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Q: Infertile

Hello everyone! I have been reading a lot on this forum and from all this reading I found out that I am not the only one who is suffering from infertility problems. I come from a family where every woman has had normal pregnancies and get to have babies very easily. But in my case, I have been trying for 10 years and still don't have any children. My doctor has declared me to be infertile for unknown reasons. I have gone through IUI 2 times but failed both times. Thinking about going for IVF this time as my doctor has suggested. I do not know much about the whole process. I am scared of another failure. I know stress can mess up everything for me again but I just cannot help it. I cannot ignore all the judgment that is passed onto me due to my infertility. I have not told my whole family about IVF yet, I think they will make a fuss about it and make me feel uncomfortable. I hope to get some positive comments and some support over here. I would really appreciate some help.

This question was asked Feb. 3, 2018 11:03am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 29, 2018 2:52am

If IUI is not working for you. It's very doubtful whether the IVF will work or not. I think you should consider surrogacy. Surrogacy is really good for your case and it's going to help you in your case. I wish you get your child soon. Just keep your hopes up.

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Answered by Meezee - Mar. 24, 2018 4:23am

I feel really sorry for what happened with you. I was infertile and there were very few chances. Like you i was struggling for ten years and hence doctor recommended me surrogacy as i was getting old so i searched for surrogacy clinics in Europe and there found many clinics. After all those struggling now i have twins. I hope you come up with good decision. Best of luck for your future.

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Answered by sally28 - Mar. 23, 2018 6:44pm

Hey! Don't worry, sweetheart! Everything is going to be fine. Nothing bad is going to happen, I'm sure. Don't be scared of people. People are there to talk. Don't listen to them. Just relax and think about your future. IVF can help you so go for it. Find a good clinic for yourself. I hope the treatment goes successfully this time. I'll pray for you. Good luck, sweety!

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Answered by monika123 - Mar. 23, 2018 3:07pm

Hey, there I am sure it must be very difficult for you to cope with infertility and then people making it even more difficult for you. My personal advice to you would be to keep it confidential. The clinic I am going to keep your treatment confidential. They make sure that your life and privacy are respected. I think that is something which is extremely important. IVF has been helping so many people get pregnant so I think you should definitely give it a try. It definitely requires a lot more patience. As you will have to take some shots before and once the eggs are retrieved you will have to wait anxiously for the embryo to develop. I know a lot of people for whom IVF works out maybe after 3 cycles. So you will have to prepare your mind for that as well. Make sure the clinic you opt for is doing this procedure professionally and in an experienced manner. A lot of doctors don't take it seriously, however, make sure they know what they are doing. As someone who is unaware might scar you

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Answered by emma_grey - Mar. 23, 2018 10:29am

Dear mate, you have suffered a lot. Life is the name of hardships but strong is the one who face them. One who don’t kill you makes you stronger. As you have mentioned, it proves that you don’t have any genetic issues. Still you are facing infertility may be due to some health issues. If you have ever faced some consequences like this or may have an accident. Well my sympathy is with you. I have read many people sharing their experience here and much of them have mentioned that they had face failure for over more than times but still they had success at the end. The other option left is adoption, but having your own baby is always best. IVF is also an option but it’s very technical process and have very low success rates. I think you should give IUI another chance and this time choose some well reputed clinic. Because IUI has maximum success rates and I hope it will work for you this time. Blast of luck!

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Answered by RihanaSam - Mar. 23, 2018 5:35am

I don’t know who it feels to be a one.But i guess they are good people who help others.
I am going for the surrogacy option as their is no other way to have a baby of my own.
I consulted a clinic regarding surrogacy they provided me a positive feedback.
There are very good clinics regarding surrogacy as i’m sharing my experience with all of you.
For now i have convinced my husband to go for surrogacy and he is ready too.
I contacted a clinic for surrogacy method and they responded very well to my questions.
I suggest you to go for this clinic and atleast you should contact them and share your problem with them so that they can propose a better solution for you.
As they suggested surrogacy option for us.
Now they are looking for a good woman for our baby who can carry our baby in her womb for 9 months.
They will find a good female with all clear tests so that we don’t have to face any issue later.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 21, 2018 11:47pm

There's already a lot that you suffered. I am feeling very bad for you dear. I don't know what to say. I guess if IUI method never worked for you. Using IVF is an opposite to wasting more time. I guess you should just leave it right there. Just try to go for some other method. There are only two methods left after that. Surrogacy and adoption. Both are really good methods and must help you with your problems. Don't worry. Just try to be strong.

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Answered by rihana012 - Mar. 21, 2018 2:12pm

Hey, I am facing Infertility for 7 years. I was suggested IVF by my gynaecologist. I asked many other doctors for suggestions. But some of them suggested that go for Surrogacy. It was hard for me to decide. So I asked on different forums about IVF. They also suggested me that go for surrogacy because IVF is risky and it is less successful. So I made my mind for surrogacy. I went to the suggested clinic. The clinic is renown for surrogacy in Europe. the staff was so professional. They provided me all the services. I met my surrogate and she had no medical complications. I am a happy mother now. I am happy that I chose right thing on right time.

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Answered by rihana012 - Mar. 21, 2018 2:08pm

Hey. You are at right place to know about it. I have a daughter through surrogacy. It is a safe and simple process to have babies. If you cannot conceive or you cannot maintain pregnancy you can go for surrogacy. People who face infertility always go for surrogacy. It is legal in many countries. But the thing you have to keep in your mind is that you should opt the best clinic for it. The clinic's matter a lot. I went for surrogacy from Europe. I was given the best surrogate. It's never easy for surrogate when she realizes that she is going to give birth to someone else baby. I faced fertility problem 7 years and after that, I was blessed with the daughter. We should respect such woman who does it someone happiness. I am happy that I and my DH are now happy parents.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 15, 2018 3:13pm

I think IVF would be best for you. See this is the kind of problem that is so much viral these days. I think every 2 mothers out of 100 are facing the same issue. Still it gives something to science. If that problem was not so much viral than how could there be so much innovations in the world. I think it's something. Well yes go for IVF. Just make sure that if you are planning to go to some clinic for the package than just try to take the multicycle process. I think that would be really well for you. I just think so. Other than that you are just good to go. Be always happy dear. I wish a life time of happiness with you. May you be well always.

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