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Q: Then comes baby.....

Alright i think some ladies need a reality check (not trying to be rude, but u may take it that way) I just want to point out that there is a baby that comes after pregnancy. you dont just get through a pregnancy and go back to normal. so many women are complaining that they are sore, or tired, or just "done" being pregnant. well let me tell u, as a mother of 5, its alot easier to take care of the baby INSIDE the womb then out. after the pregnancy is "finally over" u get to deal with the after pain of delivery, living off no sleep (u think its bad trying to sleep while pregnant?, well ur in for it.) the pain of having your milk come in, the challenges of breastfeeding, the choices of circumcision, vaccination, and other debatable parental choices. the worry of "what if my baby gets sick" the list goes on. let me just say its TOTALLY worth every bit of it, but im just suggesting u do a little less concerning over the pregnancy (YES, that symptom IS normal)

This question was asked Mar. 19, 2013 3:40pm
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Answered by kCharleneS - Mar. 21, 2013 12:43am

because I've been through this before. But I come to this site and ask questions because I'm scared all the time. And I don't complain on any other site or to my family because of the fact that I'd rather do it to a site where other mothers know what I am going through. Physical therapy and seeing my doctor once a month only helps so much. I'd rather ask other women their opinions than go to the hospital or my doctor for every little thing.

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Answered by kCharleneS - Mar. 21, 2013 12:41am

This is my second child and the reason why I complain is because my hips are softening faster than they should be on top of chronic back pain so I hurt all the time. This pregnancy is also completely different than my last one. My last pregnancy I had zero issues besides one day of horrifying back pain. This time, I'm 24 weeks and we thought it was a tubal. Then the doctors thought it was a false positive on EVERY SINGLE test they had me take. I was sick all the time. Then I had a bleed that raised my chances of a miscarriage. Then at 12 weeks I started getting contractions so the hospital told me there was nothing I could do because they couldn't stop a miscarriage that early. I was almost hospitalized for severe rib pain that they thought was my gallbladder at about 20 weeks. Now I'm 24 and in constant pain and have constant blood sugar crashes. I complain because while I'm overjoyed about being pregnant, I'm freaking miserable. And obviously I know life won't go back to normal beca

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Answered by Lindsaytom - Mar. 20, 2013 9:41am

I definitely agree with the ladies saying this post is a waste....
This site is here to assist us through our pregnancies, firstly! And second of all, its a platform form us who are currently pregnant to connect with ladies all over the world and share our experiences on this journey.

I too am a Mother already and I'm having another one, and to read this irritates the hell out of me. You don't know what others have gone through. I suffered a miscarriage and prior to that had fertility problems. Which thankfully we overcame and fell pregnant 2 months after the miscarriage after a long time trying. So every experience is relevant and if it wasn't for the ladies who I chatted to I think I would have taken everything alot harder. But I could share this with others who were in the same boat and who had been through it.

Where are ladies moaning about thats to come. No we're living each day as it comes. And yes pregnancies come with challenges and so does Motherhood. WE KNOW THIS!

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Answered by nikkiblueeyes - Mar. 19, 2013 10:06pm

Apart from ladies who have never been pregnant before there are some ladies on here struggle to even have children so each time they get pregnant its a worry every twinge, pain, whatever is a concern to them and they want help and reassurance from this pregnancy website!! The last thing people need to read its a pointless essay about motherhood and how hard its going to be.

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Answered by a member - Mar. 19, 2013 9:24pm

Well first off, nobody here is saying pregnancy is more difficult than raising a baby... I have no idea what led you to that assumption and I have no idea where you came to the conclusion that women complaining on this site think life will go back to normal?
Maybe you should direct this towards a specific person because this really doesn't make sense how complaining about pregnancy symptoms has anything to do with women "needing a reality check"
And if you don't like reading it then this website isn't for you and maybe you should try baby center instead, because this is a pregnancy related website. That's why when you ask a question there's a category you can select on here called "symptoms and discomforts".
I seriously doubt even one person has specifically mentioned thinking life will "go back to normal".
And it's not just first time moms on here complaining, either... so this was just silly to have even brought up.

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Answered by a member - Mar. 19, 2013 8:06pm

As someone who already has children, I'd like to say that I think this post is silly. Pregnancy can be EXTREMELY stressful/tiring/painful for some women. Personally, I find being a parent so much easier than being pregnant; yes you're tired and have a lot to do, but at least you're body's your own again. Besides, you have the bonus of seeing your child smile every day. Moaning about pregnancy doesn't mean you think life "goes back to normal" - and it's important that women have an outlet for their feelings. Also, people who already have kids should be trying to reassure new parents - not detail all the 'impossibly difficult' parenting tasks ahead of them. I don't see how your comments are at all constructive or helpful.

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Answered by Barbie - Mar. 19, 2013 6:28pm

I agree with what you are saying but I think you're taking it a little out of proportion. This is a PREGNANCY website. Countdown my pregnancy, not count down my parenthood.
Of course people are going to come here to complain about pregnancy symptoms, that's why this site has a detailed overview of ALL of them. And when people need to complain about the pains of parenthood they will move onto another website...
For first time moms all of these symptoms are new and confusing, they know it's going to get so much harder and more painful- they know pregnancy is a piece of cake compared to raising a baby- but that doesn't mean complaining means they need a reality check. And they have the right to complain because it's scary and confusing and they don't have a baby to show for it yet, they can't kiss and touch baby yet.
It's like how people complain about high school - they all know college and getting a job will be a million times harder, but that doesn't mean they need a reality check.

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Answered by stephpan - Mar. 19, 2013 5:33pm

I totally agree with you - pregnancy is nothing compared to the lifetime we'll all hopefully have with our child - but I think (especially for first time mom's) it is hard and confusing. We have 10 months to focus on what is happening to and inside our bodies. Its hard not to worry and to be honest, I don't think there is anything wrong with that. I think that is what websites like this are helpful with - a place to come to without criticism and ask questions and get support.

While I agree with you that we should all take more time out to enjoy being pregnant and know that pregnancy is just the beginning of the parenthood journey, its also ok to complain about the process and the aches, pains, tiredness, and overwhelming emotions that come with it.

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Answered by a member - Mar. 19, 2013 4:26pm

i agree completely, im glad u didnt take this post the wrong way.

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Answered by lyssa787 - Mar. 19, 2013 3:56pm

I think there's some valid points in what you're saying. We do have to keep in mind that what we're going through has an end result that will also be work and joy. But for most of us on here now...all we know is what we've got goin on right now - pregnancy. yes kids can be hard to deal with and take a lot out of every family - emotionally and physically, but then you can SEE them, and TOUCH them. That's what we want. And I really think that's what makes pregnancy seem so unbearable at times. The end result is worth waiting for, but that doesn't make the wait easy.

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