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My Due Date: May 30, 2015
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Age: 36 years old
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By Quartz3 » Posted Feb. 16, 2015 7:25am - 221 views - 4 comments

It's really a shame because I used to love my MIL. Now I really wish I didn't have to ever see her again.

First she's supposed to come visit this week. It's a 10-12 hour drive for her so she likes to find people to drive with. So over the weekend she tells us she's probably going to arrive on Thursday with friends of hers who are visiting their own daughter, adding that the woman in question has been terribly sick with the flu for over a month, but that now she's taking medication and thinks she should be ready for the trip on Thursday. Never mind the fact that my son and I are both currently vulnerable to flu complications. She really doesn't care that we might catch whatever crap that woman is carrying....

And then, over the weekend, my procrastinating boyfriend finally sent an email to his parents and his sister to announce the gender of the baby.... while in Cuba, we wrote "it's a boy" in the sand and took a picture, which he sent. Well, my MIL saw the pic and did not wait for my FIL (they're separated) to see it - she called him to announce we were having a boy! I'm so angry with her! It was certainly not her place to do that, but she doesn't care, she keeps acting like she's the one having a baby!

My boyfriend was certainly unimpressed as well, and said we really should have kept it a secret until the birth. After all, the grandparents don't really need to know, do they? Plus he feels bad because his mom made it look like he only announced the gender to her, and not to his dad, which would have been quite insensitive on his part.

I'm so sick of her acting like this is all her own life and choices, making announcements she shouldn't make, expecting me to show off my baby bump to whoever's with her when we call her on Skype and thinking she'll come and spend weeks with us after the birth so she can "help".

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Comment from Papas~Mama » Posted Feb. 17, 2015 1:53pm
You just need to tell her flat out how you feel. You don't need to "let" anyone come to your home when your baby is born! That's completely up to you. Don't let her run you, it's your life and your baby. You'll feel better when you speak your mind. Good luck with it!

Comment from Heathernnsb29 » Posted Feb. 16, 2015 6:29pm
I feel for you! Hopefully it gets better. I think you and your boyfriend should sit down and firmly talk to her about things. Hope it gets better!

Comment from kaitlinrae » Posted Feb. 16, 2015 10:35am
So sorry to hear your MIL is making things so difficult for you! I hope she doesn't invite herself over to stay when your baby's here..that's completely inappropriate!

Comment from Fitbyjordan » Posted Feb. 16, 2015 9:58am
I am sorry you are having to deal with that, I hope and pray it gets better for you!

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