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Q: Confliction of interest..

We are due to have a little girl in 15 weeks time and are stuck for a name.

Well I say stuck and actually mean we are fighting like cats and dogs over her name!

My partner likes one name and I like another, the problem is we both dislike each others chosen name.

Any time I come up with a new suggestion he turns his nose up at it or has never heard of it...lol

Is anyone else having this problem? Help!! lol

This question was asked May. 18, 2012 10:39am
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Answered by Maybebaby - Sep. 2, 2012 5:49pm
Seeing as I have to do all the growing of mine nd my husbands first child, and our baby gets his last name, I get to pick the first name, and the middle name we choose together. We thought this to be fair and had no trouble deciding


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Answered by tibby8 - May. 18, 2012 4:19pm
lol we are having the same exact problem only for a boy! my DH hates all my names im throwing out there; he either hasnt heard of it or says its a horrible name and doesnt go well with the last name. Hes just being picky but ive decided to try to use both our names one being the first and one the middle name. if that does not work make the list ideaa that was mentioned, it sounds llike a good idea

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Answered by Steph35 - May. 18, 2012 2:40pm
The humor in this is after this well-organized process, it still came down to his favorite name and my favorite name. I "won" the debate (but I agreed that if our next baby is a girl, his favorite name wins). LOL

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Answered by Steph35 - May. 18, 2012 2:40pm
I like the idea of making separate lists and then compare. Maybe when your partner actually has some pressure of coming up with names he likes on his own, he might start listening to you more.

In our case, we each had our own favorite name (but didn't "despise" the other's favorite name). But we decided to investigate other options since neither of us was fully convinced. My DH and I agreed on her middle name (after my mom who passed away), so we went through several baby name websites and wrote down every name that either of us liked for the first name. My DH is hispanic with an ethnic last name, so we had to keep that in mind. After we came up with the "mega-list" we then eliminated names that just didn't sound good with the last name. Then with the remaining names, we would call the baby by that name for a day or so whenever we talked about her....we were able to knock off a bunch of names by doing that.



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Answered by Leniana - May. 18, 2012 2:08pm
With my first son I just ended up making a list and he picked one of the names off it LOL. We came up with the middle name together after the first name was settled. Maybe you could both make a list with about 20 names and see if any match? Maybe you will get lucky! Then he doesn't have to feel a lot of pressure to "come up with a name" that you may not like and vice versa, and you both get to list out names you like.

This one hubby wanted to use the middle name of my dad & brother, and then he just kept throwing first names at me til one "stuck".. He was having the same complaints that I was vetoing all the names until then LOL.

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Answered by SugarBearBaez - May. 18, 2012 1:00pm
I told DH he could choose this babies name so I pray it will just be a name well suited...

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Answered by amy_toner - May. 18, 2012 12:05pm
We are the same Klara,

I am Scottish/Irish and my partner is Polish. The baby will carry his surname but he doesn't want a Polish first name. Urggh it's so unfair!! lol



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Answered by danni179 - May. 18, 2012 11:54am
I had this problem to... i think most couples do. We both had our own suggestions and HATED each others. There was no way I was even able to compromise on being a middle name because why would you have a name that either one of you hated????
but it was only 3 days ago we have finally agreed on a name...it was never on our original list, neither of us would ever have picked it as won't be an obvious choice when family hear it at the birth, but it works. When you find it you will know.

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Answered by klara2222 - May. 18, 2012 11:47am
I'm with tinkerbell26 on this. DH and I have agreed that since the baby will have his last name (we have different last names), I get the final say on first name. I don't know for sure how we will decide on a middle name if there's a stalemate. Since our backgrounds are different (he's Irish/Scottish, I'm German), it's important to me to have a German first name :)

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Answered by Candy777 - May. 18, 2012 11:44am
*Regardless, and pls excuse many of the other spelling errors lol.. been a long day...

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