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Q: Please can anyone help, approx 10 week scan tomorrow and conception date is so important to know

Ok here goes..I've know this girl for over 2 years as a friend but in the last 6 moths we have fallen in love and were going to make plans to be together when last month she told me she's was pregnant. She is still unhappily with her boyfriend. She pretty sure it's mine but I have more doubt about that after she told me she slept with her partner 5 day after me which I couldn't believe after what she told me bout their relationship. I slept with her on the 18 Sep and she said she slept with her partner on the 24th Sep. She says she thinks she was obvulting on the 20 or 21and first day of last period was 7th so assuming egg life thats why she's pretty certain it's
mine but how can she know exactly when the egg was available to be fertilized. I'm going to first scan with her tomorrow and need to know what to ask the scannist how accurate she can predict conception date..paternity test now aside is there anyway of knowing with a degreeof Ccertainty who's the father..HELP PLEASE

This question was asked Nov. 29, 2012 1:24pm
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Answered by Kynlees_Mommy - Dec. 1, 2012 7:30pm
I found out the gender of my daughter at 15 weeks and this baby, I have an appointment to find out at 14 weeks! So if she will be 22 weeks when you go back, you will know for sure what the babies are! My best friends pregnancy went great! She went to about 38 weeks and they were healthy and did not spend any time in the NICU! Babies are perfect still! I dont blame you, I think I would need to know for sure as well! Is it a blood test you found that doesnt have risks?

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Answered by vegasbaby - Dec. 1, 2012 6:41pm
And to the person who thinks I'm a jerk..I was under the impression she was not having sex with her partner and we were planning to be together but everyone's entitled to there on opinion..Ye paternity test thanks.

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Answered by vegasbaby - Dec. 1, 2012 6:34pm
Kynlees thanks for your advice..I have looked into this testing..is expensive but only way of knowing for sure. I feel so much for ur husbands friend must have been devastated. How was ur friends pregnancy with the I'D twins..the increased risks r a worry but sounds like it all went good :) can u find out what sex they are on second scan..I'm so stressed.I have to find out wish it wasn't so expensive but I've found a non intrusive test so no risk there but samples go to the state's for test.

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Answered by Kynlees_Mommy - Dec. 1, 2012 5:16pm
Aww! Well congrats then! My best friend has identical twin girls that are 7 months old! I wish you the best! You will be double blessed in a few months! :) I have looked online and found that a Chorionic Villus Sampling (CVS) or Amniocentesis can be done while she is pregnant to determine if you are the father.. It has a risk of miscarriage but it is very rare.. But along with the risks of losing the babies, it is pretty expensive I think but they are just as accurate as the DNA test they do after the baby is born.. May want to check into it if that is an option for you so you will know for sure.. My husbands best friend was in your situation a few years ago and was there through the whole pregnancy and birth and then found out the baby wasnt his and was devestated and I dont want you to go through that.. But at the same time, you would feel bad if you werent there for her pregnancy and birth and the babies were yours.. ya know?!

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Answered by vegasbaby - Dec. 1, 2012 1:38am
Kynles I'm still in shock..identical twins apparently and it was a week behind so better than a week I'm front I guess but like u say can't know for sure :(I think due date bit before urs but I'll need to confirm that cause heart was racing that quick could speak or take much in I'm afraid..wish I could go back to ask a few questions but can't..next scan 22 weeks..thanks for ur kind words and fingers crossed for u to..only slept for to hours last night and still can't sleep tonight..anyone know anyone who's had identical twins..I'm off to have that heart attack now


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Answered by Kynlees_Mommy - Dec. 1, 2012 12:43am
Has she had the scan yet? I agree with it being just DAYS apart, the scan wont shed much light on you that way.. My first child always measured a few days to weeks ahead of what she was and this baby is measuring just a few days behind.. If it had been a week or more apart, it would be more assuring but not only days apart.. I really hope you get the news you want but I imagine you will have to wait until the baby is born to know for certain.. If you are wanting to be the father, which it sounds like you do since you are in love with her, I truely hope you are! When is she due? Im due June 30th and am approx. 10 weeks along as well.. Good luck and please keep us updated! FINGERS CROSSED FOR GREAT NEW FOR YOU!! :)

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Answered by vegasbaby - Nov. 29, 2012 8:22pm
Thanks Maggie appears that way..I've extensively looked into this..pros and cons for all three procedures (reliability and risk not to mention not in Scotland if an invasion procedure is chosen) but all cost bout 1000 which I don't really have spare just now but not an option for another few weeks at least anyway :(

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Answered by vegasbaby - Nov. 29, 2012 8:06pm
Thing is. I'm not with her technically yet and now I don't know what to do..so difficult cause I love her she says she loves me and we want to be together but this baby doubt is killing me cause its more important to me than it seems to be to her..don't what to get into the rights or wrongs bout basis our future on the outcome cause I can't make that call..broken heart not a daddy..who I want daddy but till I know what I'm I gone do toss a coin I just wish I knew..Jesus we've discussed names and hers are shocking if it's not mine I'll have no influence on the names..that would be a disaster for the baby..joking apart thank for everyone's opioions I'm grateful for ur time to post back
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Answered by maggie22 - Nov. 29, 2012 8:06pm
paternity test is the only way you will find out....

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Answered by vegasbaby - Nov. 29, 2012 7:45pm
Thanks lala I agree I'll just need to see what they say tomorrow at scan most of what I've read indicates for a scan at 10 weeks within a week max would be pretty accurate so if it's after or about the 24th unlikely mine but if it's before let's say 18th then would mean more likely it's mine..well that's my logic anyway I'll just have to say to nurse predict the conception date and if ur right there will be something in it for her..why do we resort to humour when we're worried
..any more informed options welcome please

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