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Asked by shazanddamo

Q: Sympoms coming and going...

I had a mmc at 11w5 and was told baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks.I had some spotting and some back ache but was not expecting to hear I had miscarried. i had to go in for surgical removal.I then had one period sun 30th of Oct.Did a pg test on sun 27th (cycle had previously been 4 weekly) and it was positve did another a week later to double check and that was positive to ! Am so scared of things going wrong again and not knowing like last time. I called the midwife she gas booked me in for 22nd dec when I will be only 7 week and 5 and she said she will try and sort an early scan for me but they only do them if really needed ...but that there is nothin she can do until then. I am so scared every twinge I think something is going wrong I spend most of my day in tears I am driving myself insane ! My nipples were really sore for the past few days today is more of an achy heavy over all my boobs feeling .....is this normal ? Need to chat to other in simmilar or same situation please

This question was asked Dec. 7, 2011 2:08pm
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by ImACamp - Dec. 18, 2011 5:03am
I think the best thing for you to do is stop worrying. I am really glad that they got you in for a scan finally and that the baby looks good. If you estimated 5 weeks and are measuring a bit ahead, I would take that as a good sign, but you should still be able to lean on your OBs office. I really hope that they stop giving you problems. Have you tried to find a new one?

Relax and take it easy. Stressing out and worrying isn't going to do you any good.

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Answered by shazanddamo - Dec. 15, 2011 12:25pm
Hi all just thought I would update you all with the results of my early scan. There is a single intrauterine gestation sac containing a single fetal pole and yolk sac. A fetal heartbeat was seen. According to my Lmp i should be 6+4 but Ega was approx 5 weeks.
They did how ever find a small cyst of my left ovary whuch they said could explain left sided pain but said that could be due to ovulation and they will just monitor it and to try not to worry. I am obviously really pleased to have seen heart beat but cant stop worrying feel so irrational but last time I had a mmc had scan at 11+4 and was told nio heartbeat and was measuring 7 weeks so dont know how I am going to manage till 12 week scan. I want to be so happy to have seen heart beat etc but I cant I am worried if I get to excited I am setting myself up for a fall. A good heart beat this early must be good right ?? Sorry folks feel so helpless and silly. :-(



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Answered by shazanddamo - Dec. 9, 2011 8:19am
Midwife called me back she has got me a scan for next thursday morning when I will be nearly 7 weeks so I have got to try and relax till then. Will keep you all updated and am so grateful there are people to talk to. Its not my first pregnancy I had a daughter in 1996 and twin boys (non identical) in 2003 I am 35 years old now and this is my second marriage and will be my first baby with my new husband as was the miscarriage with him. Think thats why I am so paranoid as I dont remember having all these pains etc with either other pregnancy. I am really disappointed in the reaction from the midwife but the way things work here is your midwife is attached to your Gp surgery. I will have joint midwife and consultant care due to my medical history. One thing I will be checking when I go for my early scan is what my choices are regarding my midwife as calling me neurotic for wanting some reassuring blood tests after a miscarriage is hardly a good start to our relationship..........

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Answered by ImACamp - Dec. 8, 2011 3:09pm
It sounds like you need to find a different OB/GYN. There is no reason a midwife should treat you like that and there is no reason they can't check your HCG levels. If this is your first sticky pregnancy (you haven't had children before?) then they ought to know that you're going to be a bit "neurotic" about it, especially after a miscarriage. Find a new OB and tell them what you've experienced with this OB and your concerns with your pregnancy. Also ask right then if you could get your levels checked. That's the LEAST they can do when you're so worried like this. And, again, it is NORMAL to be worried like this, and they should know that. Good luck and keep me updated!

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Answered by a guest - Dec. 8, 2011 11:18am
Gutted the Midwife just called me back and said I was being a bit neurotic (is that how you spell it) asking for HCG blood tests. I said I was driving myself mad and also was getting a lot of pain. She eventually gave in and said she would call the hospital about me going in next week when I am 6 weeks to have an early scan but she said she didnt think the hospital would allow it. I said I have rung the Epau myself and they needed a referal from her or my Gp so why could she not do that for me. She said we all have aches and pains in pregancy and that I need to relax. She said to wait and she will call me back WHEN AND IF she gets a chance today.....

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Answered by shazanddamo - Dec. 8, 2011 8:54am
Thank you so much for all your replies just knowing I am not going mad helps ! I have phoned my Drs surgery today and am awaiting a call back from the midwife I am going to ask for either a referal to the Epau or for the Hcg monitering you have mentioned. I can not carry on like this its not good for me or the baby. We update again when the midwife has called me back. THANK YOU ALL x and fingers crossed for all of us x

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Answered by NewBeginnings79 - Dec. 8, 2011 1:02am
Sorry, ran out of characters... they also gave me an early u/s at 5wk when i was spotting, and I saw the gestational sac and yolk sac which were right on target. Even though you may not be able to get an u/s to help ease your mind, I would ask your doc to check your HCG levels.

Each day continues to be a roller coaster of emotions... I go from being so calm and happy to worrying about the littlest little pain, and end up crying over it, convinced that something is wrong. The one thing that has been keeping me sane lately, is realizing that as long as I am making healthy decisions everyday, there's nothing that I can do in the event that this pregnancy should god-forbid end in a miscarriage also. So, I am trying so hard to just appreciate each day that I am blessed with this pregnancy, and take it one day at a time. Other than that, it's out of my hands, and the control side of me needs to let go a bit. Hope this helps - sometimes it's helpful just to know you're not alone. xo

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Answered by NewBeginnings79 - Dec. 8, 2011 12:55am
Hi @shazanddamo. First of all, congrats on your pregnancy! I am very sorry to hear about your previous loss, and I think everything your feeling is unfortunately very normal after a loss. I lost my first pregnancy in August at 10.5 weeks. Similarly, I had a little bit of spotting, but no serious bleeding or heavy cramping that would indicate a miscarriage when I went in to be checked. Learning that my little bean no longer had a heartbeat was such a painful experience. I am now 5wk6d and I am completely in the same boat as you. I am so worried about every little ache, pain, pinch, twinge, or lack-there-of. I overanalyze all of my pregnancy symptoms, and wake up in the night trying to figure out if my boobs are as sore as they were the day before. On top of that, I had experienced very light spotting at the end of week 4, beginning of week 5. Fortunately, my doctors have been AMAZING! They have done a series of blood tests to measure my HCG levels, and they are rising very well.

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Answered by JLMarks - Dec. 7, 2011 8:28pm
I agree with Imacamp. We lost our son at 20 weeks last year and things where crazy for awhile. I was really worried at the start of this pregnancy as well. You should be able to go in and have your levels tested. I found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks as well. Try not to worry yourself crazy!

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Answered by Stellar222 - Dec. 7, 2011 4:48pm
I understand your worry and concern and think any of us would feel the same way. I try and think of every twinge as a "Hello, I'm still here" from my little gummy bear. haha Don't stress honey (easier said than done)...enjoy your little bean. *Luck and Prayers*

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