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Being a single mom out there in a society is a challenge itself one must need to be so encouraged before making such a decision on her own. But it's nothing like this mom type parenting thing in the world it just worth it. You have a baby that listens to you see you as your idol try to be like you, speak like you. These things just take the fear away.

What a terrible situation. I wish things were different for you. The good thing is you already have everything you need to take care of a new baby. If you want to keep the baby, consider breast feeding and cloth diapering. That will cut down on your expenses a LOT. If you agree that the expense of raising another child is just too much for you, I agree with everyone else. Consider adoption. There may even be someone in your own family who has wanted a child but has been unable to have one. If so, you could have an open adoption where you still get to see the child grow up and be a part of the child's life, allowing someone else the responsibility of finances, etc. Or, you could consider a closed adoption as well. Your baby has a heart beat, fingers, eyes...allow the baby the rest of its life. Yes, God has allowed this for a reason, and I promise that reason is NOT for you to choose abortion. Praying for you! Keep us posted.

Only you can make this choice. Abortions are around 400-500$ depending on where you live, but that is a lot less than the cost of a child. That said, since you recently just had a child, the costs will be somewhat less because you can reuse a lot of the items and clothing.

You also need to think about your future and being able to provide for the child you already have. Are you enrolled in school or working? Can you afford the time off that giving birth will require?

If you really want the baby then absolutely keep it, but be prepared to be a single mom if your boyfriend decides to shirk his responsibilities. You can get child support out of him but nothing takes the place of another set of hands. He may come around but you cannot depend on that.

Also, no matter what you decide, I would recommend trying some new birth control, perhaps the nuva ring (which you can leave in most of the time) or an IUD, since the pill does not seem to be working for you. Good luck to you!

Abortions can be expensive but paying for a child the rest of your life is as well. And if you can't afford it the rest of us foot the bill. If you cannot afford the child I would consider adoption. I would not let a man influence you but I also wouldn't let the fact that he mentioned it make you get defensive and decide to keep the baby for yourself out of spite. I am not pro abortion or pro life. I am pro GOOD life. If you cannot provide a good life, then you should find someone who can. Everything does happen for a reason and I have had friends that have had abortions before their current kids and after. None of them regret it but it's not to say they will ever be happy that they had to make the decision. I think it's something YOU should think about logically. I don't want to sway you one way or the other as ONLY YOU truly know what's best for YOU and YOUR family! God bless, sending prayers your way!

I would never consider an abortion. The two of you knew what you were doing when this baby was conceived. I am sorry to say but it's not the baby's fault. If you just can't afford another baby money wise just consider giving the baby to a couple which can't have children. Just image the innocent life of a baby being terminated just to make you or your boyfriend comfortable. Im sorry I don't agree. We need to take responsibility of our actions. What does this baby have less then your other son. Absolutely NOTHING. SO I'm sorry to say this but if your boyfriend is considering an abortion he doesn't care about you or even love you. Please just think about it just give the baby up for adoption. when time passes your baby will be grateful to you you didn't end his life. Just make another family happy if you don't have another choice, but sorry abortion is not an available choice. You should never consider it.

Boyfriends may come and go, husbands may come and go but a child s love is here to stay..

I definitely wouldnt let anyone influence me into ending one life just to make another life easier. I've had friends who have done this and they've regreted it ever since. I think that it is a blessing and that you should listen to your heart and how you feel because it is your body and your child after all. I'm pregnant and in college right now and have absolutely no income other than grants and loans but even though I'm not well off financially doesnt effect my thoughts on this child, I personally believe that money is not everything and that love is the greatest gift you could give your child. I also believe that if you were to abort that it would also have a negative impact on your other child if they were to find out when they got older. I dont think it is ever called for to take another persons life, no matter what the circumstance. It sounds like your boyfriend has issues as well if he would push you to take your childs life, thats not very loving

Being a huge believer in pro life I would honestly give this little blessing a chance. Like the other comments if you unable to support another child at this time maybe consider an open adoption? Every child deserves a fighting chance and everything happens for a reason :) It's something you will always regret and think about if you do choose abortion. If your boyfriend didn't want any more children at this time then he should have used methods to prevent any pregnancy. Good luck darling!

I wouldn't abort. There are other options if raising two children isn't in the cards for your family.

if you feel like you want to keep the baby, Then i would. I wouldn't let anyone even my boyfriend influence the decision in whether or not and to keep that baby. Its you're body and so the choice is up to you, and its something you'll have to feel comfortable living with. Like faith17 said regret is a killer so whatever you decide make sure you're fully committed to that choice so you have no regrets later.