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Asked by pheobe412

Q: I want to hide what I am facing, but how?

Hi there guys, how are you. I hope you all are doing okay and I wish you find my post at your best. I am finished now. My life is over. When I look at myself now a days it seems like life never did justice with me. Why me. Why all the time just me. I am really sorry that I got little emotional. Only option that is left for me is surrogacy. I want to keep it a secret. I don't want anyone to know about this. I am really sorry for this but this is the way it is. Please help me how could It's possible. I am related to show business so I have to keep it secret. It's already very complicated I don't want to make it more. Please help.

This question was asked Feb. 4, 2018 11:17am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by pheobe412 - Feb. 18, 2018 3:29pm
Hi crystal. Well dear what can I say. I am stressed because I am so much worried. I want to hide it. I am unable to find a way that how could I do this. Every way seems difficult. I can't take help from anyone. That is why I am on this forum. Asking you guys. Hope now you understand why I am worried. Please help me.

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Answered by CharlotteMick - Jul. 11, 2018 5:34pm
Hi there. I am so sorry to hear you are going through turbulence. Life is a see saw. Just when you think you are on top you get instantly to the bottom But please remember there is a top after that bottom again. So whatever you are facing be strong. And if you want to go for surrogacy, it might be helpful in the long term if you do it openly. Embrace yourself and own you choices bravely. Your baby if and when you get one will be proud of you. I opted for surrogacy myself. But a free advice is that if you decide to go down this path, the in order to avoid further heartache please do proper research before hand. i was nearly scammed by lotus clinic in the process. I wouldnt recommend that non serious and no professional team to anyone.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Feb. 18, 2018 3:28pm
Well Kathy truly you are great, I know what you said is correct. I am happy for you. Your husband supported you and you got what you want. I have problem exactly here. My husband is very supportive of me. I have no problem from his side. What my problem is. I can't show it to the world. You know I am related to the world where it's not possible. If anyone knows what I am going through. It's going to be a big disaster for me. I just want to hide it. I don't want anyone to know about it. I know about the clinic. You know I went there as well. I don't know what to do. I tried to talk to them about my condition. It was really difficult for me to talk to them as well. It's like I have no strength. I don't know what to do. It's really difficult for me. I want help in this regard. Can you suggest me some more things.

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Answered by tressalee - Jun. 22, 2018 2:16pm
Hello. hope you are good? I am glad to know that you are planning surrogacy. Go for it. Your doctor took care of your privacy and everything. Don't worry. your business will be not affected. One day you will have your own child. good luck and take care.

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Answered by HattieAdams - Feb. 26, 2018 3:31am
Hey there phoebe. I can understand. You're going through a very difficult phase of life. There's no shame in it really. Many celebrities had their babies through surrogacy. They are telling it to the whole world. Baby is a blessing from God. You don't need to hide it. Much Love!

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 19, 2018 3:23pm
Hi Ella, I am glad you answered. It's really not good for me. I tried very much. It's not easy for me to calm down. I am trying my best. I don't know what else I should do. Just thinking about leaving everything. I know nothing is going to happen for me. I am so much depressed now.

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Answered by jilly6768 - Feb. 8, 2018 4:15pm
Hello there. I am very sorry that you have to go through such kind of mental pressure right now. You seem like a very nice person to me. When everything in life is going wrong from a very wrong time then the person starts to doubt himself and after that, he starts to blame himself for everything that is happening wrong in his/her life. I think you are going through the worst part of that phase. I request you to stop doubting your self as that will just make the situation even worse for you and you will end up being depressed all the time and depression my friend is the most difficult kind of disease to get rid of. Keeping your profession in mind, surrogacy seems like a nice option for you. You have already found the solution to your problem, I am not sure what you are still so worried about. Give your decision some time, think about it, find the perfect place to get it done from and I am very sure that everything will turn out to be fine for you. Do some research on the internet.

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Answered by jennyjoe - Mar. 23, 2018 5:00pm
Hi there! I'm sorry you're going through this. Please remember you're not alone. You have so many with you, if not your friends then us over here. That's the good thing about these forums. Also, you're not the only one going through this. Surrogacy is a great option for you. The clinic I went to for mine was very supportive and nice. They offer discretion too. That'll be great in your field. Wishing you all the best. Go for it!

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Answered by Hayleh - Jul. 7, 2018 2:33pm
Hey Pheobe! May your heart and soul find comfort. How are you doing now? I am really sad to hear about your loss. But try to stay positive, you can make it through. Gather your hope and courage for the future. Life is a great blessing than any of others. If you are alive then you can make it through anything. Just stay positive. There is the option of surrogacy you can opt. Don't stress out and take your decision with the cold mind. You are not alone here, I am with you. I also experienced many miscarriages and conceived my baby through IVF. I know a clinic in Europe they'll provide you with all your needs. They also have surrogate mothers too. I am always here for you. Keep me updated about your condition dear. Take care of yourself.

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Answered by Olivia_1990 - Jun. 26, 2018 7:34pm
Hey Phoebe! It is very sad to see you so heart-broken. Do not give up so soon Sweetie. It is a part of life and there are many women going through miscarriages and infertility. I myself am an infertility victim. It is a very emotional experience but one must stand strong to face such problems. Never lose hope or never stop believing in yourself. Consult doctors and ask for their suggestions. I am suffering from hysterectomy and I am also looking forward to going for surrogacy. No feeling can be better than completing your family. So do try other options and do not feel embarrassed. I hope you stay strong in such times. You can always use these forums for further help. We are just a text away from you! Good luck and take care!

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