Questions & Answers

Every woman and every pregnancy is different. To the one who replied that her house looks like it belongs in a magazine, good for you but you should not pass judgement on someone else because you don't know their situation, their body, etc. I find it interesting that you're proud of yourself enough to post how well you've kept your house, but you did so anonymously...

To the poster, do you work? If so, I definitely think it's ok to cut yourself some slack. Your rest/health is more important than keeping your house dust-free. I will say though that sometimes the hardest part is getting up and moving, but once you're up and going it feels good to be moving and getting things done. I have the same problem you're having but with exercise. I had to tell my DH to get me up off the couch after dinner no matter what and go walking with me. I'm tired and annoyed at first but once we're walking I feel so much better. Do things when you can, ask your DH for help, and rest :)

I think your husband needs to shut his mouth and do some dishes. Even not pregnant, this is 2012, traditional family values have gone out the window. It shouldn't be a woman's responsibility to take care of absolutely everything in the house 24/7. That's just ridiculous. He needs to be understanding to the fact that you are GROWING A CHILD and pitch in instead of complaining. He's just as capable of cleaning as you are. If you're anything like me, you're achy, tired, wear out easily, and end up in pain if you push yourself too hard. My DH vacuums, dusts, helps with dishes, carries heavy laundry baskets up the stairs for me, and tells me to sit my butt down and let him clean up when I cook dinner. Hell, if I've had an exceptionally rough day, he cooks dinner after working a full time job. He takes the time to understand what my body is going through and does what he can to keep me from overdoing it and feeling miserable.

There is no excuse for him being such an ass. My opinion.

con't-Maybe clean just one room really well or one task like vacuuming all the rooms or catching up the laundry. I'm fortunate in that my DH is not picky (not that he cleans much, but he doesn't complain either) We actually joked about my "push present", I want to hire housekeepers for a day while I'm in the hospital so I can come home to a clean house but ya know, I think we are actually gonna do it!!! Good luck & take care o' you!!

'My house belongs in a magazine"????? Please, love ya gal & all your hard work but you can hang up your cape, we all know you're super woman. I'mm 32 weeks now and save for a few weeks in the 2nd trimester, somedays it's an effort to get out of bed! Not that I don't think keeping up my house is important, I do. But I also think listening to my body & growing a human being is important too..I do what I can, I try to keep up the dishes, I maintain my DD (3 yr), I work part time, I catch things up when I have the strength but I stop when my body says so & I'm glad I have because I just found out on Tues that I have a low-lying placenta. What would have happened if I had wrecked myself for the sake of a tidy house???!! Would I have started to bleed?? Lost my baby?? Lost my life?? I know that's extreme but it's always possible. The other thing is my daughter, I'd rather spend what time I feel good w/ her than cleaning. I say if you can try to get 1 task done a day your

i know how you feel, im exhausted 90% of the time... the way i do it... is when i DO have a little bit of energy, i get as much done as i can.. because i know this energy wont last all day. take advantage of your better moments. Even doing this, my house is not always clean, but my husband is very understanding... i think your husband is out of line but that depends on how messy it really is i guess. he should cut you some slack as long as you try your best when possible.
as for the first answer, i think its a bit silly. Get Real!! someone is trying to sound "perfect" but i highly doubt they have everything done all the time... and if you have 3 children and your house looks like its from a magazine.. then theres a problem.. maybe you should relax, get out some paint and play-doh..put down the broom and have fun with your kids!!! i understand tidyness is important when you have children but so is having fun, and thats not happening in a "magazine house"

I am only 6w5d and get tired too to where I definitely slack cleaning....however, I work full time as a teacher and have one son. If I didnt work outside of the house I would definitely not be slacking because I probably wouldnt be so tired! Hubby mentioned I am slacking a bit....but my response was, "If it bothers you....you clean it!". I used to wash floors twice a week....vacuum daily....my house is immaculate. So, when one thing is out of place my husband definitely knows I am slacking. However...a little dust never killed anyone! So I am taking my crazy cleaning down one notch....he doesnt like it....he can do it for me! But....if I was a stay at home mom....I would never dream of speaking to him like that!

i think ur husband is out of order
im 31 weeks and suffer pelvic hip and back pain i struggle to walk 5-10 mins but with a 2 year old gotta live with it
i clean everyday but my boyfriend does moan at me and tries to make me sit down and he will do it but i get so pissed opf with it makes me feel lie im a right retard i hate not doing stuff when pregnant i just relax when house is tidy and when little girl goes to bed but my partner does help alot so i dont do to much and strain myself

I personally find this answer slightly rude. Pregnancy is different for every woman. And I give you props for being able to maintain your home and 3 kids but not everyone is you. My pregnancy has personally been hard on me and my body. This is my first and by the sound of this question it is this woman's too. You've some it 3 times and know what to expect. I say as long as you do your best at what you can around the house that's good enough. The important thing is that you don't wear yourself out. I can understand ur dhs frustration but he'd be singing a different tune if he was hauling a baby around 24/7. That's my opinion

... dont feel bad about it! It's common for women to get that way.

What would I do? Well... I think keeping the house clean is important to be honest. I don't think letting pregnancy get in the way of duties is right.... But that's me. I'm almost 40 weeks now, and I have 3 kids but I keep the house clean, cook breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and I'm the only person that does dishes in the house 3 x a day! Laundry? Yup, I do it for 5 people daily. House looks like it belongs in a magazine. Do you plan on cleaning and taking care of the house and cooking AFTER the baby arrives? Because it's not going to get easier...

Pregnancy is what you make it. If you want to be lazy, that is FINE, people love being pregnant and lazy, I know it, it's more common then not, BUT you have to live up to it, and not make excuses for it. Just be like "Honey, I'm super pregnant, and I want to relax, I'm not into keeping active or cleaning while preggo, so get off my back... it's just not my thing." Tons of women don't do crap once they get knocked up, don't feel b