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Hi ladies, im 22 weeks pregnant with a baby boy! i am over joyed and so excited about having a little boy but me and my husband cant agree on what do to... my hubby is circumcised and insists that our son get circumcised also... i dont want to do it i dont feel like its natural,,, i want to leave things where they belong. we fight about it almost daily and i dont know what to do. should i just let him win? the thought makes me feel sick but i dont know what to do.. how did u decide if circumcision was right for u? does it all depend on ur husband or did u look at pros and cons and decide regardless of what ur husbands penis looks like. ?sometimes i think a girl would have been easier!

This question was asked Mar. 22, 2013 12:09pm
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Answered by a member - Mar. 23, 2013 12:41am
I agree with barbie, hehe! While aesthetics is not the reason we had our son circumcised it was definitely a plus. I like knowing that my son will never be turned down or made fun of for something as silly as extra skin. And as much as I hate to admit this, I was one of those silly girls who turned down a guy for not being circumcised:( I was young and thought they were dirty and that monsters and goblins hid beneath the foreskin lol. It's a personal decision either way you go and nobody should make you feel bad about it whatsoever! If you are one of those people who thinks it's cruel to inflict pain on your newborn then don't ever pierce your babies ears and by God you better hang your head in shame should your baby ever get a bad diaper rash because I assure you, a bad rash will cause more tears!

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Answered by kCharleneS - Mar. 23, 2013 12:11am
I had my son circumcised when he was a few days old because of the fact that we didn't want him to feel different. And in my opinion it IS slightly more hygienic. I also personally did not feel comfortable with the idea of pulling his foreskin back to clean it. My doctor did it in the office and I got to be in the room the whole time. They strapped him to a table (I think that that was the scariest part) and gave him four shots of numbing stuff. While this was being done, they had a nurse dipping his binky in sugar water to distract him. After the first shot, he didn't cry and actually fell asleep. I cried more than he did. And they gave us some Vaseline gauze to keep it covered with for two weeks. He's not 4 years old and has no memory of it. I do know a guy who had it done as an adult and he said it was horrible. It was an actual surgery and his girlfriend showed me pics of when it was done and it was swollen and bruised. He hurt for weeks.

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Answered by Barbie - Mar. 22, 2013 6:50pm
- continued- circumcision is considered normal.

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Answered by Barbie - Mar. 22, 2013 6:48pm
I'm 35 weeks and plan on having my son circumcised as soon as possible. For two main reasons, for one- it is a little more hygienic. And for two- at least where I'm from circumcision is considered "normal" and a penis that is uncircumcised is considered "abnormal".
I live in America and I remember being in high school and boys would make fun of other boys for having a weird penis (uncircumcised). I also remember some of my girlfriends made fun of guys who still had their foreskin. I know that is wrong but that is how the world works in some places.
Personally and from conversations with my girlfriends, a LOT of girls find uncircumcised penises unattractive and funny looking. I don't go around asking men what kind of penis they have so I only know one person who isn't circumcised and I only know that because he dated my friend and he told her he felt like less of a man because he still had his "baby penis". It is your choice but where I'm from circumcisio

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Answered by lyssa787 - Mar. 22, 2013 4:14pm
I understand that it isn't something done in the UK, and so if I was there, my hubby and I probably wouldn't have it done. There are ways of "undoing" in the future, which are painful, but available. Just as there is still the option of circumcision when they are older, but it is more painful. It's kind of like dew claws on a puppy. They're taken off because there is the risk that they'll snag on something when the dog is older and running around. When they're taken off as a puppy there is VERY minimal pain and bleeding, however, if done as an adult, the dog must then be taken into actual surgery for it to be done. But again, some dogs do just fine with dew claws. It's kind of like, if you think your son will ever want it done, or wished it had been, then you may decide to just do it now since now is when it's the easiest. I love the comment about finding out why it's important to your husband. Whatever you decide, be in union on the decision :)

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Answered by a member - Mar. 22, 2013 3:35pm
I had my son circumcised at birth. My husband believes in it and with me not having a penis I trust him. With an uncircumcised penis you have a risk of infection underneath the foreskin and when he is grown he will want his man parts to be "normal" like everyone else. My son had his done with the plastibell and we never had an issue at all with it. It fell off within a week and he never once was in pain from it. The inject a local around his man parts and slip the bell on. Very noninvasive. He was gone from my room an hour at most. They send you home with an ointment and you just put the ointment on his little parts for a few weeks. I will do it again with this baby if we are blessed with another boy :)

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Answered by a member - Mar. 22, 2013 2:57pm
Hi, I understand your worries. I have 2 sons and they are both circumcised and doing perfectly well. The first one was circumcised by a Rabbi when he was 14 days old (it was going to be when he was 8 days old but he had jaundice) and my 2nd son was circumcised when he was over a year because he was born with a condition called hypospadias (it was a mild form and to correct it he had to be at least a year old) and with this I didn't have a choice anyway because it would have had to be done.
For me I was happy about this as I was brought up in a family and culture where this was normal. I also believe it is much more hygienic and the sight of the penis looks the same anyway when it is erect if you are also worried about that.
If you do decide to go ahead with it I'm sure you will get lots of support from your doctor and the care and cleaning is quite easy. Try to speak to your hubby again so you can enjoy being pregnant with a boy.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do. :)


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Answered by Razzle_ - Mar. 22, 2013 2:18pm
Im in the UK and this is not something done here and to be honest it turns my stomach a little - My boy was born seven weeks ago and no way on Gods earth would I allow anyone to cut him, especially there. Surely it should be their decision when thy grow?
I will add though that my opinion is based on my own feelings and actually i have never understood the reasons behind circumcision.

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Answered by a member - Mar. 22, 2013 2:12pm
thanks so much ladies! i do feel a little better, i didnt know it was done right in the nursery. i picture them stealing my baby away to a big scary operating room, and not seeing him for what seems like hours, and hearing tiny screams... i guess it was like a nightmare in my head. thanks so much for helping me realize its not so bad

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Answered by a member - Mar. 22, 2013 1:52pm
So, either way, there is a tiny risk, as with anything. Try not to stress about it too much; it will be ok!

We've decided to have it done to my son when he comes in a few weeks!

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