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i think ur husband is out of order
im 31 weeks and suffer pelvic hip and back pain i struggle to walk 5-10 mins but with a 2 year old gotta live with it
i clean everyday but my boyfriend does moan at me and tries to make me sit down and he will do it but i get so pissed opf with it makes me feel lie im a right retard i hate not doing stuff when pregnant i just relax when house is tidy and when little girl goes to bed but my partner does help alot so i dont do to much and strain myself

Hi I know you answered back but I thought I would tell you how I would deal with it; in fact have done so in the past. I sat him down and explained that I am trying and if he looked about he would see that, esp seeing as he had clean clothes on and was eating dinner off clean plates!! Also the bit about him blowing his top once he seen you painting your nails; I would say to him look you are giving yourself some You time seeing as in a few weeks neither one of you will have time for that. I don't think he is being unreasonable just silly at that moment of time, men just don't understand the work your body is putting in growing and carrying a baby xxx

I think your husband needs to shut his mouth and do some dishes. Even not pregnant, this is 2012, traditional family values have gone out the window. It shouldn't be a woman's responsibility to take care of absolutely everything in the house 24/7. That's just ridiculous. He needs to be understanding to the fact that you are GROWING A CHILD and pitch in instead of complaining. He's just as capable of cleaning as you are. If you're anything like me, you're achy, tired, wear out easily, and end up in pain if you push yourself too hard. My DH vacuums, dusts, helps with dishes, carries heavy laundry baskets up the stairs for me, and tells me to sit my butt down and let him clean up when I cook dinner. Hell, if I've had an exceptionally rough day, he cooks dinner after working a full time job. He takes the time to understand what my body is going through and does what he can to keep me from overdoing it and feeling miserable.

There is no excuse for him being such an ass. My opinion.

I have been like that since before I got a + I have been super tired and super sick and I cant keep the house clean for more than a day and find it had to even cook, which leads to eating out which is rubbish all the time, and its not good with having 3 small children too. my Partner moans at me too cos he works full time, I understand where he is coming from a bit, but I cant make him understand how tired and Ill I feel. I wasn't like this with my other 3 so I think thats why he cant get his head around it. I just ignore him to be honest.

... dont feel bad about it! It's common for women to get that way.

listen girl. if your tired you are tired don't understand why its so har for men to understand that. im a very clean person with two kids a dog and a husband i dont work outside but for sure i work all day and nigth at home and sometimes i can't take it no more of cleaning, cooking, taking care of the kids and doing everithing else, what i do its the following i make sure everything its clean before husband gets home but i rest in the day and when he gets home i have his meal ready and i say im going to rest for a little and THATS IT i dont care what he thinks or do, if he doesn't like the way the house is he can do it him self.

I'm going through almost the same thing- DH here is completely lazy! Today was his last day off (he works three on, three off) and he knew that he had a bunch of things to do, therefore he got up this morning complaining that his side hurt (after asking me last night where his appendix were). But he was fine enough to get up to go outside to smoke, and when his buddy called, he was fine to go there too.
It doesn't seem to bother him that things get behind here. I'm the same as you- just cooking dinner tires me out, little alone cleaning behind him and our daughter (who is cleaner than what he is at this point!!). It gets frustrating, that is for sure- and I don't know what to do either. Just thought I'd voice my opinion and let you know you're not alone! Good luck Mama!

To the original poster of this question: please do not listen to that first answer! I am really saddened that someone would answer a question in such a self-satisfied and judgmental way. Everyone is different and everyone has different levels of discomfort/pain/exhaustion during their pregnancies; do what is best for you and baby.

Ok, rant over, now for some practical advice. First, I would talk to your husband and try to explain to him how exhausting it is to be pregnant and that you know the housework is not up to your usual standards, but it is really difficult being so big in the 3rd trimester, etc. Reassure him that this is not a permanent change because (despite what the 1st answer says) it does get easier after the first few (really hard) months of having a newborn in the house - you get used to the routine and life gets more back to normal. Second, maybe make an effort to take care of one or two chores a day that he would appreciate the most, if you are up to it. GL!

I am only 6w5d and get tired too to where I definitely slack cleaning....however, I work full time as a teacher and have one son. If I didnt work outside of the house I would definitely not be slacking because I probably wouldnt be so tired! Hubby mentioned I am slacking a bit....but my response was, "If it bothers you....you clean it!". I used to wash floors twice a week....vacuum daily....my house is immaculate. So, when one thing is out of place my husband definitely knows I am slacking. However...a little dust never killed anyone! So I am taking my crazy cleaning down one notch....he doesnt like it....he can do it for me! But....if I was a stay at home mom....I would never dream of speaking to him like that!

i know how you feel, im exhausted 90% of the time... the way i do it... is when i DO have a little bit of energy, i get as much done as i can.. because i know this energy wont last all day. take advantage of your better moments. Even doing this, my house is not always clean, but my husband is very understanding... i think your husband is out of line but that depends on how messy it really is i guess. he should cut you some slack as long as you try your best when possible.
as for the first answer, i think its a bit silly. Get Real!! someone is trying to sound "perfect" but i highly doubt they have everything done all the time... and if you have 3 children and your house looks like its from a magazine.. then theres a problem.. maybe you should relax, get out some paint and play-doh..put down the broom and have fun with your kids!!! i understand tidyness is important when you have children but so is having fun, and thats not happening in a "magazine house"