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My Due Date: May 30, 2015I have given birth!
Age: 40 years old
Location: Canada
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Normalâ?¦. or about
By Quartz3 » Posted Jan. 7, 2015 7:24pm - 642 views - 5 comments
We finally had the Level II ultrasound this morning. We were very nervous. Luckily we had a very nice and talkative tech, so it helped. The ultrasound took an hour, so it would have been a long time with a boring tech.
She started by looking at the brain, the head in general and the arms and fingers, then moved on to the legs. That's when I spotted baby boy bits! (I'm very proud of myself for this one.) I exclaimed "Hey, that's a baby boy!", and the tech said it was. I was a bit surprised because I've been convinced we were having a girl since the beginning of the pregnancy. I did start to have doubts recently, but still. It's a bit disappointing because we would've liked to have both genders and we're only planning to have two kids. I also feel it's a bit unfair because nearly all my friends who have two kids have a boy and a girl, but oh well. I only have to look at my son to know how amazing little boys are.
The tech finished by looking at the heart very thoroughly and then again at the brain, which made me a bit nervous. She then asked if we were having an MRI, and I said that we were. She explained that she could not see the corpus callosum, but that it was probably due to the position baby was in. And then she took us to the consultation room in which we waited for the doctor to look at the images and come see us with the results.
We got THE WORST doctor for good news. She looked like she was about to tell us something was wrong THE WHOLE TIME!!! She did not introduce herself, she just sat down and started asking us questions. She asked if this was my first pregnancy, which made me a bit angry because I have a very heavy file at that hospital, and I would've appreciated for her to take a look at it. We actually had to tell her about the termination and the reasons for it. She also asked about our IPS results and if they were good. Then she asked if we knew why we were sent for a Level II ultrasound. We said it was due to the abnormalities our first baby had, and she nodded and said, without smiling or looking even remotely happy "There are no abnormalities." We were extremely relieved, held each other's hands and hugged, and the doctor barely moved. She kept talking without smiling, using a calm, soft voice that really made it seem like something bad was happening and made a description of specific organs: "Now, moving on to the spine. The spine is normal." When she was done and it was clear everything was normal, she asked if we had questions. We said no, and she got up and asked "are you okay?" It was SO WEIRD!
There were two things to be noted though. First, as the tech mentioned, the corpus callosum could not be seen. It's worrisome for me because our first baby did not have one. However, the doctor said that with everything else being normal, they see no reason why it would not be there and think baby is just too small at this point. The MRI next week will confirm whether or not it's there. Also, there are lateral cysts in the brain. Those are considered soft markers, but the doctor was not worried about them. She said generally they mean nothing and will not even follow up on them. Obviously that has me worried too, but I have indeed heard that most of the time those are not an indication of something wrong. I'm still going to ask my doctor if she recommends a follow-up ultrasound to see if they've gone away.
Anyway, that doctor so completely looked like something was wrong, my poor boyfriend burst into tears when she walked out! And he's not the crying kind, this was actually the second time I've seen him cry in the 7 years we've been together! And even now, her attitude makes me feel as if I've actually gotten bad news.
So, basically, we're having a baby boy. I just can't help but feel something's off. Thank you, doctor.
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Normalâ?¦. or about
By Quartz3 » Posted Jan. 7, 2015 7:24pm - 642 views - 5 comments
We finally had the Level II ultrasound this morning. We were very nervous. Luckily we had a very nice and talkative tech, so it helped. The ultrasound took an hour, so it would have been a long time with a boring tech.
She started by looking at the brain, the head in general and the arms and fingers, then moved on to the legs. That's when I spotted baby boy bits! (I'm very proud of myself for this one.) I exclaimed "Hey, that's a baby boy!", and the tech said it was. I was a bit surprised because I've been convinced we were having a girl since the beginning of the pregnancy. I did start to have doubts recently, but still. It's a bit disappointing because we would've liked to have both genders and we're only planning to have two kids. I also feel it's a bit unfair because nearly all my friends who have two kids have a boy and a girl, but oh well. I only have to look at my son to know how amazing little boys are.
