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Asked by Hollena

Q: Crying/depression

I've been crying a lot within the past two weeks. I got fired in February due to having panic attacks/missing work for it. I supposedly conceived in February when I got fired. I've been severely depressed because I don't have the money and it is stressing me out. When we were planning I had a good job and plenty of money. Am I harming the baby by crying? What job could I do with my panic attacks? I don't want to keep being depressed like this. I feel like everything is falling apart, I'm getting married next month and my car is due for an oil change. I saved up a lot of money within my six months of working but its all gone because of being unemployed. Any advice on good jobs for pregnancy?

This question was asked Apr. 17, 2017 12:04am
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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 29, 2018 9:29am
Well Don't be worry. It's not the only way. of course there's another way for that. Just be confident. You are at such a young age and everything is in your favor. Just consult with your doctor who knows your case better and that way you are going to be a mom. You are having a good cycle. The problem is literally low. Consultation with expert could give you much hope.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 4, 2018 1:54pm
Why are you crying dear. Crying is not good. Everything you see crying just makes it blurred. You just need to be relaxed my friend. Everything is great for you. Just think positive. You know our thoughts make a great impact on our actions in life. Being optimistic would give you great thoughts. Than you see everything will be good. Never cry. It's not going to help.

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Answered by andycooper5 - Aug. 18, 2017 8:54am
I would suggest you take help real soon. This is normal with as many conditions as you are under with, but again, you can't accept to live as you are living. You have a bright future ahead of you and you must take care of that. I know being broke is a serious problem if you are going to have a baby, soon. Please try to contact a mental health specialist. You should talk about the same with your fiance, chances are he can be the biggest support for your loneliness and anxiety. You can start several jobs while sitting at home. YOu can start online content writing, or give tuitions. Some of the less tiring work. I would suggest you choose work from home, conditions. It is safer for you, and work can help reduce your stress and anxiety.

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Answered by andycooper5 - Aug. 18, 2017 8:48am
Hello Hollena,
We live in the 21st century and the world still has not come to real terms with mental illness. I wish, there could be a punishment for people who discard people with mental illness. And it is spontaneous, and, can happen for many reasons. Nobody wants to be not sane. Who enjoys being depressed, and, the sickening feeling as if the whole world is coming to an end and falling apart. The terrifying and horrific lonely feeling. It is really disheartening and damaging. And especially in your case, dear, you are at more risk with a baby in your womb. Trust me or not, it has not stayed unknown a fact that the baby growing within you feels everything that you experience. Even if you are happy, sad, depressed it feels everything. And the nature and personality of the baby develop its base during the 9month duration when he feels what you feel. I know, it sounds easy said than done a job, but you have to get help as soon as you can or else it can putserious effect in your life.

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Answered by Mammoth - Apr. 21, 2017 6:47pm
Just want to add that becoming pregnant, leaving your job and getting married are all big life events and it is natural that you would be feeling stressed/ emotional right now. Do seek out friends/ family who you can lean on. I'm sure they will want to help you. You will be amazed at how excited and supportive people can be when they learn you are pregnant.

Be gentle with yourself and enjoy your wedding day!

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Answered by Mammoth - Apr. 21, 2017 6:44pm
As for the best jobs for while you are pregnant, I would say that leaving your job now is unfortunate as you won't qualify for statutory maternity pay (UK). So the next best thing will be something that you feel good about, that helps you to stay calm and feel safe and allows some level of flexibility.

I'm a supply teacher (= substitute teacher if you're in the US) these days and love the freedom to turn down work. While this isn't the sort of job you can just suddenly do, there are agencies you can sign up for who will find you work and the beauty of this is that you don't quite know where you'll be from day to day - and you can also refuse work. That could be ideal.

I found that I have slept poorly and had a rubbish brain over the pregnancy, so something that is fairly mindless would actually be welcomed! GL

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Answered by Mammoth - Apr. 21, 2017 6:39pm
I would have thought that it would be illegal to fire someone who has suffered a mental health issue and that a doctor's note might have helped you to challenge this.

However, my main concern for you is that you seem to be feeling overwhelmed and anxious. Can I suggest that you get some counselling? I trained as a counsellor and as part of the process, I had to do counsellng myself. I really did find it very beneficial. There are practitioners who specialise in anxiety and can help you to reduce your panic attacks.

Here in the UK, I would say look for someone who is BACP accredited as it ensures they have a certain level of training and experience, but it depends what country you are in. Also, here in the UK, it is possible to get referred to a counsellor through your GP, though the NHS tends to favour CBT, which is just one type of therapy.

I trained as psychodynamic and had counsellors who were CAT, psychodynamic and Core Process. All were excellent in different ways.

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