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Q: Infertile

Hello everyone! I have been reading a lot on this forum and from all this reading I found out that I am not the only one who is suffering from infertility problems. I come from a family where every woman has had normal pregnancies and get to have babies very easily. But in my case, I have been trying for 10 years and still don't have any children. My doctor has declared me to be infertile for unknown reasons. I have gone through IUI 2 times but failed both times. Thinking about going for IVF this time as my doctor has suggested. I do not know much about the whole process. I am scared of another failure. I know stress can mess up everything for me again but I just cannot help it. I cannot ignore all the judgment that is passed onto me due to my infertility. I have not told my whole family about IVF yet, I think they will make a fuss about it and make me feel uncomfortable. I hope to get some positive comments and some support over here. I would really appreciate some help.

This question was asked Feb. 3, 2018 11:03am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by sally28 - Mar. 9, 2018 10:51am

Hi jilly! It's sad to know that you are going through the same problem that I was once going through. It gets very hard to live when you have so much stress. I know you're a very strong lady. You did not lose hope and kept trying. Keeping your hopes alive is what matters the most. In your case, I've seen a lot of positivism. I'm sure that if you keep faith in yourself, then surely you will get what you want. No doubt, infertility has become a very common issue these days. Many women are suffering from this problem. But I have seen so many cases where the ladies go for IVF or surrogacy and they have children now. I would advise you to go as your doctor tells you too. But make some research on good clinics too. My friend has baby girl through surrogacy. She got herself treated from a clinic in Eastern Europe. One should always be very careful in such matters. After all, it is a very sensitive issue. Good luck!

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 8, 2018 6:19am

Yes well according to your situation this is the best option of you. Consult with the sperm bank first. Now a day's a technology has become so far that banks have those frozen samples of the sperms and most amazingly you can see the report of the sperm donor in which these banks puts every little detail of them and you can chose on your own with your favorite one among the profiles.

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Answered by EmilyRossum - Mar. 7, 2018 6:31pm

Hi, Jilly. How are you. Hope you're doing good. I just wanted to say that don't worry I know it's a lot of stress. But there are thousands of people going through the same situation. Procedures like IVF and surrogacy have made life so much easier. I also didn't conceive for 3 years. Then I finally decided to contact a clinic. And they suggested to me to go for surrogacy. They found me a surrogate mother. And the whole process went smoothly. So I'd suggest you to go for it too. Hopefully you'll have a good experience. You'll feel how it is to be a mother. This new technology has helped so many people across the globe. I am sure it'll help you too. Much love. Good luck

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Answered by CandyGarett - Mar. 5, 2018 2:45am

Hey there. Yes, you are not the only one fighting from this evil. It is prevailing all over the world very rapidly. I am really sorry to know about your failures. You have been through a lot, I must say.
I am glad to know that you are still trying to fight it. This is so good to know that you are a strong lady. IVF is a process which is helping many in need. It has a high success rate.
You should go for it with positive mind and lots of strength.
Lots of love and power to you.

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Answered by jilly6768 - Mar. 4, 2018 4:06pm

Hey NeovictoriaMom, thanks for the reply.
My husband got checked last week. Everything is good with him. It is now obvious that the problem lies with me. I am really not happy with my current doctor.
I feel like I do not get the amount of attention that's necessary for my case. But I do not have many options. This one is the only nice one I know about.
Feel free to suggest a doctor if you know of any.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 4, 2018 1:18pm

Well what can I say I am really sorry for your condition. Still you see it's not some sort of family problem. If it is happening with you it doesn't mean that it is inherited issue. This could happen to anybody dear. Still you can go for many other things as well. Now a days allot of other techniques are there. You can always go for them. I am wishing you best of luck dear. Take care allot.

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Answered by Romana - Mar. 4, 2018 10:56am

Hi dear. I know this problem is causing so much problems these days. And many couples are facing this problem. You are not the only one. So you have to be strong as this is the only way you can have a baby in your life. I think surrogacy is the best option for you. You just need to be strong enough to deal with this situation. You can go for this option and have a baby. After reading your post i can feel your your condition that how much mentally disturbed you are.Your husband have to support you if he truly want to have a baby. You can read suggestions from different experienced couples in this forum. This forum have all the information regarding this process. You just have to spent extra time to do research. And believe me it's the most important phase in having a baby through surrogacy. I am sure you have suggested this from your doctor. Visit your doctor regularly to solve your problem as soon as possible.

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Answered by saramccartney123 - Mar. 3, 2018 8:02pm

Hey. You must be going through such a hard time. Other people's reaction is so disappointing. I mean, is it not enough that the person is already going through something? They just have to make it worse. Ten years is a long time. Your post made me very sad. You should listen to your doctor and go for IVF. I hope IVF works for you. You have to stay hopeful. Even it doesn't work, don't lose the hope. There are other options that you can also consider. You don't have to tell your family about it. It is your life and your decision. Nobody has the right to make you feel bad. Good luck with everything.

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Answered by clara002 - Feb. 21, 2018 5:18am

Hello Jilly.Infertility is a great problem.Every second woman has this issue.I am feeling sad about you.I was trying to conceive for 4 years.In 4 years I am getting too much depressed and heartbroken.I am getting the negative and negative test.I just thinking, when my time comes.When I have sort out things clear.I can understand your situation with my condition after 4 years struggle.It's really been a hard time.First, my husband is not willing to have surrogacy or IVF process.We are not financially very stable.The main problem is about the cost of this process.Now, I have insisting to have to take this process on them.After a long time thinking, we decided to go through for surrogacy.My husband and I completely got ready to visit the clinic.We have great hope and positive thoughts.You all people pray for us.

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Answered by anjalika - Feb. 18, 2018 4:08pm

Thank you for your help and concern loris. I am happy that I got to find the solution to my problem. I have been reading many IVF success stories. They really help me to keep going. Support from people like you really means the world to me. Thank you so much for the clinic suggestion. I have read a great deal about it too. I also searched for it on youtube and got to watch some videos by them. Through the comment section, I contacted people that got their treatments done from there. All the responses are very nice. Just digging more information about the packages affordability.

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