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Q: I'm 31 weeks pregnant. My ex boyfriend JJ and I had sex in October.

My last period was November 15 a website told me my baby was concived November 29th. My ex wants a DNA test but I have no doubt in my mind that he isent the father, because me and my ex Dexter had sex a little bit after Christmas and we didnt do it for that long because I didnt feel comfortable so he stopped. By the way I was a month pregnant in December. My ex JJ never wire a confom and we had sex alot. Can somebody help me I keep praying that the DNA will prove he is the father but wanted somebody I didnt know to help me with this.

This question was asked Jun. 23, 2012 2:13am
Category: Relationships During Pregnancy

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Answered by Jessicacreative - Sep. 28, 2016 4:40pm
You can't count exactly, because such things are very personal. If this question worries you a lot, take non-invasive prenatal paternity test https://dnasu.com/services/prenatal-test/ You'll know exactly. Get to know it and enjoy your pregnancy. Results will come in 3 days.

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Answered by a member - Jun. 25, 2012 8:13pm
I am reading your entries and am just so sad, that in these times you are being so careless with your life. Anyways, everyday is a new day to choose better for yourself, and now your unborn. God's mercies are new every morning and his grace is sufficient for us. Please take care of yourself and your baby, forget about who's the father for right now. Honestly, what do you think JJ would think of you if he knew you slept with all these people while your are suppose to be in a relationship with him (my assumption is that you are in a relationship with him) if you are not in a relationship with JJ, this baby (if it is his baby) will not keep him in a relationship with you. Women must understand this, children don't make men want or love you. when they want to go, they'll go whether there's a child or not. Please Please Please, get it together, you are young, (my assumption) and you now have a great responsibility to be the best you can be for this child. Stop sleeping around.

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Answered by Mamaof2soon3 - Jun. 25, 2012 4:21pm
You have a lot of if, maybes involved with this scenario and seem to be confused no matter what people are telling you. So my advice is to have the baby..enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Focus on you and the baby. Let the baby get a little use to the world outside of your tummy then begin having people tested. How ever you go about it. If that's by going by which person you are hoping to be the father..or by logistics of when and where things took place. That is all up to you. Just testing people due to preference of fathering is not practical..because these test are costly I'm assuming. So instead of trying to hurt your brain while your pregnant (pregnancy brain..and the fogginess that comes with it), just relax for now..you've come this far..no need to stress when you are so close. Easier said then done I'm sure..but, you need to for your baby. Everything happens for a reason..and everything will work out in the end. Good Luck. God bless you and that little peanut.

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Answered by a member - Jun. 24, 2012 11:26pm
even if you did wipe it up, sperm are microscopic. its impossible to wipe it all away once its there. i hope you get your situation figured out, best of luck.

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Answered by a member - Jun. 24, 2012 5:43pm
I have a app on my phone its a pregnancy app it tells me what week i'm at. When I first found out I was pregnant my doctor told me he was counting from November not my period because I didn't know when my last period was. A few days ago I looked it up thats when it said I had my last period November 15. JJ left sometime in November but I don't know when the last time we had sex and I know he doesn't remember either. We always had sex and he never used a condom he will tell me when he came he would tell me to wipe it off me but I don't if I wiped it all up.

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Answered by a member - Jun. 24, 2012 4:25pm
So, how are you determining that you are 31 weeks pregnant? Ultrasound? Those aren't as accurate for dating purposes later in pregnancy (when you found out you were pregnant). You'll have to test all 5 guys once the baby is born because you might be earlier or later than you think you are. Good luck!

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Answered by looney - Jun. 23, 2012 10:36pm
She doesnt actually know she had her period on Nov 16. Using her Due Date her doctor gave her from measurements, she same up with her LMP using the internet. She actually has no idea when her last period was, it's all based off the size of her baby that her dr. gave her that due date/LMP. So all any of us can guess is she was fertile all during November and December. That's all anyone can speculate, gestational dating can be off by weeks sometimes.

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Answered by a member - Jun. 23, 2012 8:18pm
and the whole "conceived on the 29th thing" that you are worried about...you could have had sex up to 5 days BEFORE November 29th and if the sperm was present when you ovulated you could have conceived up to 5 days AFTER you had sex. You don't have to have sex on the day you ovulate to get pregnant. So if you slept with those 2 guys or Malcom anytime within a week of the 29th of November including the 27th and 28th, you could have gotten pregnant. So, stop focusing on that one date. Sperm lives much longer than the egg does.

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Answered by a member - Jun. 23, 2012 8:15pm
Not judging, but you should have mentioned that there were 5 father possibilities at the beginning of this thread instead of pretending like you didn't have any sex at the end of November...now it all makes a LOT more sense.

Anyway, It's probably NOT JJ since the last time you had sex with him was late October/beginning of November (and you DID have a period in November AFTER you had sex with JJ) so as much as you want it to be him, it doesn't sound like it is. It also doesn't sound like Dexter either because you said you didn't have sex with him until after Christmas. So, it's most likely either Malcolm or one of the 2 guys you had the threesome with. It you were tipsy/drunk and they were tipsy/drunk they might not have used the condoms correctly (and condoms aren't 100% anyway). I'd test those 3 first because the odds are that it's one of them. Good luck to you!

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Answered by JazziePitre91 - Jun. 23, 2012 7:15pm
Thank you so much you have been a big help through all of this. I talked to JJ today he said the last time we had sex was the begging of November I remember because he left sometime in November and I had to ask to make sure. He never wore a condom we had sex alot and thats why I believe he is the father. then i read something online about my last period it said i got it November 15 and the day that i conceived was the 29th. I didn't go hang out with them till the 27th or the 28th i'm worried but i will test them JJ is getting tested first because he is buying the dna test from walgreens.

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