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Asked by MDSmith16

Q: Husband checking out now that baby 4 is checking in......

When I announced that I was pregnant to my husband there was disbelief....honestly on both ends. I didn't think we were able to conceive because we have never prevented. Sadly I jumped on board, I included our kids (ages 13, 10, 7), I involved our families (openly). I embraced it. Decided on names early on, decided we would be have baby showers (baby 4 and it would be my first shower ever :O) Only to have DH pull away.....we haven't always had a perfect relationship, in fact before this pregnancy we were the best we've been.....now he's ignoring me, pulling away, not helping, drinking what I consider too much, being down right rude, mean, and nasty to me. Not holding accountability after his drunken nights. Its so bad, I slept on the couch last night. And now I find myself asking the questions....."do I leave?" "is this worth it with him?". I feel like this baby is a blessing in disguise for whatever reason where he I feel, thinks the other way. :/

This question was asked Aug. 1, 2016 10:52pm
Category: Relationships During Pregnancy

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Answered by Korenelm - Aug. 3, 2016 8:06pm
Pregnancy is different for men and women. My DH and I planned # 4 and he still has been very stone faced (he's the logical one, im the emotional one) because his mind goes to bills and providing. But once I said something he realized what a butt he was being and, it took a little while, but he snapped out of it. Talk to him, thats rule 1 of a good marriage. You have to talk to your spouse, they cant read minds. maybe he;s freaking out, 4th kid, lots of stress, starting over etc. But just go into the conversation with an open heart and listening ears. dont take it personally! his feelings count too!

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Answered by lrivera0927 - Aug. 2, 2016 4:33pm
My boyfriend and I were only together 4 months when I got pregnant. I found out when we were together for 5 months. It definitely was not planned.
Even though he claimed he was excited things started changing and every weekend he goes out and gets trashed. For some reason this week he has apologized and said he is going to get his act together. I am hoping he sticks to it and proves it to me. You have to decide on your own if its worth trying and waiting for him to get his act together.
I would try talking to him let him know how you feel. After that its all on him. If nothing changes, do what you have to do for you and your child. You two are the most important !

Goodluck!

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