The tech finished by looking at the heart very thoroughly and then again at the brain, which made me a bit nervous. She then asked if we were having an MRI, and I said that we were. She explained that she could not see the corpus callosum, but that it was probably due to the position baby was in. And then she took us to the consultation room in which we waited for the doctor to look at the images and come see us with the results.
We got THE WORST doctor for good news. She looked like she was about to tell us something was wrong THE WHOLE TIME!!! She did not introduce herself, she just sat down and started asking us questions. She asked if this was my first pregnancy, which made me a bit angry because I have a very heavy file at that hospital, and I would've appreciated for her to take a look at it. We actually had to tell her about the termination and the reasons for it. She also asked about our IPS results and if they were good. Then she asked if we knew why we were sent for a Level II ultrasound. We said it was due to the abnormalities our first baby had, and she nodded and said, without smiling or looking even remotely happy "There are no abnormalities." We were extremely relieved, held each other's hands and hugged, and the doctor barely moved. She kept talking without smiling, using a calm, soft voice that really made it seem like something bad was happening and made a description of specific organs: "Now, moving on to the spine. The spine is normal." When she was done and it was clear everything was normal, she asked if we had questions. We said no, and she got up and asked "are you okay?" It was SO WEIRD!
There were two things to be noted though. First, as the tech mentioned, the corpus callosum could not be seen. It's worrisome for me because our first baby did not have one. However, the doctor said that with everything else being normal, they see no reason why it would not be there and think baby is just too small at this point. The MRI next week will confirm whether or not it's there. Also, there are lateral cysts in the brain. Those are considered soft markers, but the doctor was not worried about them. She said generally they mean nothing and will not even follow up on them. Obviously that has me worried too, but I have indeed heard that most of the time those are not an indication of something wrong. I'm still going to ask my doctor if she recommends a follow-up ultrasound to see if they've gone away.
Anyway, that doctor so completely looked like something was wrong, my poor boyfriend burst into tears when she walked out! And he's not the crying kind, this was actually the second time I've seen him cry in the 7 years we've been together! And even now, her attitude makes me feel as if I've actually gotten bad news.
So, basically, we're having a baby boy. I just can't help but feel something's off. Thank you, doctor.
Comments for this Journal Entry
 | Comment from knicole27 » Posted Jan. 13, 2015 9:19am yay for normal results.. yikes about the dr. A lot of people in general are like that here in germany! lol. and I know EXACTLY how you feel about having two of the same gender. I wanted one of each as well as this is also our last child. I went through some disappointment for quite some time and it seems that EVERY single one of my friends is getting either girls which i wanted so badly orrrrrr.... they have a girl and are getting their boy. I am like REALLY ?!?!?!?!!?!?!??!!!!! Its been highly agitating if I am honest so with each new "girl" announcement even to this day . I have gotten better but I have to laugh now and say "of course you are!" hahahah but as i have gotten 3d/4d ultrasounds I have been seeing how much he looks like liam and it makes me more excited!! it took time though. Happy for you ! |
 | Comment from niknik86 » Posted Jan. 9, 2015 7:31am Congratulations on a baby boy! :) Good news that everything seems well :) |
 | Comment from cosmoholic » Posted Jan. 8, 2015 7:00am Congratulations on the baby boy! I'd try and focus on all the good news that you got from the doctor - not on the manner in which she delivered it. It must have been stressful, but now that it's over and you got good news I think that's something to celebrate. :) |
| Comment from MsTigre » Posted Jan. 7, 2015 8:30pm reading *normal* results. Sorry, my iPhone hates this website. Oh, and congrats on the boy! Yay for you two! |
| Comment from MsTigre » Posted Jan. 7, 2015 8:29pm Oh lord, leave it to a crap doctor to make someone feel like shit. Ugh, it's like having a waitress with a crappy attitude... If you dislike your job, maybe you're in the wrong line of work. I understand that maybe she was having a bad day, but when you're talking to a couple who has had abnormalities in pregnancy and realize you're reading results, you should at least treat the situation with SOME happy emotion! I'm sorry she acted so stoic and ruined your good news, but try and remember you DID receive good news! You two should be celebrating! Gl for the rest of your pregnancy! |
