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By adiggs » Posted Aug. 10, 2018 3:21pm - 295 views - 3 comments
I was waiting for the elevator the other day and I had both of my kids with me. There were 2 ladies in the elevator and I decided to wait for the next one and let them keep going. As the door was closing, one lady looked at the other and practically shouted, "She sure is in for it!" with a smug little chuckle. She doesn't even know me! What makes her think she has a right to make a comment like that.
And it's not just her. Ever since I started showing and it's clear I'm having a third, strangers everywhere think they need to say something. Whether it's "oh, you poor thing." to "like she needs another kid." when one of them is acting up in the grocery store.
I don't know why people think they have a right/need to say anything at all. They don't know the struggle I went through to have these kids. They don't know about the years spent trying and all of the miscarriages and thoughts that I would never be a mom. As far as the pity comments, they are just as insulting. Like what makes you think I am upset that I'm having a third? What makes you think I can't handle a third??!?
Another thing, I just love this comment. "You've got your hands full don't you?" I hear that one literally every time I leave the house. Every time my kids disobeys me or cries, that's just what I want to hear from every person I encounter during that time. Good grief. I'm just ranting.
There was this one mom the other day when I was grocery shopping though.. I apologized to her because I was standing in her way (for who knows how long) and didn't realize it while I was grocery shopping. When I was in the checkout line scanning all of my groceries and arguing with my three year old she said, "You rock, mama!" as she passed by me. Those are the kinds of comments we should make towards each other. The uplifting kind. But she also had a cart full of stuff with two kids, so I expect that she fully understood.
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By adiggs » Posted Aug. 10, 2018 3:21pm - 295 views - 3 comments
I was waiting for the elevator the other day and I had both of my kids with me. There were 2 ladies in the elevator and I decided to wait for the next one and let them keep going. As the door was closing, one lady looked at the other and practically shouted, "She sure is in for it!" with a smug little chuckle. She doesn't even know me! What makes her think she has a right to make a comment like that.
And it's not just her. Ever since I started showing and it's clear I'm having a third, strangers everywhere think they need to say something. Whether it's "oh, you poor thing." to "like she needs another kid." when one of them is acting up in the grocery store.
I don't know why people think they have a right/need to say anything at all. They don't know the struggle I went through to have these kids. They don't know about the years spent trying and all of the miscarriages and thoughts that I would never be a mom. As far as the pity comments, they are just as insulting. Like what makes you think I am upset that I'm having a third? What makes you think I can't handle a third??!?
Another thing, I just love this comment. "You've got your hands full don't you?" I hear that one literally every time I leave the house. Every time my kids disobeys me or cries, that's just what I want to hear from every person I encounter during that time. Good grief. I'm just ranting.
There was this one mom the other day when I was grocery shopping though.. I apologized to her because I was standing in her way (for who knows how long) and didn't realize it while I was grocery shopping. When I was in the checkout line scanning all of my groceries and arguing with my three year old she said, "You rock, mama!" as she passed by me. Those are the kinds of comments we should make towards each other. The uplifting kind. But she also had a cart full of stuff with two kids, so I expect that she fully understood.
Comments for this Journal Entry
 | Comment from sonata85 » Posted Aug. 10, 2018 6:36pm Aw I feel for you. Those random people don’t know your history and how much of a blessing your babies are, and it’s not their business anyway——unless they want to say something helpful or uplifting. Go to all the stores, show off the bump, don’t worry if your 2 little ones scream a little. I’d love to tell myself these things and believe them. I’ve just been going out with my 1 month old and 14 more nth old for the first time as of yesterday. Around the corner to the grocery store and already looks and “Irish twins” comments. The good news is I met a new mom of a 4 day-old girl who would like to go walking with us sometime. All this is to say—screw the mean people and thank goodness for the supportive, understanding people. My in-laws even ask annoying questions about why our kids are spaced so close together. If you can handle it that’s your deal and your joy! |
 | Comment from tmhess » Posted Aug. 10, 2018 5:16pm I feel you, I get comments all the time about my two girls. They are very close in age so you can imagine what going to the store with an almost 2 year old and an almost 3 year old can be like. It isn't fully obvious that I have a third on the way yet, but I am sure there will be more comments to come when I start to show. We definitely need more people to tell us that we got this, becuase we do! :) |
 | Comment from BabyBiggles » Posted Aug. 10, 2018 3:23pm I totally get this, no one knows about my third yet and I already get the hands full comment with the two boys and the dogs! So I expect it will only get worse. And yes life is hectic but I literally wouldn't want it any other way, I don't know why people have to be so negative! |
