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Q: Facebook posts by my cousin continued question here...

I was looking for work before we decided to have another baby and did not get a single reply from any place I sent my resume to, but I did take a doula certification class because I want to become a doula and am currently studying and working toward that still. I am taking my cousin's posts very personally, especially because more than one of my family members has mentioned that people ask my mom and sisters all the time how we get by. Why is that their business? We don't spend a lot, I never get my hair cut or my nails done except for Christmas and my birthday. We are so happy right now, we have been through some REALLY hard times since before I got pregnant with our first daughter who is now 2, so we are so happy right now even though we live in an apartment and have very little. I feel like people are judging us constantly, even though my husband plans to start working next year. How would you deal with the negativity surrounding how you want to live your life?

This question was asked Nov. 9, 2012 7:21pm
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Answered by addizmnz - Nov. 10, 2012 2:13am
You just have to tune out the negativity - it's not good for you to dwell on it and try to stay positive for baby's sake and your daughter's sake. Sounds like you are doing the best you can with the hand you have been dealt and if you are getting by, it is no one else's business how you do it. I agree with the others, best thing to do is block your cousin's rude comments. Also, keep in mind that there is a chance they are not personal. I have seen so many rude posts on facebook since the election about the president and people who voted for him - people are just worked up and upset that their politician didn't win. Hopefully it will subside soon! Good luck and I hope things turn around for y'all soon!

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Answered by a member - Nov. 9, 2012 8:43pm
Thank you everyone :) you are all so kind and helpful!


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Answered by a member - Nov. 9, 2012 7:49pm
i know how you feel about the Obama posts...i had someone on my facebook go as far as saying "anyone who voted for obama is not a true believer in Christ, because Obama supports gays" i was disgusted and just deleted them off my facebook.... anyway, i wouldnt take it to heart, you know that you are doing the right thing for your family. your husband EARNED his unemployment and he might as well use it. i would just ignore your cousin and try not to let it get to you.

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Answered by monroezelda - Nov. 9, 2012 7:47pm
I am the same a good cry now and then wont harm ya, better out than in that's what I say. getting upset a bit wont harm ya just try not to get stressed out about it cos thats no good to u or the baby, I would really think about just hiding there posts form ya facebook.

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Answered by a member - Nov. 9, 2012 7:31pm
Yeah, that is true, thank you. It is just hard especially when I am becoming more emotional during pregnancy!

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Answered by monroezelda - Nov. 9, 2012 7:29pm
As long as you are happy it doesn't matter about anything els, your children will appreciate the time with you more not the extra money for nails and hair :), all I can suggest is ask them if they have a problem or ignore them, theres nothing really els you can do.

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