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Q: Should I stay, or should I go?

Last night my fiance and I got into a really horrible fight, that ended up getting physical on both our parts. The fight started because I wouldn't tell him in great detail about my day. (I am on bed rest, so my explanation consisted mostly of, I layed on the couch, I layed in bed, and I watched cartoons.) He got very angry and started accusing me of cheating on him, and all sorts of other horrible things. When I started getting very worked up, I told him to leave. That I couldn't take the stress. He then pounced on me, and not only hit me multiple times, face, abdomen, back, sides, but resorted to choking me when I fought back. He choked me into unconsciousness. When I came to, he was sitting on my belly, holding me down and screaming at me. This was the worse he has ever been in a fight, he has thrown me around before, but never made me fear for my life like this. I don't want my kids to have no dad, so I don't know, should I stay or should I go?

This question was asked Jan. 25, 2013 8:48pm
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Answered by firecracker11 - Jan. 25, 2013 9:37pm

Oh my goodness... not only should you leave immediatly, but you also should press charges!!! His behavior is unexceptable! He almost killed you... and put your baby at risk! I would going to the ER to make sure the baby is ok! Who knows what he did to you while you were passed out!!! Your baby will be better off without him!!! What happens if he turns his anger on to the baby after its born? GET OUT NOW!!! and as fast as you can!

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Answered by GemGem - Jan. 25, 2013 9:06pm

Im sorry if my message sounds harm but im felt so shocked with what I was reading. How far will you let it get? strangleation ? that could seriously harm you or worse kill you!!! please get help. My prayers are with you...

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Answered by a member - Jan. 25, 2013 9:30pm

go..absolutely! and dont go back! dont listen to him crying and begging you to stay or to come back...just go. this type of behavior always gets worse as time goes on... hes chocking you until you pass out now...then how far will he go later? if hes suspicious of you cheating while your on bedrest, what happens when you want a night out with your friends? or you get a text message from a co worker ? you wake up to a gun to year chest? sorry to be so blunt but this is a very dangerous situation. you need to get out of there and file a police report so he cant go for custody. i hate to think what a man like that will do to a cranky baby who wont stop crying. the best choice you can make as a mother is get yourself and your baby to safety.

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Answered by a member - Jan. 26, 2013 5:50am

Please get out! I have been in a simiilar situation....its hard to leave, I understand, but you will be a lot happier in life without him. I know you probably feel sorry and sad for him right now, but please call a friend or family and leave. If you don't have anyone close to you who can help, there are shelters and other places that would gladly help you. You will be a great Mum on your own....and will teach your kids how to treat others with love and respect. I am praying for you :)

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Answered by a member - Jan. 27, 2013 1:10am

Let me tell you this :( my mom suffered abused for 24 years thinking that my dad was going to change some daywell that day never came ! And she always thought that staying with him was the best for us .but if you want to know it was the worst thing she did for all of us its better not to have a dad like that around then an abusive husband and father. So think about it you can make it better for your kids you dont need no one like that in your life. Good luck hun!

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Answered by kCharleneS - Jan. 28, 2013 11:23pm

You first need to go to the hospital and get yourself and the baby checked out. Him hitting you in the abdomen, sitting on it, and then choking you until you passed which also cuts off the baby's oxygen supply is horrible. Then you need to have the police come, get them to press charges, have a police escort and get out. Get a restraining order. This is terrible. Especially with you being on bed rest.

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Answered by nikkiblueeyes - Jan. 26, 2013 12:17am

Get out while you can! What could happen next? You not waking up? Please leave as tough as it is it will do your children worse damage staying hun. Xxx

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Answered by lucyblue - Jan. 26, 2013 7:49pm

I think you very well know the answer to this question because it is painfully obvious. NOBODY should stay around someone like that. You are putting your life, your unborn child's life and your other children's lives in danger if you stay. Get out now hun...not just for yourself but for your CHILDREN. xo

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Answered by Bostonmama08 - Jan. 26, 2013 12:00am

Holy shit. Get OUT of that house. Please! Call your family....please get some place safe. Think about your baby...and the safety of the two of you. I would even call the police and press charges....get a restraining order. I am so sad for you....so sad. No one EVER should be treated like this! Especially a pregnant woman.

Please get somewhere safe.

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Answered by truestar070 - Nov. 8, 2013 2:44pm

You don't want you kid to have no dad BUT who wants a dad like him. LEAVE HIM ASAP before he hurts you and your baby really bad. Good luck girl xxx

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