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Asked by jilly6768

Q: Infertile

Hello everyone! I have been reading a lot on this forum and from all this reading I found out that I am not the only one who is suffering from infertility problems. I come from a family where every woman has had normal pregnancies and get to have babies very easily. But in my case, I have been trying for 10 years and still don't have any children. My doctor has declared me to be infertile for unknown reasons. I have gone through IUI 2 times but failed both times. Thinking about going for IVF this time as my doctor has suggested. I do not know much about the whole process. I am scared of another failure. I know stress can mess up everything for me again but I just cannot help it. I cannot ignore all the judgment that is passed onto me due to my infertility. I have not told my whole family about IVF yet, I think they will make a fuss about it and make me feel uncomfortable. I hope to get some positive comments and some support over here. I would really appreciate some help.

This question was asked Feb. 3, 2018 11:03am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by tenny99 - Jul. 15, 2018 8:36am
Hi, How are you doing? I am really sad to know about your problems. You are a strong woman. You faced a lot. Infertility is hard to face. I was infertile too. I was so depressed. There was darkness in my life. Then I came to know about a clinic in Ukraine. We went there. I told them my problem. After seeing my medical reports they suggested surrogacy. The clinic is very good. Its services are up to the mark. They really helped me. They gave moral support as well. They told me how to stay strong. They tell every procedure step by step. This clinic is very helping. Good luck to all.

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Answered by Olivia29 - Jun. 26, 2018 8:52pm
According to me. I would say that if a woman is infertile, then, surrogacy or IVF treatments are the best options. There are many clinics that one could go to. But you should always consult your doctor first and then take the initial step. You should not stress about this. My friend had a sister who was infertile. And thus after spending thousands on doctors and what not. She finally planned to go for surrogacy. They did their research, and then after waiting for over a year they had a baby through a surrogate mother. Obviously the process is lengthy and it costs a lot too. But the end result is satisfactory, and it will make you happy. :) My best wishes are with you. And i hope you find the best solution. Lots of wishes. Love.

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Answered by Olivia_1990 - Jun. 26, 2018 7:35pm
Hey Jilly! I can understand the pain you are going through. Hope it gets easy on you. I am suffering from hysterectomy myself. It is a very painful experience because at one point you give up on all hopes. However, I had a support from my family and friends because no one can blame you for this. I had my first child through IUI after several tries. However, I am not here to discourage you regarding IVF but a more safe option would be surrogacy. Because IVF can fail at times but I have seen many successful surrogacy cases. I am also opting for surrogacy for my second child. Let us know how your experience goes! Good luck!

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Answered by SelenaJones - Apr. 12, 2018 3:51pm
Hi Jilly. Oh yes! I agree it's not easy to go through all that. I'm also in the same situation as you. Everyone has conceived normally in my family. So, yeah! No one supported me enough for this whole period. But, this year finally, I've decided to undergo an IVF at a center of repro in Ukraine. I'm going for it in June. My DH is supporting me. So, finally! I'll also advise you to go through it. It's not an issue! I know how tense it makes a person. Don't be nervous! Just go for it! It will give you a better result I hope. Stay blessed. xx

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Answered by Blessed75 - Apr. 12, 2018 2:26pm
It is extremely sad. I can't believe that despite all this you developed the courage of bringing your problem before the forum. It is so hurting to learn that your plans crashed twice. Once you are infertile you try to go for anything. There is hope associated with what you do. This compelled you to try IUI not once but twice. It is unfortunate that it didn't turn up the way you wanted it. Now you are planning to go for IVF. I hope it will be a great option. It has been a great success for the infertile couples. You can also try going for surrogacy. A proper decision can be made only when you get tested. The fertility clinics check for the success of the procedures after going through certain screening tests. These tests reveal that how far you are able physically to support a procedure. I hope that future holds some really great news for you

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Answered by eva890 - Apr. 11, 2018 6:31pm
Hey there. I hope you're good. It's totally fine to feel anxious before trying something new. I'd suggest, first of all, to relax. Secondly, I would suggest you consider all your options. You've got surrogacy, in the pipeline, as well. Surrogacy might seem like a better option in your case. It is a much safer option as compared to IVF. Plus, you haven't exactly mentioned what your infertility really is. If you're having problems in fertilizing the eggs, then your best option is probably going for IVF. Similarly, if you can't carry the child, then you can always opt for surrogacy. Both options have a very good success rate. A lot of good clinics offer their services, especially this one in Ukraine. However, it is a big decision to make. I'd suggest you consider all your options and don't rush it. Good luck to you!

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Answered by Emilykingston - Apr. 11, 2018 6:12pm
Dont think too much. If you think it will cause you stress. Then go for some other method. Why dont you try surrogacy? It has a fair shot for you. I am sure your family will support it too.Wish you best of luck.

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Answered by TaylorF - Apr. 11, 2018 5:02pm
Why do families not understand? Infertility is already difficult to deal with. We don't need more stress. It's good that you've let your family know about it. But you know, it's your and your husband's decision to make. I had infertility too. Still, have it, but am a parent now. I became a parent through surrogacy. I didn't even have the choice to get IVF. I had to get my ovaries removed. Endometriosis was messing things up. My family was frowning at the mention of surrogacy. But my husband stood strong by my side. You know, it doesn't matter how a baby is born. What matters is that it's your baby.

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Answered by Pamela123 - Apr. 11, 2018 2:31pm
Really sorry to hear about your story. You had gone through very hard times in your life but you are not only one who is facing all these issues. There are many women out there in this boat. Ignore all those dickheads who say wrong about you. This society is full of these kinds. These treatments are kind of hope for women who are facing infertility issues. IUI and IVF are doing great for infertility but still, they are bit risky and success rates also less and it matters from ages to ages and from women health and condition. It’s ok if you weren’t able to get positive results in your IUI treatment. It is not the end, there are other options too. It’s good that now you are looking for IVF. It will surely work for you. If things didn’t work well you should prepare yourself for others consequences. There are other options too so just be hopeful. Surrogacy in this regard is doing great and producing great results. Hope everything works well for you. Good luck.

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Answered by Akane966 - Mar. 31, 2018 12:56pm
According to me surrogacy is the best solution to infertility.i'm new here.I'm from Japan.We moved to Europe to find our heaven.
Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i'm infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine.
In ukraine we found a very good clinic.
Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters.
We are so excited and happy.
Feedback and suggestions much admired.


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