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My Due Date: November 30, 2012
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Age: 31 years old

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Venting continued
By Kfinzue » Posted Oct. 25, 2012 11:14am - 327 views - 3 comments

Contd.. I can't just give in on every single thing he wants, especially the things I feel strongly about. And it's not fair he just expects me to just do all these things. Plus he works 12+ hours a day. If he's not home why should he get so much say on what I do with my time or how things are done. Clearly he does have some say becuase he is the dad and I respect what he has to say and some of his ideas are good, but some are just rediculous and he's not willing to try to compromise. I want to cloth diaper, or cloth diaper part time but he doesn't want to. If he's gone for 12+ hours everyday what does it matter how I want to diaper? He won't even be home to change them! I tried convincing him that I can cloth diaper during the day and at night we can use disposable. He's good at changing diapers and plans on helping with them but refuses to use cloth ones! Urg! Plus I want to go back to work after baby us born cuz we need the extra cash. I talked to him about working on the weekends because then hell be home to take care of baby while I'm working and we won't have to pay for child care. He doesn't mind watching baby but wants to be the sole provider and have me 'happy at home to do what I want'. Lol it's sweet of him to want to take care if me and baby but I thinks well need the extra money, plus I'd love a little time out of the house and around adults for a little bit.. Nothing is going according to plan and I don't know what to do. What will we do if we don't have a new home by Nov. 30th? How are we going to move when he works all day and I'm either 40 weeks pregnant or just had the baby? Plus it'll be snowy and cold by then so it'll be that much harder to move. What do I do? ):

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Comment from airiesing » Posted Oct. 25, 2012 12:41pm
cont again! and high risk! So if I can trust them, I'm sure you could too.

Diapers..don't worry at this point, again you don't know what you want until you REALLY try it. Maybe compromise & use cloth diapers w/ disposable inserts. BTW, i also plan to CD & that's what I plan to do for Grandma, sitters, etc.

Don't worry about mom, hug her, love her, let her know you're there but she'd probably be just as comforted knowing you are getting yourself & her grandbaby situated & safe.

Whew! I think I covered most of it, hope it helped. Sometimes it's nice to be an "old mom" in here so I can help the younger gals...I'll bet I'm around your mom's age so feel free to message me, sounds like your mom has a lot on her plate too. ((hugs))

Comment from airiesing » Posted Oct. 25, 2012 12:35pm
con't. They can take you to see several in one day & really make the search go faster. Hopefully, you can get back any $ you put into your current place for deposits & such. Otherwise, especially in your situation, landlords will work w/ you. Just get EVERYTHING in writing!

OB situation, call the hospital you plan to deliver at & see if they can help. You are young & presumably healthy & have had good care to this point. Your baby WILL get born regardless. Otherwise, you could & probably should call around to some midwife services. Many/most are also nurse practitioners who have as much or usually more experience of delivering a child. Most work out of hospitals these days & are covered by ins. & have a backup OB in case of emergency/need for c-section and will be much more willing to advocate for your wishes than a doctor. that's what I have for all my care & I'm 42!!

Comment from airiesing » Posted Oct. 25, 2012 12:28pm
Ok hun, 1st breathe. You're right, it will all work out & 9 times out of 10 you will be better off than you started.

2nd Re: the work situation. I say revisit all of that after you've had a reasonable "maternity leave" 12 weeks or so, you may both feel differently. you may not ever want to leave your baby & he may want you out of the house for a few hours so he can "dad' as he pleases or just a few hours to himself if you get a sitter.

3rd re: the puppy. call around to some local shelters & see if they have any foster programs. Explain your situation, they may be able to hang on to your pup long enough for you to get settled into a new & hopefully pet-friendly place. Also, along these lines, look in your community for any apartment finder services. I'm in the Chicago area & many villages/town have these as a free service, you tell them all your needs/budget etc. They plug it in to their data base & come up w/ a list of several places.


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