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Q: Should I stay, or should I go?

Last night my fiance and I got into a really horrible fight, that ended up getting physical on both our parts. The fight started because I wouldn't tell him in great detail about my day. (I am on bed rest, so my explanation consisted mostly of, I layed on the couch, I layed in bed, and I watched cartoons.) He got very angry and started accusing me of cheating on him, and all sorts of other horrible things. When I started getting very worked up, I told him to leave. That I couldn't take the stress. He then pounced on me, and not only hit me multiple times, face, abdomen, back, sides, but resorted to choking me when I fought back. He choked me into unconsciousness. When I came to, he was sitting on my belly, holding me down and screaming at me. This was the worse he has ever been in a fight, he has thrown me around before, but never made me fear for my life like this. I don't want my kids to have no dad, so I don't know, should I stay or should I go?

This question was asked Jan. 25, 2013 8:48pm
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Answered by monroezelda - Jan. 26, 2013 1:56pm

I would rather my children have no father than a father like that, he could of killled your unborn child sitting on u like that, its disgusting. I know its hard to leave my best friend took over 6 years of physicalll abuse before she had the courage to leave. I also know no matter what anyone says on here it will not make a difference , you can tell people who are in a bad relationship till ypur blue in the face to leave there partner, but only you can make that decision, we can only offer are opinon and in some cases experinces. I had bad times with my partner until 6 years ago when he ended up getting locked up over night, after that he didnt do anything again.

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Answered by a member - Jan. 26, 2013 5:50am

Please get out! I have been in a simiilar situation....its hard to leave, I understand, but you will be a lot happier in life without him. I know you probably feel sorry and sad for him right now, but please call a friend or family and leave. If you don't have anyone close to you who can help, there are shelters and other places that would gladly help you. You will be a great Mum on your own....and will teach your kids how to treat others with love and respect. I am praying for you :)

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Answered by nikkiblueeyes - Jan. 26, 2013 12:17am

Get out while you can! What could happen next? You not waking up? Please leave as tough as it is it will do your children worse damage staying hun. Xxx

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Answered by Bostonmama08 - Jan. 26, 2013 12:00am

Holy shit. Get OUT of that house. Please! Call your family....please get some place safe. Think about your baby...and the safety of the two of you. I would even call the police and press charges....get a restraining order. I am so sad for you....so sad. No one EVER should be treated like this! Especially a pregnant woman.

Please get somewhere safe.

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Answered by a member - Jan. 25, 2013 11:33pm

No dad is better than an evil dad! The only thing u should worry about now is u and the baby!! Leave now! Anything physical should not be tolerated! Press charges as well and stay away from this evil person!!!!

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Answered by firecracker11 - Jan. 25, 2013 9:37pm

Oh my goodness... not only should you leave immediatly, but you also should press charges!!! His behavior is unexceptable! He almost killed you... and put your baby at risk! I would going to the ER to make sure the baby is ok! Who knows what he did to you while you were passed out!!! Your baby will be better off without him!!! What happens if he turns his anger on to the baby after its born? GET OUT NOW!!! and as fast as you can!

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Answered by a member - Jan. 25, 2013 9:30pm

go..absolutely! and dont go back! dont listen to him crying and begging you to stay or to come back...just go. this type of behavior always gets worse as time goes on... hes chocking you until you pass out now...then how far will he go later? if hes suspicious of you cheating while your on bedrest, what happens when you want a night out with your friends? or you get a text message from a co worker ? you wake up to a gun to year chest? sorry to be so blunt but this is a very dangerous situation. you need to get out of there and file a police report so he cant go for custody. i hate to think what a man like that will do to a cranky baby who wont stop crying. the best choice you can make as a mother is get yourself and your baby to safety.

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Answered by Kimmiecat - Jan. 25, 2013 9:18pm

Go. Without question, go.

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Answered by GemGem - Jan. 25, 2013 9:06pm

harsh*

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Answered by GemGem - Jan. 25, 2013 9:06pm

Im sorry if my message sounds harm but im felt so shocked with what I was reading. How far will you let it get? strangleation ? that could seriously harm you or worse kill you!!! please get help. My prayers are with you...

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