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Asked by jilly6768

Q: Infertile

Hello everyone! I have been reading a lot on this forum and from all this reading I found out that I am not the only one who is suffering from infertility problems. I come from a family where every woman has had normal pregnancies and get to have babies very easily. But in my case, I have been trying for 10 years and still don't have any children. My doctor has declared me to be infertile for unknown reasons. I have gone through IUI 2 times but failed both times. Thinking about going for IVF this time as my doctor has suggested. I do not know much about the whole process. I am scared of another failure. I know stress can mess up everything for me again but I just cannot help it. I cannot ignore all the judgment that is passed onto me due to my infertility. I have not told my whole family about IVF yet, I think they will make a fuss about it and make me feel uncomfortable. I hope to get some positive comments and some support over here. I would really appreciate some help.

This question was asked Feb. 3, 2018 11:03am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 4, 2018 1:18pm
Well what can I say I am really sorry for your condition. Still you see it's not some sort of family problem. If it is happening with you it doesn't mean that it is inherited issue. This could happen to anybody dear. Still you can go for many other things as well. Now a days allot of other techniques are there. You can always go for them. I am wishing you best of luck dear. Take care allot.

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Answered by EmilyRossum - Mar. 7, 2018 6:31pm
Hi, Jilly. How are you. Hope you're doing good. I just wanted to say that don't worry I know it's a lot of stress. But there are thousands of people going through the same situation. Procedures like IVF and surrogacy have made life so much easier. I also didn't conceive for 3 years. Then I finally decided to contact a clinic. And they suggested to me to go for surrogacy. They found me a surrogate mother. And the whole process went smoothly. So I'd suggest you to go for it too. Hopefully you'll have a good experience. You'll feel how it is to be a mother. This new technology has helped so many people across the globe. I am sure it'll help you too. Much love. Good luck

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 15, 2018 3:13pm
I think IVF would be best for you. See this is the kind of problem that is so much viral these days. I think every 2 mothers out of 100 are facing the same issue. Still it gives something to science. If that problem was not so much viral than how could there be so much innovations in the world. I think it's something. Well yes go for IVF. Just make sure that if you are planning to go to some clinic for the package than just try to take the multicycle process. I think that would be really well for you. I just think so. Other than that you are just good to go. Be always happy dear. I wish a life time of happiness with you. May you be well always.

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Answered by anjalika - Feb. 18, 2018 4:08pm
Thank you for your help and concern loris. I am happy that I got to find the solution to my problem. I have been reading many IVF success stories. They really help me to keep going. Support from people like you really means the world to me. Thank you so much for the clinic suggestion. I have read a great deal about it too. I also searched for it on youtube and got to watch some videos by them. Through the comment section, I contacted people that got their treatments done from there. All the responses are very nice. Just digging more information about the packages affordability.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Feb. 5, 2018 4:36am
Hi there, I hope you are good. I hope you find this at your best. Please try and think that what could be the possible reason. Some food you get. Something that is never happened before. You took supplement before or never. Any reason could cost this you. I must say you need to be careful now. I am really sorry for you dear. May you get well soon. My all prays are with you. I wish everything good happened for you. Best of luck.

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Answered by rihana012 - Mar. 21, 2018 2:08pm
Hey. You are at right place to know about it. I have a daughter through surrogacy. It is a safe and simple process to have babies. If you cannot conceive or you cannot maintain pregnancy you can go for surrogacy. People who face infertility always go for surrogacy. It is legal in many countries. But the thing you have to keep in your mind is that you should opt the best clinic for it. The clinic's matter a lot. I went for surrogacy from Europe. I was given the best surrogate. It's never easy for surrogate when she realizes that she is going to give birth to someone else baby. I faced fertility problem 7 years and after that, I was blessed with the daughter. We should respect such woman who does it someone happiness. I am happy that I and my DH are now happy parents.

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Answered by Meezee - Mar. 24, 2018 4:23am
I feel really sorry for what happened with you. I was infertile and there were very few chances. Like you i was struggling for ten years and hence doctor recommended me surrogacy as i was getting old so i searched for surrogacy clinics in Europe and there found many clinics. After all those struggling now i have twins. I hope you come up with good decision. Best of luck for your future.

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Answered by anjalika - Feb. 18, 2018 3:48pm
It has been a long time Jilly since you have been TTC. I do not know how have you coped with everything all this time. Women are known for their patience and you my friend, are a great example for all of us. Even after 10 years of trying you haven't given up and I really respect you for that. I have seen couples who give up after 2 - 3 years and spend their lives sadly.I am very glad that you are still trying. Your choice of IVF is a good one. I work as a part-time nurse in the local hospital in the gyne ward. I have seen people getting their babies through IVF. The site of their happiness is really worth watching. Try watching some success stories on youtube, they will make you feel good. Do not care about what people say or think as it is your life and your happiness matters the most. But remember one thing, the choice of the clinic matters a lot. Do not get your IVF done from any local clinic, your experience might not go well. Search for the best, you can contact me for help.

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Answered by emma_grey - Mar. 23, 2018 10:29am
Dear mate, you have suffered a lot. Life is the name of hardships but strong is the one who face them. One who don’t kill you makes you stronger. As you have mentioned, it proves that you don’t have any genetic issues. Still you are facing infertility may be due to some health issues. If you have ever faced some consequences like this or may have an accident. Well my sympathy is with you. I have read many people sharing their experience here and much of them have mentioned that they had face failure for over more than times but still they had success at the end. The other option left is adoption, but having your own baby is always best. IVF is also an option but it’s very technical process and have very low success rates. I think you should give IUI another chance and this time choose some well reputed clinic. Because IUI has maximum success rates and I hope it will work for you this time. Blast of luck!

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Answered by jilly6768 - Mar. 4, 2018 4:06pm
Hey NeovictoriaMom, thanks for the reply.
My husband got checked last week. Everything is good with him. It is now obvious that the problem lies with me. I am really not happy with my current doctor.
I feel like I do not get the amount of attention that's necessary for my case. But I do not have many options. This one is the only nice one I know about.
Feel free to suggest a doctor if you know of any.

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