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Asked by jilly6768

Q: Infertile

Hello everyone! I have been reading a lot on this forum and from all this reading I found out that I am not the only one who is suffering from infertility problems. I come from a family where every woman has had normal pregnancies and get to have babies very easily. But in my case, I have been trying for 10 years and still don't have any children. My doctor has declared me to be infertile for unknown reasons. I have gone through IUI 2 times but failed both times. Thinking about going for IVF this time as my doctor has suggested. I do not know much about the whole process. I am scared of another failure. I know stress can mess up everything for me again but I just cannot help it. I cannot ignore all the judgment that is passed onto me due to my infertility. I have not told my whole family about IVF yet, I think they will make a fuss about it and make me feel uncomfortable. I hope to get some positive comments and some support over here. I would really appreciate some help.

This question was asked Feb. 3, 2018 11:03am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by anjalika - Feb. 18, 2018 3:48pm

It has been a long time Jilly since you have been TTC. I do not know how have you coped with everything all this time. Women are known for their patience and you my friend, are a great example for all of us. Even after 10 years of trying you haven't given up and I really respect you for that. I have seen couples who give up after 2 - 3 years and spend their lives sadly.I am very glad that you are still trying. Your choice of IVF is a good one. I work as a part-time nurse in the local hospital in the gyne ward. I have seen people getting their babies through IVF. The site of their happiness is really worth watching. Try watching some success stories on youtube, they will make you feel good. Do not care about what people say or think as it is your life and your happiness matters the most. But remember one thing, the choice of the clinic matters a lot. Do not get your IVF done from any local clinic, your experience might not go well. Search for the best, you can contact me for help.

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Answered by Amelia - Feb. 11, 2018 2:33pm

hello jilly!!! I read your post and can imagine how much mentally disturbed you are. When we live in a family and don’t able to do anything then every member looks at you with some pitiful eyes. I know. So my suggestion to you is making a decision and go for treatment. After making decision convince yourself that you have to do. Don’t lose hope. you have to be brave like every woman who goes through it. Stay happy!!!

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Answered by crystallove - Feb. 10, 2018 9:13pm

Hello there. First of all, you really need to get all the negativity out of your life immediately. There's nothing else out there more dangerous than negativity that you get from people that do not even care about you. Be chill about your treatment. I am very sure that you will do fine. be with the people who really care for you and who really love you.

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Answered by NeoVictorianMom - Feb. 9, 2018 2:37pm

hello there, has your husbands fertility been checked ? because more often then not the problem falls on the man. if he is fine you need to find a doctor who specializes in infertility. It doesn't sound to me like your current doctor cares too much about what your going thru, to do all the testing and he should have sent your husband for testing as well. just some thoughts. keep trying and keep your hopes up.

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Answered by jenifercox - Feb. 6, 2018 6:00pm

Well this is really strange. How is this possible. I am feeling strange about this. You should have to go for some tests for your serious check up. You should have to take care allot of yourself. I think stress could be the reason for your issue. May you get well soon dear. Don't be worry about anything. If you are nit pregnant than may be that is something good for you. don't worry everything will be fine. Best of luck dear. Take care allot. Best of luck.

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Answered by jenifercox - Feb. 6, 2018 5:58pm

Yes you are right stress could mess up things for you. Don't worry it's nothing to worry about. It's completely normal. Just try to take care of yourself. Try to be calm and keep patience. Everything is going to be fine. This is really good method. You should try that. May you get well soon dear. Best of luck. I hope everything good comes up for you.

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Answered by Loris201 - Feb. 6, 2018 7:49am

Hi dear. I know this is a problem for many couples. I want to tell you that IVF is really a good option. You can go for this option. This is a good option. IVF treatment also has a good success. It was awful to hear about your infertility. Infertility in women is growing every day. It is true that IVF and IUI procedures do not come with a 100% guarantee. However, with regard to surrogate motherhood, it has the highest success rates compared to any other infertility treatment. This allows parents to share a genetic connection with your children. Biotexcom in Ukraine Kiev provides class services in this regard. Contact us for further details. They could offer you the best. You can also get the best rate from there. Just try it. I hope I helped you

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Answered by jilly6768 - Feb. 5, 2018 4:07pm

Hello Ella. Thanks for your advice. I myself or my doctor isn't sure about the reasons behind my infertility and my failures. This is the main reason that keeps bugging me the most and makes me sad. If I only someone could find out the exact reason behind my infertility. Thanks for the details you shared. And yes you are completely right, It is my life's decision and I should not care about anyone else.

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Answered by jilly6768 - Feb. 5, 2018 4:06pm

Hi Pheobe412. If only it was this easy to find out what exactly is wrong with me. I have lived a normal life and through getting my self-check by Doctors I have no kind of a deficiency. If there were any kind of deficiency in my body then the doctor would have pointed it out by now. I myself am very confused that how can such Qualified doctor not find out the exact problem with me in this modern age where there is every possible way to find things out. Yeah, I had an abortion when I was 20 years old but I do not think so that has to do anything with my infertility. But still, thank you for your advice. Thank you for your wishes and support. I love people like you!

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Answered by pheobe412 - Feb. 5, 2018 4:36am

Hi there, I hope you are good. I hope you find this at your best. Please try and think that what could be the possible reason. Some food you get. Something that is never happened before. You took supplement before or never. Any reason could cost this you. I must say you need to be careful now. I am really sorry for you dear. May you get well soon. My all prays are with you. I wish everything good happened for you. Best of luck.

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