one of my brothers who is eating with his partner's family. Then on Sunday I had made plans to meet a friend who asked to see the boys before Christmas and I was wanting to take them to a carol singing thing in the evening. I had wanted Christmas Eve home alone to do the whole Santa thing with my eldest since it's the first year he really gets it, and I'd also planned in a bit of time to remember our dog who passed away on Christmas Eve last year, since DS1 still talks about him regularly. Then I was thinking time to myself once they're in bed, put my feet up watch a film and probably stuff my face with chocolate since it's all I'm craving! Heading up to my parents on Christmas Day once we're up and dressed. Then mum decides she's coming to stay on the 24th so I'm not alone, even though it was my choice to be alone and I was actually looking forward to it. Can't tell her not to come though. So my brother is angry because we would normally have had a family meal out on Christmas Eve and blames me for not coming. So mum decides to make plans for Sunday instead, without asking me. I tried rearranging my plans by asking my brother when he'd be round so I could fit it in and he just said they don't know, they've got lots of shopping and wrapping still to do plus they'll be working Monday so wouldn't be drinking and would have to leave early...as though it was supposed to be a party?! It didn't feel like he cared in the slightest about seeing the kids and I couldn't see any reason to bend over backwards rearranging my own things to suit him so I told mum I probably wouldn't have much time on Sunday and she went in a huff too and messaged round cancelling the whole thing saying no one has time for it. And now I've ended up in some stupid argument with my brother just cause I asked what his plans were and told him I honestly didn't feel like he was factoring the kids into his plans. Well of course that's my fault for not being up there enough, how dare I want to spend time with my own children. I feel like if people want to see my kids and have a relationship with them, it's up to them to do that I'm not going to chase people and the past few months he's not been bothered with them at all so it's the sort of stupid issue that's just pushed me over the edge. I sort of wish it could just be my own family of four without all the problems with parents and siblings! I'm the only one with kids and no one helps me, they'll all sit around getting drunk while I deal with the boys so I think I'm fair enough saying don't turn up at bedtime getting them hyper when I'm wanting them to start calming down. It'll be me up all night with them, up at the crack of dawn the next day and dealing with them being overtired and grumpy. I don't mind for a special occasion but not because of someone else refusing to have some consideration!!!
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