Answered by Nicolelynn1733 - Mar. 1, 2013 11:23am
well guys i wanted to give an update and ty has came along. he wants to here for the baby and me and he said he is not going to let me put the baby up for adoption and that he was just scared. which i cant blame him hes only 18 but im so happy i was crying! thank you all for your support so much you guys will never know how much that meant to me! :)
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Answered by nikkiblueeyes - Feb. 26, 2013 10:07am
Nicole...your welcome and good luck. You will be fine :) x x x
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Answered by Nicolelynn1733 - Feb. 25, 2013 11:47pm
you all are so smart. im not sure what i would do if i had not found this website. im not going to give my baby up. i know in the future i will regret it alot. thank you all so much for opening my eyes up. <3
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Answered by a member - Feb. 25, 2013 4:30pm
Since I was little my mom always told me, If i had doubts regarding something- dont do it...I can feel that you do want this baby...your doubts are only coming from you ex who is an immature little boy that you dont want next to you...babies are from god...and there is this one saying that i heard not too long ago :" if god gave you a baby, god will give for the baby"....therefore,,,trust god..trust that everything will be ok, you will find a way to support and love that child..Men will come and go...but your little one that you carry inside of you for 9 months will always be your baby...remember that before choosing a man over a child...
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Answered by kelsamagoo - Feb. 25, 2013 3:45pm
If you have doubts now, you would never forgive yourself later. Giving your child up is a very, very hard process and you have to be 100% sure it's what you should do.
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Answered by nikkiblueeyes - Feb. 25, 2013 10:02am
He obviously does not want responsibility as he is clearly immature if i was you and wanted to keep the baby then thats what i would do, trust me you will be fine you will have the support from your family and him saying he will kill himself if he has to paychild support is am awful thing to say to you but im sure he just saying that to hurt you hun! My advice would be to do 100% what YOU want to do not what he wants to do as you will regret it for the rest of your life. If you keep your child i would tell him you are and make him pay for him/her but leave the door open for him to be in the childs life and dont cut all contact reason being you gotta think about when baby is older and starts asking about his/her father (it will happen) at least you can be the better person and tell your child you have never stopped him seeing him/her it was all his decision not to be in his/her life and that way baby wont ever grow up resenting you. Good luck hun xxx
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Answered by Rockabump - Feb. 24, 2013 11:31pm
Honey, I went through the same thing so if you want to talk, I am available. Just remember to keep yourself and the baby safe first! Also, don't ever do something just because someone else wants you to. You want to keep your baby.....then tat is your decision! You don't want to regret doing something for the happiness of someone else. Write me if you want.
HH 9 months!
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Answered by loveinme - Feb. 24, 2013 11:01pm
Oh my God! I feel so sorry for you. I would flash him out in toilet if I were in your place. I completely understand the feelings you have for your child. I feel the same way, and I could never give my child away because my boyfriend wants me to. Darling, trust your heart. Do you really need this kind of man in your life?
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Answered by a member - Feb. 24, 2013 10:15pm
It's your decision, your body. I hate to hear that about your ex fiance but he is also responsible whether he likes it or not. You need to dp right by yourself and figure out his role or lack thereof later. If you want to keep the baby then do so or your might regret it for the rest of your life. As for him, no matter what he is at the very least financially responsible for your baby (it takes two!) and hopefully he will want to at least be a part of the baby's life once it is born (if that is what is best for you and your little one). I wish you all the best!
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Answered by a member - Feb. 24, 2013 7:41pm
It will be hard to be a single parent, of course, but it sounds like you have a good support system - I'm sure you can do it!
This is your decision. You can take his opinion into account, but ultimately, you are the one who has to carry, deliver, and care for the baby once it is born, so you need to make the best decision for you and the baby.
If he doesn't like the idea of paying child support, well, I'm sorry, but he should have thought of that before getting you pregnant. It is his responsibility to care for this child too, even if just financially.
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