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Asked by JessicaWall11

Q: Just need help from other mommies.

So going through divorce. Ex husband has his new girlfriend who hes been spending $100+ on a week. They are rubbing it in my face that they have money. I currently cant get a job, and already owe school money so I can do college. But the thing is with all his emotional abuse to me, is only making me stronger. I just want to be able to put my foot in the door and do something that will help me bring in money or do something to push it back in hs face that I dont need him. Im 20 weeks along with two girls that we both share custody over. I was just wondering if anyone had any suggestions? I would love the help.

This question was asked Aug. 24, 2013 10:31pm
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Answered by Luckymommyto5 - Aug. 25, 2013 11:52pm
I forgot to mention get a lawyer and mark down that your ex pays the attorney as well. Most judges are very happy to grant that request especially if you have evidence of his cheating nature before the divorce.

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Answered by kshives1027 - Aug. 25, 2013 10:56pm
First of all, good for you that you are choosing to not let him beat you down! Don't ever sink to his level. Second, since you aren't working, can't you apply for WIC or some other form of gov't assistance that will help you get by for the time being? My friend gets WIC and that helps with some of the basic necessities her sons need. Third, I agree with the others and you absolutely need to go to court and should be able to get some assistance on the lawyer side of things. They will order him to pay child support and if he is working, they may even garnish his wages automatically to send you the money without any unnecessary interaction having to happen between you two. If he isn't garnished and doesn't pay, he could end up in jail. You need to focus on getting that done for you, your daughters, and your little one on the way. If you do that, you will come out stronger than ever! Good luck!

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Answered by hopefullll - Aug. 25, 2013 12:24pm
I agree, don't focus any energy on trying to "get back" at him or rub anything in his face. The best revenge is living well, I know that sounds cheesy but it's true. Aside from that, look at it this way, if he thinks you're going out of your way to get back at him it's only going to reaffirm why he left right? I mean, who wants to be with a girl whose focus is trying to get even or stickin' to them? Take the high road, live well, pay no attention to what he and his girlfriend are doing and in the long run you'll come out looking like a shining star. Focus on getting things done through court, I know it's pricey but you'll be able to get free assistance so no worries there, plus, you'll be able to get proper child support. I know of a woman who refused to go to court because she didn't want to share custody so she just accepted whatever money he would give her. In return the kids suffered the most because she used them as leverage. Do not be this girl, whatever you do l

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Answered by Luckymommyto5 - Aug. 25, 2013 2:32am
Ignore the loser, concentrate on your lil ones and after the baby is born make sure you get full custody and also take him through the ringer as in child and spousal support. He's a dog and if he's making the money you say then trust me hell pay a lot. In my state child support office wanted to charge my ex almost $600 and we only had one child together so I'd stick it to that loser and when baby comes I'm sure you'll get a good job :)

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