Questions & Answers

Throwing a fork isn't bad at all especially after he knocked your plate out of your hands! and its very true, hit you once he'll do it again. I've lived with it and it mostly started happening when i was pregnant

throwing a fork is just like hitting someone, and if the cops came you wouldve been arrested as well...i threw my cell phone at my DH and I got arrested for domestic violence, he dropped charges but cop said "YOU PROVOKED HIM BY HITTING HIM WITH A CELL PHONE FIRST" "YOU ASKED FOR IT" and thats not true at all...and was ignorant on cops behalf but still in the eyes of the law thats how it works!!
VIOLENCE IS NOT THE ANSWER! BOTH OF YOU WERE WRONG! YOU NEED TO GET OUT!! GO STAY WITH A FRIEND OR FAMILY MEMBER THERE IS NOOOOO EXCUSE FOR YOU TO STAY!! IT WILL NOT STOP!! NO MATTER HOUW MUCH YOU WANT TO BELIEVE IT WILL..HES NOT SORRY HE WILL HIT YOU AGAIN AND AGAIN AND AGAIN!! how long before he starts abusing your child???

i say this is just ridiculous! YOU NEED TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR BABY! YOUR BABY ISNT EVEN BORN AND YOUR PUTTING HIM/HER IN HARMS WAY! NO EXCUSE! IF YOU DONT LEAVE , ITS GOING TO KEEP GETTING WORSE AND THERES NO EXCUSE FOR STAYING!! JUST IMAGINE HOW ROUGH ITLL BE AND HOW HELL REACT WHEN THERES AN INFANT SCREAMING AND CRYING....WHAT HAPPENS THEN!! THIS JUST MAKES ME UTTERLY SICK HE NEEDS HELP! HAVE HIS ASS ARRESTED AND GET AN ORDER OF PROTECTION! AND CALL SOME HOTLINES AND GOTO YOUR LOCAL WELFARE OFFICE FOR ASSISTANCE MOVING AND TELL THEM WHAT HAPPEND!!! YOU NEED TO KEEP A RECORD OF IT,JUST INCASE! GOOOD LUCK AND GET OUT

Also, his actions the way they played out..verbal(whore), then physical(dinner plate) ..between 2 men..would have been an invite to fight. So..now you put a this young lady on the other end of that invite..

One more thing..I also believe that men do get belittled in our society when it comes to domestic abuse..and women do use it as excuse to be violent toward them..I see your point with that Looney. I just don't think this is that situation. From what she has wrote at least.

Looney..I respect a lot of your different ways(your potty training..and frankly uniqueness to growing children..:))
..but..combating a situation like this with sarcasm..not good. This girl is looking for advice and I'm sure she wasn't looking for women to come on her arguing. I think there was enough of that for her and that's why she is on here asking for advice. I dont think anybody on here is condoning any violence..I will say..that men are genetically built to be stronger, faster, more intimidating by nature..There for putting women in a dissipation to feel helpless. So when I man threatens with words and it quickly escalates to physically hitting something out of your hands...they are showing no boundaries and or restrain from there on out. Throwing the fork was out of fear..I think that that is obvious here. Not ok..but..when your threatened, your first reactions aren't gonna be the most thought out. Ive had schooling in the counseling too.:)

Your right violence is not ok by either gender, but you cannot put throwing a fork and hitting someone in the same catagory, and I don't care what you do for living, doesn't mean your right, nor does it mean I am, but people are allowed to disagree with you, without you getting an attitude.

It is true what looney says.. its unacceptable for both men and women to show violence towards anyone. Because of my past and what I saw as a young child during my early yrs what is scary is I have totally had violent tendencies towards men. For me it feels like a "self defense mechinism" which is so dumb.. I have def had to get my share of help but .. THAT is just another reason why .. if this was to continue just living proof of what can happen when I child both UNBORN and young child can deal with and experience in their life negative life experiences affect so much more than parents realize. :/ Its really sad and really sucks.

Oh im sorry, i forgot we live in a world where female violence is acceptable (slapping men, throwing things at them) but the slightest bit of male violence is condemned with the utmost stringency. ;) It's okay. I know how this works. Again, I think they both need anger management help, but that is only advice coming from a certified domestic violence counselor (me), so no need to heed my advice ;) It wont hurt my feelings.

Please don't think you're an idiot for throwing a fork at him. I might have thrown something at my DH if he behaved that way too. He still had no right to hit you....there's no excuse for that. The other ladies here have given you lots of good advice. Just don't think that his behavior is okay. If he does it once, it's very likely that he'll do it again. You have more than just yourself to think of now. Just something to keep in mind. I wish you all the best.

wow! If he hits you once he will hit you twice. I would be going to stay with some other family members if i were you..